20 Old School Dating Gestures That Will Never Go Out Of Style

20 Old School Dating Gestures That Will Never Go Out Of Style

Don't just do the minimum because the smallest things mean more than you think.
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It goes without saying that nothing in life goes as planned and it's definitely far from perfect. Life is indeed an open book with all the obstacles that will be thrown your way but who's to say you have zero control of it? One of the hardest things in life one will face is love — all aspects of it. For some unforeseen reason, things in this department have changed and it's without question not for the better.

If only things were done and handled like they used to be. It's not entirely that the new generation is to blame for why love and relationships are the way they are. In reality, it's because of the loss of old school etiquette that, somewhere along the way, abruptly stopped being practiced or, sadly, even preached.

Do yourselves a favor and picture yourself years ago when your grandparents, or even parents, were dating. That's the kind of love you and I deserve. Old school etiquette will never go out of style and here are some examples of how:

1. Flowers, flowers, flowers.

When you think old school, the first thing you probably think of is flowers. This is easily the most sincere, old school gesture you can do. Yes, flowers don't live forever. Yes, the money you spend on them can probably go toward something better — but it's just the thought behind them that counts. Flowers will never fail you in any situation.

2. Coming to the door to pick you up.

This gesture has pretty much become extinct, but why? This gesture demonstrates class. It's something so simple but can go such a far way. It's something you can look back on because since day one and so forth, you were treated as a priority.

3. Make dates great again.

I'll be the first one admit that I love staying in with an S/O just relaxing and hanging out at home — but I also do love going out on dates. Who doesn't? It makes you feel wanted and it spices things up. The idea of 'dates' is slowly dying when it absolutely shouldn't be, especially for younger men and women. You don't need to spend hundreds on your date, so "saving money" isn't a valid enough of an excuse.

4. Opening the car door.

In my 22 years of living, I honestly think I've had someone open the car door for me less than I can count on one hand. When talking to older couples, it's more than likely that this gesture would be categorized under a no-brainer. The littlest things can go a long way.

5. No technology.

This used to never be an issue when it came to dating, and it should really stay that way. Phones and other sorts of electronics should never be a distraction when spending time with your S/O. All your attention should be directed towards them and whatever it is you two are doing together. It seems like a pretty basic idea but it's ignored more than it should be.

6. Dancing.

I don't know about you, but I love dancing. You'll catch me dancing at the most random, awkward times. You'll catch me dancing when a good song comes on. Dancing makes most people happy to say the very least. When it comes to your S/O or someone you're casually dating, dancing can be the most intimate, fun, or just flat out romantic moment. None of that grinding or club dancing garbage— I'm talking about hand in hand, face to face dancing.

7. Compliments mean more than "liking" a picture.

It's a damn shame that some people consider it flirting if you "like" someone's post. That's so strange if you really think about it. It's nothing special because guess what — your S/O probably just liked another account's post while scrolling through their feed. That's not special. Give someone compliments. If you're thinking it, it won't hurt letting the person know you think they look beautiful, handsome, hot, etc.

8. In a world of texting, remember calling is better.

My phone is practically glued to me and if I like you enough, I will answer you in a timely manner unless I'm working or actually busy. Texting messages here and there will definitely confirm you're being thought of or that you care enough to still squeeze someone into your day— but calling and hearing someone's voice will outdo texting any day. Sometimes there's only one voice you want to hear to make your day better.

9. If you have plans together, keep them.

This goes outside of dating but I think it's pretty essential. This shows respect. This shows interest. This shows you care. That's really what it all comes down to. Don't be that person. Those types of people suck.

10. If you have plans together, don't show up belligerent of any sort.

Don't mess things up because you were selfish enough to not consider someone else's feelings. Don't be that disrespectful person because you're not only wasting their time, you're wasting your time doing who knows what while looking like a jerk in the process.

11. Embrace exclusive titles.

Wasn't it just so nice knowing that the younger you were, "asking" someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend was actually a thing? Yes, there are times in relationships where you feel the emotions and do everything that people in relationships do — so that 'title' talk isn't always necessary. But it's nice to know that it's legitimate, and confirmation doesn't hurt.

12. Dressing to impress should always remain a priority.

There's no better feeling when your S/O looks at you in awe because of how great you look. Love is accepting you at your messiest, most all natural look — but wowing them should always be a continuous cycle. It's just an extra reminder of how lucky someone is that you're in their life. Always go out of your way to look your best, it doesn't matter the situation. Just do it.

13. Holding hands.

The cutest, easiest gesture. This doesn't throw PDA in others' faces, it just shows everyone your exclusivity and there's nothing wrong with it. This doesn't have to be done always, but this concept should never die out. Ever.

14. Do things your significant other wants to do, even if you don't want to sometimes.

Compromise, compromise, compromise. Not so old school as it is common sense. Sometimes you just need to suck it up. Make each other happy and always consider your S/O's feelings and wants. The end.

15. Keeping things flirty.

This is SO important. You need to stay flirty because no one wants to fall out of love. Keep things fun; Keep things hot. Those butterflies in your stomach should never go away. I'm telling you — it's the little things! Always give your S/O a reminder as to why they fell in love with you and would be crazy to not stay in love with you.

16. Being respectful... for real.

Don't be overly aggressive. Be kind. Understand the word "no." Don't take something out on your S/O for no logical reason. Choose your battles wisely. Stay level headed. Respect is given when it's received— I don't think I can preach this enough.

17. Asking for the parents' blessing.

For some reason, this is slowly becoming a thing of the past. All the glory to those men who still believe in this because we need more of you out there. Yes, ultimately the whole "forever" thing is entirely up to us, but if you think this etiquette is stupid, check yourself. It's really not.

18. Don't let pride get in the way of things.

Since exclusivity and titles are slowly becoming an issue, don't ever let it cloud your judgment or feelings. Don't put a relationship on a pedestal or in jeopardy solely because you're immature and worry about what your friends might think. Don't worry about you missing out on particular things your single friends partake in. Be better than that.

19. Giving a woman your jacket.

Ugh. This is just so sweet of someone to do. It shows you care and it shows you're chivalrous. This gesture is as old school as it gets and makes women feel so unbelievably wanted and appreciated. Plus, it's so cute seeing it being done that you can't help but say good things.

20. Don't hide your feelings.

Just like not letting your pride get in the way of things — hiding your feelings should almost be in its own category despite having similar reasoning. Feelings and emotions mean everything so if you have them, express them. If you have some feelings, express those too. If you're not about something, why wait before addressing that? No matter what, this constant communication should remain a priority in any kind of relationship, not just romantically. Being honest with yourself, your heart, and your S/O will only better and strengthen your situation.

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.

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If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

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Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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