I'm Dating My Ex Again And There Is No Shame In Going Back Especially If It Makes You Happy
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When you tell people you're talking to your ex again, you don't usually get the most delightful or positive feedback. They say things like "if it didn't work out the first time, then it's not going to work out at all" or "Don't you think it didn't last for a reason?" I'd be lying if these statements didn't stop me in my tracks and make me think twice about the decision I'm making, but they couldn't make me change my mind.

I'm not saying it's always a good idea to rekindle the flame between you and your ex-lover, sometimes it really did end for a reason. I'm talking about if they cheated on you or just downright did not respect you for who you are, then leave it at that and have enough self-respect to move on and leave them out of your life. If by chance it wasn't like that at all and things ended in a not so messy way, then what the heck, just go for it.

Odds are both of you have changed tremendously and dated other people since, which keep in mind is a great thing. Not that it's going to be like dating a whole new person or anything, they're still going to eat all of the almonds out of the trail mix and love the color blue, but it will be different. There is a whole new foundation of respect for each other. You both know what it's like without each other and with someone else and now there's a reason you have made it back to each other. It's not just comfortable and convenient to be together anymore, this time it's because you truly wanted back into this relationship.

Since you have been together before and no one is to say how long, but you have made millions of memories together no doubt. There are cities only you two have traveled, restaurants you've only been to together and plans only you two have talked about. Getting back together means you get to experience all of these things over again and more. Reliving some of your favorite memories with your new, but old boyfriend is some of the best fun you could have. The history you have together will only bring you closer in the end.

Getting back together with my ex-boyfriend was one of the better decisions I've made. I haven't been this happy in a long time. At first, I was a bit skeptical and nervous to just jump right back into something that ended over a year ago, but I am glad I did. So, going back to an ex isn't always a negative thing and if that's what you want to do, then do it. Do what makes you happy and don't feel guilty for it.

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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It’s Harder FINDING Someone Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Than Actually Being In One

Oh millennials, we have made a mess of the dating scene...

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I got super lucky once.

I wasn't looking for a guy, but I happened to find the exact one who wanted a long relationship. It's always when you least suspect it, isn't it? I'm newly single, but not quite ready to mingle.

Sure, there are plenty of new fish in the sea, but even they aren't sure if they are ready to sink or swim yet.

No, it doesn't have to be hard to have a relationship. I did long-distance on-and-off for four years, but we pushed through it because we cared about the relationship.

People can make it really tough on themselves to find that perfect person. It makes sense, we all want the right person that fits all of our needs and checks all of our boxes. But I think we as a society are a little more flawed than that. We also have needs of our own and those needs can really get in the way of our time together.

Say you find a person you could see yourself really being with. They will be there for your crying sessions, when you fail a test, when a loved one dies. But will they be there to also lift you up in your darkest moments and laugh together at every free moment? It seems a lot to ask of somebody, but in reality, it's just living.

Avril Lavigne was right, "why do you have to go and makes things so complicated?" In the long run, you'll always be upset if you keep up a checklist that no one can master. I'm finding out myself that not everyone is able to fulfill the basic requirements of a fun loving and easygoing boyfriend, but there is hope that one day, someone will.

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