Recently, my friends and I went to a sorority function. It took place at a bar, but the entire bar was rented out for the sorority sisters and their guests. Not too many people brought male dates. There wasn't any specific reason for that; we just wanted to spend the night with our girls.
However, my roommate brought a date: her boyfriend. Everyone loves her boyfriend, too, so he definitely had a positive presence that night.
At the function, my roommate had a blast. She was singing her heart out and dancing so much. Her boyfriend looked so happy watching her enjoy her night. That's how a boyfriend is supposed to react, though, right? Apparently not.
I put up a story of my gorgeous roommate dancing on my Snapchat story and, unsurprisingly, many guys had a lot of kind things to say about her. Of course, I'd let them know that she had a boyfriend and most of them weren't surprised by that. But one person in specific caught me off guard.
He commented under my story asking if my roommate had a boyfriend, so I told him that she does. His response was "Dang. She probably shouldn't be dancing like that then."
First off: who are you to express your opinion on how someone should have a good time?
I wouldn't rant about this, especially publicly, if it was something that I didn't think was an issue. Here's why I think it's quite an issue: he would have had an entirely different answer if I had told him that my roommate was single. It's sad, but it's true.
Just because a girl has a boyfriend does not mean that they can't still have a good time. Single guys get more hurt over taken girls going out and having a good time than boyfriends do.
If my roommate's boyfriend had a problem with her innocently dancing with her sorority sisters, well, he was standing right behind her, so he could have told her. He did not need a guy that neither he nor his girlfriend knows to give his input on how she should be acting since she has a boyfriend.
Guys, time and time again, will make comments along the lines of "if my girlfriend... then I would break up with her."
Normally, it is about small things, that should not even be an issue in the first place. Maybe those same people can stop and reflect for just a moment. They might even come to realize that their opinions and stances on how their figurative girlfriend should or should not act might be part of the reason that they don't have a girlfriend in the first place.