In the current socio-political sphere of the United States, there exists a notion that now is a "difficult" time to be a man in our society due to the risk of being falsely accused of sexual misconduct.
Political figures and some men have been pushing the idea that dating is impossible in the #MeToo era, and that women are likely to take offense when a man pursues them.
Let me tell you; these two narratives are complete and utter nonsense.
For starters, the rates of false reports involving sexual misconduct cases are extremely low.
Second, the #MeToo movement doesn't exist as a way to make sexual, or dating violence against women seem "cool" or a trend a woman should get involved in to be mainstream.
It exists to bring to light how common sexual violence against women is in the United States and how it's so often swept under the carpet.
No sane woman is going to make up allegations against a man for the sake of being "cool" or "playing the victim card."
Any type of sexual assault is traumatic and violating to those who've experienced it. The vast majority of people recognize the severity and trauma associated with sexual misconduct situations.
The level of stigma that exists behind sexual misconduct as well as a legal system that often improperly addresses victims means that it's unlikely for victims to step forward.
And yet, we have people making the irrational claim that hoards of women influenced by the #MeToo movement are going to come and "ruin a man's life" with some sort of false claim.
Good god. Grow up.
Men are not victims in a dating world. Self-aware women who understand the systemic influence and proceedings associated with sexual violence and harassment are not threats to your masculinity.
Quite frankly, the men that seem to have the greatest fear of being accused are most likely the ones guilty of inappropriate, unhealthy or downright abusive behavior toward women.
Therefore, the men offended the most by women standing up for themselves and supporting survivors are likely a cause of sexual misconduct against women, and feel threatened that they are being held accountable for their behavior.
If you are a man who was an abusive boyfriend, I'm not sorry that no women in your social circles want to date you if they saw you be an asshole.
If you are a man who talks down to women and holds yourself above them because you don't value their place in society, I don't feel sorry for you if you can't get a date either. Women are people, not objects.
If you are a man who regularly engages in unsolicited sexting over social media and berates women for not replying, I'm not sorry for you either. Grow the hell up, have some dignity and show some respect.
And for the men out there that value women as human beings, support women's issues and treat us with respect, you will have no problem in the dating scene.
In fact, we'll likely seek YOU out since we know you'd make a good partner.
So if you are a guy out there that is frightened by prospects of a woman ripping your life apart because you asked her out in a respectful manner, don't fret.
The statistics tell the real story. And if you've ever bothered to listen to a woman in your life, you'd understand that sexual misconduct is one of the last things we'd want to experience.
So keep that swagger of yours. Ask women out in respectful ways. Appreciate us for who we are, and know that we want to feel safe and appreciated in the dating scene as much as you do.