20 Old School Dating Gestures That Will Never Go Out Of Style

20 Old School Dating Gestures That Will Never Go Out Of Style

Don't just do the minimum because the smallest things mean more than you think.
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It goes without saying that nothing in life goes as planned and it's definitely far from perfect. Life is indeed an open book with all the obstacles that will be thrown your way but who's to say you have zero control of it? One of the hardest things in life one will face is love — all aspects of it. For some unforeseen reason, things in this department have changed and it's without question not for the better.

If only things were done and handled like they used to be. It's not entirely that the new generation is to blame for why love and relationships are the way they are. In reality, it's because of the loss of old school etiquette that, somewhere along the way, abruptly stopped being practiced or, sadly, even preached.

Do yourselves a favor and picture yourself years ago when your grandparents, or even parents, were dating. That's the kind of love you and I deserve. Old school etiquette will never go out of style and here are some examples of how:

1. Flowers, flowers, flowers.

When you think old school, the first thing you probably think of is flowers. This is easily the most sincere, old school gesture you can do. Yes, flowers don't live forever. Yes, the money you spend on them can probably go toward something better — but it's just the thought behind them that counts. Flowers will never fail you in any situation.

2. Coming to the door to pick you up.

This gesture has pretty much become extinct, but why? This gesture demonstrates class. It's something so simple but can go such a far way. It's something you can look back on because since day one and so forth, you were treated as a priority.

3. Make dates great again.

I'll be the first one admit that I love staying in with an S/O just relaxing and hanging out at home — but I also do love going out on dates. Who doesn't? It makes you feel wanted and it spices things up. The idea of 'dates' is slowly dying when it absolutely shouldn't be, especially for younger men and women. You don't need to spend hundreds on your date, so "saving money" isn't a valid enough of an excuse.

4. Opening the car door.

In my 22 years of living, I honestly think I've had someone open the car door for me less than I can count on one hand. When talking to older couples, it's more than likely that this gesture would be categorized under a no-brainer. The littlest things can go a long way.

5. No technology.

This used to never be an issue when it came to dating, and it should really stay that way. Phones and other sorts of electronics should never be a distraction when spending time with your S/O. All your attention should be directed towards them and whatever it is you two are doing together. It seems like a pretty basic idea but it's ignored more than it should be.

6. Dancing.

I don't know about you, but I love dancing. You'll catch me dancing at the most random, awkward times. You'll catch me dancing when a good song comes on. Dancing makes most people happy to say the very least. When it comes to your S/O or someone you're casually dating, dancing can be the most intimate, fun, or just flat out romantic moment. None of that grinding or club dancing garbage— I'm talking about hand in hand, face to face dancing.

7. Compliments mean more than "liking" a picture.

It's a damn shame that some people consider it flirting if you "like" someone's post. That's so strange if you really think about it. It's nothing special because guess what — your S/O probably just liked another account's post while scrolling through their feed. That's not special. Give someone compliments. If you're thinking it, it won't hurt letting the person know you think they look beautiful, handsome, hot, etc.

8. In a world of texting, remember calling is better.

My phone is practically glued to me and if I like you enough, I will answer you in a timely manner unless I'm working or actually busy. Texting messages here and there will definitely confirm you're being thought of or that you care enough to still squeeze someone into your day— but calling and hearing someone's voice will outdo texting any day. Sometimes there's only one voice you want to hear to make your day better.

9. If you have plans together, keep them.

This goes outside of dating but I think it's pretty essential. This shows respect. This shows interest. This shows you care. That's really what it all comes down to. Don't be that person. Those types of people suck.

10. If you have plans together, don't show up belligerent of any sort.

Don't mess things up because you were selfish enough to not consider someone else's feelings. Don't be that disrespectful person because you're not only wasting their time, you're wasting your time doing who knows what while looking like a jerk in the process.

11. Embrace exclusive titles.

Wasn't it just so nice knowing that the younger you were, "asking" someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend was actually a thing? Yes, there are times in relationships where you feel the emotions and do everything that people in relationships do — so that 'title' talk isn't always necessary. But it's nice to know that it's legitimate, and confirmation doesn't hurt.

12. Dressing to impress should always remain a priority.

There's no better feeling when your S/O looks at you in awe because of how great you look. Love is accepting you at your messiest, most all natural look — but wowing them should always be a continuous cycle. It's just an extra reminder of how lucky someone is that you're in their life. Always go out of your way to look your best, it doesn't matter the situation. Just do it.

13. Holding hands.

The cutest, easiest gesture. This doesn't throw PDA in others' faces, it just shows everyone your exclusivity and there's nothing wrong with it. This doesn't have to be done always, but this concept should never die out. Ever.

14. Do things your significant other wants to do, even if you don't want to sometimes.

Compromise, compromise, compromise. Not so old school as it is common sense. Sometimes you just need to suck it up. Make each other happy and always consider your S/O's feelings and wants. The end.

15. Keeping things flirty.

This is SO important. You need to stay flirty because no one wants to fall out of love. Keep things fun; Keep things hot. Those butterflies in your stomach should never go away. I'm telling you — it's the little things! Always give your S/O a reminder as to why they fell in love with you and would be crazy to not stay in love with you.

16. Being respectful... for real.

Don't be overly aggressive. Be kind. Understand the word "no." Don't take something out on your S/O for no logical reason. Choose your battles wisely. Stay level headed. Respect is given when it's received— I don't think I can preach this enough.

17. Asking for the parents' blessing.

For some reason, this is slowly becoming a thing of the past. All the glory to those men who still believe in this because we need more of you out there. Yes, ultimately the whole "forever" thing is entirely up to us, but if you think this etiquette is stupid, check yourself. It's really not.

18. Don't let pride get in the way of things.

Since exclusivity and titles are slowly becoming an issue, don't ever let it cloud your judgment or feelings. Don't put a relationship on a pedestal or in jeopardy solely because you're immature and worry about what your friends might think. Don't worry about you missing out on particular things your single friends partake in. Be better than that.

19. Giving a woman your jacket.

Ugh. This is just so sweet of someone to do. It shows you care and it shows you're chivalrous. This gesture is as old school as it gets and makes women feel so unbelievably wanted and appreciated. Plus, it's so cute seeing it being done that you can't help but say good things.

20. Don't hide your feelings.

Just like not letting your pride get in the way of things — hiding your feelings should almost be in its own category despite having similar reasoning. Feelings and emotions mean everything so if you have them, express them. If you have some feelings, express those too. If you're not about something, why wait before addressing that? No matter what, this constant communication should remain a priority in any kind of relationship, not just romantically. Being honest with yourself, your heart, and your S/O will only better and strengthen your situation.

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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