What Is Zombieing?
You've heard of ghosting, but have you ever heard of zombieing? Hopefully the answer is no. But unfortunately for all of us, the chance is high that you have experienced being zombied without even realizing there was a word for it. To put it simply, the definition above really nails it. Zombieing occurs when one of your exes or ghosts of relationships past decide it's time to resurrect themselves from the dead and pop back into your lives — whether you asked for it or not.
The unfortunate part of the matter is these zombies are most often unwelcome. They slide into your DMs, send you a snap, text you, or even call you when you least expect it.
What Does It Mean To Be Zombied By Someone?
That said, to be "zombied" by someone is to have them disappear from your life only to return however long later thinking you want them back, which uh... just stay gone, please. It is possible, though, that you have actually been the zombie in a dating situation. If you kind of disappeared from someone's life — whether you ghosted them or actually ended things — and then decided to reappear without warning "just because," then yes... you are a zombie.
How Is Zombieing Different From Ghosting?
Zombieing is different from ghosting because most ghosts stay gone (as they should). Zombies, however, are technically the ghosts who come back to haunt us. These "zombies" may even be worse than ghosts because just when you think you've gotten over them, they reappear.
How To Deal With & Respond To Zombieing
Dealing with zombieing can be exhausting, especially if you're not over the person who is suddenly trying to make themselves a part of your life again. If this is the case, ask yourselves, "Why did this relationship end to begin with?" and "Are they worthy of a spot in my life?" If the answer to either or both of these questions is a negative one (which they normally will be), keep them in the relationship graveyard and never look back.
- Choose to ignore them if you wish or respond to them to spell out exactly how you're feeling and state whether you want to be contacted or not.
- If you don't want to be bothered, consider removing them from all of social media — mute, block, unfriend, unfollow, whatever it is... do it for your sanity and don't look back.
- Delete their number if you're feeling tempted to text them.
- Vent to friends and feel the feels, but don't second guess yourself. You are exactly where you need to be.
Overall, the best option is always what is right for you. But if you want my opinion, I say bury them. If it didn't work out the first time, there was a reason for it and the chances of it working out the second time are slim to none, with few exceptions. After all, you are so much more than someone's back-up plan.
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