Hey Guys, The #MeToo Era Doesn’t Make It Harder For You To Date

Hey Guys, The #MeToo Era Doesn’t Make It Harder For You To Date

Women won't accuse you of sexual misconduct for asking them out, give me a break.

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In the current socio-political sphere of the United States, there exists a notion that now is a "difficult" time to be a man in our society due to the risk of being falsely accused of sexual misconduct.

Political figures and some men have been pushing the idea that dating is impossible in the #MeToo era, and that women are likely to take offense when a man pursues them.

Let me tell you; these two narratives are complete and utter nonsense.

For starters, the rates of false reports involving sexual misconduct cases are extremely low.

Second, the #MeToo movement doesn't exist as a way to make sexual, or dating violence against women seem "cool" or a trend a woman should get involved in to be mainstream.

It exists to bring to light how common sexual violence against women is in the United States and how it's so often swept under the carpet.

No sane woman is going to make up allegations against a man for the sake of being "cool" or "playing the victim card."

Any type of sexual assault is traumatic and violating to those who've experienced it. The vast majority of people recognize the severity and trauma associated with sexual misconduct situations.

The level of stigma that exists behind sexual misconduct as well as a legal system that often improperly addresses victims means that it's unlikely for victims to step forward.

And yet, we have people making the irrational claim that hoards of women influenced by the #MeToo movement are going to come and "ruin a man's life" with some sort of false claim.

Good god. Grow up.

Men are not victims in a dating world. Self-aware women who understand the systemic influence and proceedings associated with sexual violence and harassment are not threats to your masculinity.

Quite frankly, the men that seem to have the greatest fear of being accused are most likely the ones guilty of inappropriate, unhealthy or downright abusive behavior toward women.

Therefore, the men offended the most by women standing up for themselves and supporting survivors are likely a cause of sexual misconduct against women, and feel threatened that they are being held accountable for their behavior.

If you are a man who was an abusive boyfriend, I'm not sorry that no women in your social circles want to date you if they saw you be an asshole.

If you are a man who talks down to women and holds yourself above them because you don't value their place in society, I don't feel sorry for you if you can't get a date either. Women are people, not objects.

If you are a man who regularly engages in unsolicited sexting over social media and berates women for not replying, I'm not sorry for you either. Grow the hell up, have some dignity and show some respect.

And for the men out there that value women as human beings, support women's issues and treat us with respect, you will have no problem in the dating scene.

In fact, we'll likely seek YOU out since we know you'd make a good partner.

So if you are a guy out there that is frightened by prospects of a woman ripping your life apart because you asked her out in a respectful manner, don't fret.

The statistics tell the real story. And if you've ever bothered to listen to a woman in your life, you'd understand that sexual misconduct is one of the last things we'd want to experience.

So keep that swagger of yours. Ask women out in respectful ways. Appreciate us for who we are, and know that we want to feel safe and appreciated in the dating scene as much as you do.

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.

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If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

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Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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