10 Things That Happen If You Two Have Been Dating Since You Were, Like, 15

In a few weeks I will be celebrating my 4 year anniversary with my boyfriend. We've been together since I was 16 (he was 17). Young love has always been looked at as puppy love and I understand why. Most young relationships fail by the end of high school or shortly after. I'm thankful we took the time and effort to make ours work.

1. People can't believe you're still together and make judgmental comments.

Like any relationship, people will have doubts. We've heard comments like "Oh, it's just puppy love." or "You're so young. There's plenty of fish in the sea." But look, almost four years later and we're still together!

2. You get surprised looks when you tell people how long you've been together for.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. When I tell my peers that, I get responses like "Y'all are basically married!" or "Aren't you tired of each other yet?". Actually, no we aren't tired of each other but thanks for asking. *roll eyes*

3. Mi casa es su casa.

We basically live at each other's houses. We don't just spend a few hours together, we spend the whole day or even spend the night. He has his own drawer at my place and I have things at his place. Our parents don't mind having us at each other's houses and we often eat dinner together or do other activities. One day, I came home from work and found my Dad and him drinking a beer together.

4. Fighting happens, but we get over it really fast.

We barely fight and when we do, it's just bickering. We've been together for so long, we just know how to not tick each other off. Fights end up being less than an hour then we realize how silly we're being. Communication is key. We talk everything out and spend a lot of time bettering our relationship.

5. We don't need fancy dates to have fun.

Lately our dates consist of watching UFC fights and eating pizza or wings. We also go hiking or ride our motorcycles in the summer. The fanciest date we have is going to the Melting Pot for yearly anniversaries.

6. Our hobbies rub off on each other.

Ever since I started dating Josh, his hobbies turned into my hobbies. He's taught me how to shoot guns, throw knives, and ride motorcycles. We play video games together and workout together too.

7. We've taken a good amount of mini vacations.

This past year we stayed in an Airbnb in Brooklyn to watch UFC 223 and during fall break, we stayed in a cabin in the mountains. Whether it's going to a concert or going to the beach, we always make time for mini (and affordable) adventures.

8. Monthly anniversaries aren't a thing anymore.

We haven't celebrated a monthly anniversary since our 1 year anniversary. Every once in awhile we joke and point out we've been dating for 3 years and 11 months but it's not a huge deal. Could you imagine making an Instagram post for monthly anniversaries for almost 4 years? How annoying would that be?

9. Holidays are double fun but double the stress.

Celebrating two holidays can be stressful, especially when our family events occur at the same time. We're both used to celebrating with each others families so we make it work. For Thanksgiving and Christmas we often go to his family's celebration first and then mine. It's really nice to have two families. Plus, double the holidays means double the food!

10. You grew up together.

When we started dating, I had acne, braces, and was very insecure. He's seen me at my lowest points and highest points. We've seen each other graduate high school, currently struggling through college, and helping each other discover what careers we want to go into. We've helped each other through times of sadness and helped each other build our self-esteems up. It's really nice to have a constant support system.

We've been through a lot but I wouldn't want to go through it with anyone else.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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