Just Because A Girl Has A Boyfriend Doens't Mean They Can't Have A Good Time

Just Because A Girl Has A Boyfriend Doens't Mean They Can't Have A Good Time

Single guys get more hurt over taken girls going out and having a good time than boyfriends do.


Recently, my friends and I went to a sorority function. It took place at a bar, but the entire bar was rented out for the sorority sisters and their guests. Not too many people brought male dates. There wasn't any specific reason for that; we just wanted to spend the night with our girls.

However, my roommate brought a date: her boyfriend. Everyone loves her boyfriend, too, so he definitely had a positive presence that night.

At the function, my roommate had a blast. She was singing her heart out and dancing so much. Her boyfriend looked so happy watching her enjoy her night. That's how a boyfriend is supposed to react, though, right? Apparently not.

I put up a story of my gorgeous roommate dancing on my Snapchat story and, unsurprisingly, many guys had a lot of kind things to say about her. Of course, I'd let them know that she had a boyfriend and most of them weren't surprised by that. But one person in specific caught me off guard.

He commented under my story asking if my roommate had a boyfriend, so I told him that she does. His response was "Dang. She probably shouldn't be dancing like that then."

First off: who are you to express your opinion on how someone should have a good time?

I wouldn't rant about this, especially publicly, if it was something that I didn't think was an issue. Here's why I think it's quite an issue: he would have had an entirely different answer if I had told him that my roommate was single. It's sad, but it's true.

Just because a girl has a boyfriend does not mean that they can't still have a good time. Single guys get more hurt over taken girls going out and having a good time than boyfriends do.

If my roommate's boyfriend had a problem with her innocently dancing with her sorority sisters, well, he was standing right behind her, so he could have told her. He did not need a guy that neither he nor his girlfriend knows to give his input on how she should be acting since she has a boyfriend.

Guys, time and time again, will make comments along the lines of "if my girlfriend... then I would break up with her."

Normally, it is about small things, that should not even be an issue in the first place. Maybe those same people can stop and reflect for just a moment. They might even come to realize that their opinions and stances on how their figurative girlfriend should or should not act might be part of the reason that they don't have a girlfriend in the first place.

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.


If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.


Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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