here's What 30 College Students Said Qualifies As A date

here's What 30 College Students Said Qualifies As A date

I mean in this day and age, how do you even know if you're actually on one.....?

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You've heard of the talking phase—is that even dating? Just like the big questions on how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop, the world may never know.

But, how do you know if you're actually on a date or not? How do you know if you should tell your friends that you and your eye candy have finally made it to the dating phase?

This stuff is hard to figure out. I mean how many times have you stressed out about it?

It's literally frustrating AF. I wanted to know what YOU guys thought about what qualifies as a date.

So, I used my trusty social media skills and sent it out to all my Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat friends and here are the results:

I paired together with a my cousins and asked what they thought were typical "dates" to them. Or, what their friends thought was a date but they thought definitely wasn't.

We thought beach trips were a controversial date idea: here's the feedback that we got.

Out of the 30 college students I asked, 94.4% of them through that a beach trip was a date, duh? Whereas 5.6% said, definitely not.

Next, we thought up the idea of the typical Mall Trip.

47.2% of the 30 students thought that it was not a date what-so-ever. But, 52.8% said that is was a date, why not?

Well, if you'd ask me, a mall trip is a quest, not a date. I don't really talk to my boo at the mall because I am so focused on the sales and those cute jeans over there!

Next, we really wanted to test those college students. We asked if they thought that Dinner and a Movie was a date.

As expected, all 30 students said YES, DUH.

That one gave a little heart attack. I was praying that it was cause then, I mean, me and my boo haven't gone on a date—at all.

We then asked if Going To The Zoo was a date.

Can you tell that we are just dreaming about date ideas for our boos?

86.1% said that it was a date, whereas 13.9% said no.

So, then what about a Weekend Getaway?

Surprisingly, still 5.6% said that it was not a date. To calm me down, 94.4% said that it was "def a date."

Or a Fast Food Trip? An Ice Cream Trip?

33.3% said helllll nah and 66.7% said "Uhhhh, YAS" to the fast food trip. Now, for the Ice Cream Trip 91.7% said of course, and then 8.3% said no, no, NO

We then got a little crazy and asked some more questions we wanted to know that if a female paid for the male would it still be considered a date?

As a person that has a boyfriend, if he didn't consider it a date I would be seriously offended. To my surprised still, 5.6% of the 30 said that it was not considered a date. But, just like me, 94.4% said of course it is!

We then wanted to know some more information about dates, besides the actual place of the date, what else would qualify it as a date?

Most people said "anywhere that is preplanned" and another added, "if you order tickets or make reservations ahead of time"

Others went more into detail:

"Just being in the company of the person you want to be with can be a date. It doesn't need to be finitely stated, no one needs to say, "This is a date!" If you want to sit and gorge on pizza and ugly cry at movies in sweatpants, or get dressed up for a night on the town: it's a date if you want to be with that person."

"Literally just being by ourselves not at the house qualifies as a date for me"

"I think that a date has to be something special, not something that you do all the time, so even for some of the ones listed; if you do them all the time together then it doesn't count as a date!... and for the previous question, I think it is a date if a girl pays, but only after the first three dates!"

"Highly enjoying the time spent with your significant other, no matter what you two are doing together."

Here's one that I really liked, I'm really happy that someone went this much into detail for a poll:

"I've done all of these types of dates and had a blast. For me, it's about spending time with the person and getting to know them. Whether that happens during a fancy dinner or a picnic doesn't matter to me. I will say that the setting of the first few dates really do set the tone of the relationship. I like to be fancy toward the beginning and transition to more casual dates as the relationship becomes long-term."

and lastly, here is one that I agree with 100% as a person that has been in a relationship for nearly 2 years (and counting...):

"if you're in a relationship with the person, or it was set up with the intent of starting a relationship"

So, there you go ladies and gents- now you know if you're on a date or not. You can thank me later.

I can't forget this one:

"They better call it a date or they're not getting any"
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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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