Let's Be Real, Is Dating In 2019 Even Worth It If You Don't Want Something Serious?

Let's Be Real, Is Dating In 2019 Even Worth It If You Don't Want Something Serious?

Why waste your time dating someone if they don't want a serious commitment?

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I'll be honest here, dating in the 21st century is unbelievably hard. Back then it was either you were dating and in a relationship or you weren't dating at all.

Now it's you're either talking which means that you are still in that getting to know each other stage, dating which means that you guys have been on dates and you like each other but you are not tied down to each other and also possibly seeing other people, or you are in a relationship which that is self-explanatory.

I have had my fair share of dating and I tried that whole getting to know one person as well as going on dates with another person thing and I'll be honest with you; I am NOT a fan.

I have always been the type of girl that likes commitment. I like knowing that the person I am dating is only interested in me and no one else. I like only having dinner dates with one person and one person only. Who wants to keep track of a dinner date with Joe one night and then a coffee date with Bill the following Tuesday? That is just too much keeping up with for my mind. It may be the 21st century and dating multiple people in the getting to know you stage is a common thing now but; why do you want to waste your time with someone if they do not see a future with you or if they do not want anything serious right now?

I've only had maybe three serious relationships in my life and all of the other relationships I've had never lasted for more than possibly three or four months.

I love being in a relationship as much as the next person but I had a plan set out in my head. Be engaged by 26, married by 28, and have kids by 30 (I know unrealistic plan now since I'll be turning 24 this year) and typically within the first two months I can tell whether or not I see a future with this person and if I don't then we break up for one reason or another. Now, I am not saying that the guys I had short relationships with weren't great guys; they were nothing more than amazing guys who will one day make a girl very happy; I just wasn't the right girl for them.

We live in an era where everything is so casual and no one wants to be tied down to anyone.

But, the thing is; we all crave for that feeling of being wanted and being love; we may not admit it but we all want to have that special someone to wake up next to, be able to fall asleep cuddling with someone (unless you don't like cuddling which I know some of you don't), we all want to be spoiled from time to time and shown off to the world. At the end of the day; if we aren't serious about someone how are we going to be able to be treated the way we should be treated.

Now, I know that some of you reading this are probably thinking that when I say "being serious" I am talking about saying those three scary words or proposing. NO!

Yes being serious does mean all of those things but when I say a serious relationship I am talking about just dating one person and one person only even if you are still getting to know them. I am talking about after however long you feel comfortable with asking them to be monogamous. I am talking about being with each other in a relationship that will potentially lead to a marriage. I know; marriage sounds super scary but isn't that what a relationship is? It is being with someone who you enjoy being around, being with that person who makes you a better person who you can potentially see a long future with?

Not being tied down and seeing multiple people at the early stages of meeting someone may sound appealing at first but it never works out in the end. One person always gets attached and it is just a waste of time. So let's bring back dating one person at a time regardless of how long you've known them in 2019.

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To The Man Who Gave Me The World And Never Stopped Trying To Do So

Even though I don't say it enough, you really do bring me sunshine every day.

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To the man who has given me the world,

I feel like I never truly do give you the appreciation you deserve. After full two years of dating someone that I look up to, you have shown me ways of life no one has before.

I know there are so many girls out there writing letters to their boyfriends online, and I might just be another one of those girls, but this is more of a thank you than a love letter.


Thank you for picking me back up when no one else would.

Through all the fake friends who have backstabbed me multiple times and for all the girls who I have lost as friends, you knew I was stuck in such a tough situation and you still continued to make it better. You were the one who put a smile back onto my face and you were the one who took me out and brought me out of my comfort zone so I can find a new meaning of happiness.

Thank you for understanding my anger.

Sometimes I get angry, and I get into bad moods that I can't control. For some reason you understand it, and you don't push me for answers. You know I will open up sooner or later and the time might not be now but it might be later and you understand that and you accept that. That is all I ever asked for, for someone to not push my buttons when I don't want them pushed.


Thank you for making me laugh when I feel like crying.

You always know when I'm upset, but you won't push me past my limit. You crack dumb jokes and do stupid things that will make me laugh till my stomach hurts, and it usually ends up working. Even through the hardest of times when I have to fight back tears and get rid of the choking feeling in my throat, you manage to get rid of it so fast by making me laugh so hard that the tears that do come out aren't from sadness.

Thank you for always taking care of me.

It feels good to know someone always has your back and will always take care of me. Even through my car accident and the injuries I got, you still took the time out of your day to take me to my doctor's appointments. You massaged my back, made me food, and gave me all the blankets I could possibly ever need. You will kiss me a million times no matter how sick I am. You do all of this to make sure I'm okay and I'm alive and I'm more than grateful for that.

Thank you for always putting me first.

You put my happiness before yours constantly. You will do anything for me. I wanted to go to college in Florida and you dropped everything and followed me, You left all of your best friends behind because you wanted to continue your life with me. You've skipped English class more times than I can count to take me to my physical therapy appointments, or my injection appointments, You've done more for me than you have for yourself.


Thank you for being my person.

Not sure how my life would be if I didn't have you in it. You've been in it for so long that it would be too hard to let you go. You know me more than I know myself. You know what makes me smile so hard. You know how eggs literally are so gross to me. You know how to make me fall asleep in seconds (a secret no one else knows). You know how my biggest pet peeve is horrible drivers. You know how lemonade is my favorite drink of all time. You know how I wait 3 weeks to do laundry. You know how I suck at saving money. You know what shows to put on to make me fall asleep at night. You know every little thing about me, and there is no one else in the world that knows so much about me. You are my person, my forever person.

Thank you for giving me the world and for continuing to do so. Thank you for being you.

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8 Reasons Dating A Girl With A Dog Will Make You Feel Like The Goodest Boy

Because a girl with dogs are a special type of person

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Having is dog can be compared to having a child, I mean, in more ways than one having a dog is waaaay better than having a child. They will love you no matter what, and will even try and kiss your face after you yelled at them. But girls with a dog, know how to love harder, better, than any normal, old girl.

People who don't like dogs are NOT to be trusted.

1. Girls with dogs make friends so much easier than girls without

Think about it, girls loving having things in common with other people (especially if it's another female in your life). So, once the word is out that your friend has a dog they will be able to have a full conversation instead of trying to make eye contact with you with their world famous "can we go" face.

Your girl will be busy taking about the tricks that little Roofus knows and you will be busy catching up with your "bros" and thinking about how amazing your girlfriend is.

2. They already have "mom instincts" 

Ok, this is the most amazing one. Because they are always taking care of their puppy dog, they are always aware of feeding time, when they have to go to the bathroom. And just like any mom, they are willing to DIE for their dog (I mean who wouldn't?).

So, what that means is that your girlfriend is PERFECT wifey material, she will be willing to make you lunch, and worry about if you are safe on your ride home.

She may even ask you if you need to use the bathroom, or if you have all day *wink*

3. Girls with dogs DEFINE loyalty 

Whether it's her dog is just a puppy or even one that she grew up with, the loyalty to actually have that dog for it's whole life is incomprehensible. I mean she already made a "life-long commitment" what have you done?

4. They are EXTREMELY forgiving people. 

Remember what I said about getting kisses after she would yell at a dog (you know, the opposite of what having a kid looks like)? Well, just as much as dogs are forgiving so is your girlfriend! Dogs can literally ruin your life while making you the happiest human ever.

Sounds weird right?

No, males cannot do the same things as dogs BUT good try though. Case in point, dogs can chew almost anything they can fit in their mouth, like new shoes, homework, the painting you worked on for hours and hours and guess what? In a few minutes, their pup will be loved like nothing ever happened.

Yes, sir, this could be you.

5. They love the outdoors 

I mean, where do dogs love to be?

OUTDOORS!

So, it's only right your boo loves it too! That means that easy picnic dates in the park are a MUST and frankly are easy to do. Just make sure that you bring treats for her #1.

No, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the dog. ;)

6. But, they are also "chill" with Netflix and Chill. 

Another place your lady loves to be?

Yep, you guessed it! HOME.

This is another simple date idea and a way that you can seriously win your ladies heart. They fear leaving their pup alone because I mean, it makes them sad. So, you can completely dodge that bullet and just choose to put on a movie, make some pasta and cuddle up with her.

But make sure you are leaving room for the pup.

(TIP: Always leave room for the pup.)

7. They are SO much easier to buy for. 

YES, I said it. They are NOT materialistic. Simply just make sure that you are buying a new sweater, or new treats for their doggo and you are SET.

Seriously, no really expensive diamonds or purses just treats.

8. They already know how to LOVE someone. 

Like really, really love someone. I mean they obviously already have a first love so they have been around the park or two. They know how to commit, build trust and just know how to be there for someone at all times.

You're #winning, bro.

So do yourself a favor, love a lady with a doggo.

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