Hey Guys, The #MeToo Era Doesn’t Make It Harder For You To Date

Hey Guys, The #MeToo Era Doesn’t Make It Harder For You To Date

Women won't accuse you of sexual misconduct for asking them out, give me a break.

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In the current socio-political sphere of the United States, there exists a notion that now is a "difficult" time to be a man in our society due to the risk of being falsely accused of sexual misconduct.

Political figures and some men have been pushing the idea that dating is impossible in the #MeToo era, and that women are likely to take offense when a man pursues them.

Let me tell you; these two narratives are complete and utter nonsense.

For starters, the rates of false reports involving sexual misconduct cases are extremely low.

Second, the #MeToo movement doesn't exist as a way to make sexual, or dating violence against women seem "cool" or a trend a woman should get involved in to be mainstream.

It exists to bring to light how common sexual violence against women is in the United States and how it's so often swept under the carpet.

No sane woman is going to make up allegations against a man for the sake of being "cool" or "playing the victim card."

Any type of sexual assault is traumatic and violating to those who've experienced it. The vast majority of people recognize the severity and trauma associated with sexual misconduct situations.

The level of stigma that exists behind sexual misconduct as well as a legal system that often improperly addresses victims means that it's unlikely for victims to step forward.

And yet, we have people making the irrational claim that hoards of women influenced by the #MeToo movement are going to come and "ruin a man's life" with some sort of false claim.

Good god. Grow up.

Men are not victims in a dating world. Self-aware women who understand the systemic influence and proceedings associated with sexual violence and harassment are not threats to your masculinity.

Quite frankly, the men that seem to have the greatest fear of being accused are most likely the ones guilty of inappropriate, unhealthy or downright abusive behavior toward women.

Therefore, the men offended the most by women standing up for themselves and supporting survivors are likely a cause of sexual misconduct against women, and feel threatened that they are being held accountable for their behavior.

If you are a man who was an abusive boyfriend, I'm not sorry that no women in your social circles want to date you if they saw you be an asshole.

If you are a man who talks down to women and holds yourself above them because you don't value their place in society, I don't feel sorry for you if you can't get a date either. Women are people, not objects.

If you are a man who regularly engages in unsolicited sexting over social media and berates women for not replying, I'm not sorry for you either. Grow the hell up, have some dignity and show some respect.

And for the men out there that value women as human beings, support women's issues and treat us with respect, you will have no problem in the dating scene.

In fact, we'll likely seek YOU out since we know you'd make a good partner.

So if you are a guy out there that is frightened by prospects of a woman ripping your life apart because you asked her out in a respectful manner, don't fret.

The statistics tell the real story. And if you've ever bothered to listen to a woman in your life, you'd understand that sexual misconduct is one of the last things we'd want to experience.

So keep that swagger of yours. Ask women out in respectful ways. Appreciate us for who we are, and know that we want to feel safe and appreciated in the dating scene as much as you do.

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The Ultimate Shopping List Of Stuff You Need When You Move In Together

Other than the obvious groceries, there's quite a few things you and your boo should get before moving in.

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You've finally hit that stage in the relationship where one of you moves in or get a place together! It's exciting, it's new but here's the stressful part...what do you bring?

When moving in it's crucial that you each go through your stuff to get rid of anything you don't need/want. But there's also things that need to be bought too. You might not realize it yet, but you do not want to move in together without having all the essentials ready to go. So here is the ultimate shopping list for when you and your significant other move in together!

1. Extension Cords

You don't want to be fighting over who gets the outlet by the bed and who has to put their phone on the other have of the room, get extension cords now so you don't have to worry about the hassle!

2. Extra Blankets

If your boyfriend/girlfriend is anything like mine, he is a HUGE blanket hog. Buy some extra blankets to keep under the bed so when they decide they need 95% of the blanket, you have back up.

3. Extra Towels

You never want to be the one stuck needing to shower without a clean towel at hand.

4. A Calendar

My boyfriend and I are constantly busy. Between both of us having two jobs (me having three plus school) it's hard sometimes to keep track of who's where at what time. A calendar will take away that stress!

5. A whiteboard for the fridge

It might sound silly but this is great! If you need milk but won't have time to pick it up, leave a message on the board for your boo! Or if you feel like leaving a note saying they need to pick their socks up from the living room floor...

6. More hangers

I personally prefer to hang my clothes up, it leaves less of a hassle trying to rummage through clothes to find something to wear. You're going to want more hangers when you're sharing a room with that special someone.

7. An extra key

Obviously you should both have keys to the house, but there is going to come a time where one of you gets locked out, and the other can't get to you for hours. Make that spare key and hide it in a good spot to save the hassle of trying to climb into your window without your neighbors calling the cops...

8. A key rack

This is so convenient. Keeping track of keys can be a struggle as is, let alone when you and your S.O. keys look the exact same. Buy a key rack to keep them in place.

9. A shower caddy

Buy one ASAP. Those shower ledges can hold your shampoo and conditioner but when you double it up, it's messy.

10. Door mat for shoes

Now that you live together, you're going to want to have a door mat (if you don't already) for you to leave your shoes when you walk into the house. Shoes that you tend to wear frequently can be left my the door and other shoes (heels and dress shoes) can be left in the closet!

11. A shoe rack for the closet

One person tends to own at least four pairs of shoes. (Well, my boyfriend owns like four pairs of just boots.) If you both have a lot of shoes and don't want to take up too much space, get a shoe rack for the closet! This keeps them organized and won't leave you tripping over any of them.

12. Candles/air fresheners 

This is crucial. You guys live together now and there's going to be times where you're "doing your business" and it leaves that smell behind. Make sure you have candles or air fresheners to mask away that dreadful stink.

13. More laundry baskets

You may not realize it now, but one or two laundry baskets isn't going to cut it. There is going to come a time where you won't have time to do laundry for either of you that week. One or two laundry baskets can fill up pretty quick with two people. Always be sure to have extras. Better to have more than not enough!

14. Spare bed sheets

This comes in so handy. You always want to be able to sleep in a clean bed, but sometimes it can take FOREVER to wash them! Get that extra bed set that, when it comes time to wash one, you always have a clean back up to not feel rushed!

15. All the cooking stuff

Seriously, whether you are getting a new place together or moving in with your S.O. you want to have ALL the essential cooking needs. Even the non-essential ones.

16. Plates and silverware

Self explanatory.

17. Area rug

These are just nice to have cause they really tie the room together!

18. Storage, storage, STORAGE

This is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL. There's two of you know, you're going to want as much storage as humanly possible to fit all of your stuff together

19. A welcome mat

20. A blow out mattress

If you are anything like my boyfriend and I, we are constantly having friends over. You want to be completely prepared if friends need/want to spend the night!

21. LOTS of tissues, paper towel and toilet paper.

You can never have more than enough of this.

22. Batteries

It's never fun when the remote batteries die.

23. Extra light bulbs

24. Cleaning supplies

Broom, mop, vacuum, duster, pledge, ALL OF IT.

25. Decorations for the holidays

Because you NEED to be spirited. This is finally your time to decorate your home just how you like it.

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21 Festive Dates to Get You and Your S.O. Into the Holiday Spirit

Love AND snow are in the air this holiday season

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So the holiday season is rapidly descending upon us and you're scrambling trying to make this one the best you've ever had. Whether this will be the first you share with your lover or you've lost count of how many holidays you've spent together, it's important that you cherish your romance this December all the same. And because not everyone can make the trip out to New York City to see the famous Rockefeller Center Christmas tree, here are 21 alternatives for holiday-themed dates that will definitely make this season the sweetest it's ever been.

1. Shop for gifts together

Turn your obligatory holiday shopping into a lovely afternoon spent browsing with your sweetie! And if your bank accounts allow it, you could even surprise one another with little gifts throughout the day.

2. Watch holiday movies and bake themed desserts

What's better than an afternoon viewing of "The Polar Express" and some homemade holiday treats? Nothing, that's what. Spend a cozy day on the couch with your lover and bask in the sweet smell of baking cookies in the air.

3. Go ice skating

Whether you're a seasoned pro or a nervous beginner, an ice skating date is perfect for any couple looking to enjoy the winter weather while it lasts. Lace up your skates, link your arms, and set out on the ice for a night of laughs, thrills, and hopefully, only a few spills.

4. Have a snowy photo shoot 

Pose with your boo in front of some seasonal decor or with a snowy backdrop behind you! Set a timer on your camera for some specific shots, or even have a few friends follow you two around and capture some adorable candids!

5. Go for a walk in your neighborhood and admire all of the decorations 

Visit some of the neighborhoods in your town together that are notorious for their grandiose displays of Christmas lights. Or, if you'd rather not wander around in the bitter cold, go for a drive instead and serenade one another with the Christmas carols playing on the radio.

6. Attend a community event together (a play, a festival, etc.)

A lot of towns prepare for the holiday season by hosting community-wide events on the weekends for everyone to enjoy. Holiday plays, concerts, and festivals are just some of the activities that might be held, and oftentimes, admission is free or very cheap to encourage all of the townspeople to participate. Take your sweetie out for a breakfast with Santa, for a orchestral performance, or even to feed some goats and cows at a holiday petting zoo.

7. Make Christmas cards to give to your loved ones

Your relationship surely is the envy of all your friends, so why not make that official with a series of cute, clever Christmas cards that really document how perfect your love is? Have your cards printed up at the store or make a date out of crafting them yourselves at home!

8. Spend the day decorating the Christmas tree

You can even precede this activity with a visit to a local tree farm if you prefer real Christmas trees to artificial ones. Then you can spend the rest of your day decorating your tree with ornaments, lights, and other trinkets. For some personal flair, purchase a few keepsake ornaments with your initials on them or frame a holiday photograph of you and your boo to put at the very top in place of a star!

9. Get some friends together for an ugly sweater party

Everyone loves to hate ugly Christmas sweaters, so why not throw a party to commemorate your shared feelings? Have every guest come prepared with their best (worst) holiday sweaters and drink and be merry together. You can even ask that everyone who attends brings along their favorite dessert or cookie platter. Host this gathering with your boo and be sure to impress everyone with how well your sweaters match!

10. Cuddle by the fireplace

Relax for the evening in each other's arms as the fireplace roars and crackles. Curl up with a good book or turn on your favorite holiday movie and try not to fall asleep as comfort and pure bliss overwhelms you.

11. Have a karaoke jam session to all of your holiday favorites

Look up some karaoke versions of holiday hits on YouTube and prepare to belt out all of the lyrics in a cheerful duet with the person you most adore. Or if you happen to be musical, have one of you play the guitar or the piano as the other serenades them in the most romantic fashion.

12. Play around in the snow like little kids

You're never too old to join your lover for some snowy shenanigans. Show up at their house with your sled in hand and show them that you haven't lost your readiness to have fun and live in the moment. Make some snow angels or build an igloo in your backyard to cuddle up in once it's finished (and hopefully, stable enough that it doesn't cave in).

13. Raise money for charity in the spirit of the giving season

Volunteer at a local soup kitchen to cook a hot meal for the less fortunate. Organize a community food drive among your friends and family or invest in some Christmas presents to donate to the Toys For Tots gift drive. However you choose to give back, sharing in that spirit of giving is bound to bring you both closer than ever before.

14. Drink holiday-themed coffees in a cute café

Venture at last into that downtown coffee shop you both keep swearing you'll visit and order some festive drinks to warm yourselves up. The cozy atmosphere of the café and its tasty sweets will no doubt have you both smiling at each other like it's Christmas already.

15. Go on a walk and have spontaneous snowball fights every so often

Bring out your inner kid again and softly toss some snowballs your baby's way, starting an all-out war right in the middle of a romantic stroll. A snowball fight might call the attention of passersby, but who cares? All that matters is that you're having fun and laughing together.

16. Hunt down some mistletoe and kiss under every bundle you see

Or even better, carry some mistletoe with you and hold it up at various points throughout your date to signal your need for another smooch.

17. Plan a holiday-themed scavenger hunt all through your town

Keep your sweetheart all afternoon with a festive scavenger hunt! Seal up the clues in some decorated envelopes that you leave at meaningful destinations in your town—in the park by the lake, in the window of your favorite shop, on the streetlight where you shared your first kiss…the possibilities are endless. Just make sure that the final hint leads your lover directly to you and makes their travels worth it.

18. Drink some hot cocoa and build a gingerbread house 

Make some delicious hot chocolate that you and your honey can sip on as you out-build each other in a friendly gingerbread house competition. Or keep it more peaceful and work together on a home-renovation project that Ty Pennington would be proud of.

19. Have a winter bonfire in your backyard

Bundle up under some blankets with your baby and roast some chestnuts (or s'mores) by the open fire. Some of the best and most intimate conversations you will ever share just might "spark" right there under the snowy night sky.

20. Have a Christmas Eve Eve party

Celebrating the "Eve of the Eve" is a great opportunity to gather all of your friends for a Christmas party without disrupting anyone's plans for the actual day itself! You and your sweetheart can plan out a lovely preamble to the festivities to come; invite your buddies over for dinner, for a holiday movie marathon, or for a coffee and dessert party!

21. Have a Hallmark marathon just to make fun of their cheesy movies

Bond with your significant other in the best way—that is, by ruthlessly criticizing the cliché holiday romances televised by the Hallmark channel every winter. So go ahead and sit back in the arms of the person you love and let the roasting begin.

No matter what holidays you and your lover celebrate, you can personalize any of these date ideas to include the customs and traditions that are special to you. All seasonal celebrations are valid and deserve to be shared with the people you love.

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