Here Are The Dating Apps College Kids Say Will Actually Lead To A Meaningful Relationship
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Dating apps often get a bad rep. People say anything from they make you look too overeager and desperate or are just the fast track to a one night stand, and don't get me wrong they can and are not always going to be sunshine and rainbows.

Dating apps are often going to find you a casual hookup before your soulmate but there are, however, some dating apps that are good for relationships, and though they are somewhat few and far between, I asked 20 college women the dating app to a meaningful relationship and they all seemed to agree.

1. Bumble



According to Bumble's mission statement, "Bumble is a social network that allows you to feel empowered while you make those connections, whether you're dating, looking for friends, or growing your professional network. One first move on Bumble could change your life.

"When members of the opposite sex match on Bumble, women are required to make the first move, shifting old-fashioned power dynamics and encouraging equality from the start."

And equality is exactly what college-aged women are looking for in their romantic relationships. Whether they wish the number of sexual partners they've had would not deem them a "slut" or "whore" or to simply share home responsibilities such as cooking and cleaning, college women want to feel empowered and to feel equal.

One UCLA student said, "I think the fact that women get to make the first move is pretty great because we get to establish how we want to move forward and approach the person of interest on our terms."

"I just respect men on Bumble more," a BU grad shared. "It's clear when a guy signs up for Bumble he isn't intimidated by a woman pursuing him and maybe he's seeking someone who is strong and independent. I like that."

"I met my boyfriend on Bumble and he's f*cking dope. I knew from the start he had my back and was going to be loyal and even the guys I matched with on Bumble who didn't turn out to be the one, they were chill too," a UConn Odyssey writer said.



And even the creators on Odyssey across the country love Bumble. Writer, C.C. Promsatian came clean to her family in her Swoon article about meeting her S.O. on Bumble.

"Yes, the word is out, I met my boyfriend on Bumble. Y'all, I've been lying to my family for a solid minute so it feels good to come clean," C.C. said.

To be honest, though, most apps, even Tinder, can lead to a pretty great relationship, as long as you are super clear about what you're looking for in your profile and don't hold it against someone when their intentions don't perfectly align with you're own.

"The apps are all great if you go about it the right way," a student at NYU said. "I always go into messaging matches assuming they want exactly the opposite that I do and if they're looking for the same then great. In the past, I've had matches make fun of me for wanting something substantial and that's not cool, you have to respect everyone's boundaries and I try not to get pissed when I am feeling a guy only interested in sex."

And if swiping right and messaging first aren't your thing, don't rule out other forms of online dating.


Sarah Ursum

Odyssey writer, Sarah Ursum met her boyfriend when he slid into her DM's on Twitter.

"But on the fateful day in November of 2014, he became a classic millennial boy and decided to shoot his shot in my DMs. He didn't just try the classic "hey" but went all out with a cheesy pick-up line, and boy, did it work," Sarah said in her article on Swoon.

And last but certainly not least, Emma Callihan met her fiancé on Omegle. That's right Omegle.

"I met my fiancé on OMEGLE.... over six years ago," Emma said. "Back in the good ol' days... Omegle was wholesome and somehow I matched with someone only two hours away. My parents (being *great*) let me meet him in person at an Olga's in the mall [and] we've been together ever since. Are middle school (VERY end of 8th grade) sweethearts a thing?"

I don't know about you, but if I weren't in a relationship, I would be about ready to hop back on Omegle to find my soulmate too.

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Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it

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This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?

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As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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