Lately talking about being a single girl has been a topic everywhere.
And sometimes I think that what the pictures, videos, or even articles portray isn’t accurate for everyone that is single. I’ve been single my whole life. Yes, I think dating is overrated. No, I don’t loathe the people that have a relationship with another person,
I didn't have a boyfriend in fourth grade (if that really counts as having a boyfriend), I didn’t have one in eighth grade or freshman year either. I haven’t had one boyfriend and it's not because I think “boys are dogs.”
I haven't had a boyfriend because I don’t really care for a relationship like that. Yes, I might think a guy is cute but I don’t see the point in having a relationship with them that's more than friends. When I look at my future I don't think about what type of guy I'm going to marry or if I'm going to have kids. I think about the goals I want to achieve this month or this year and how to achieve those goals. I don’t have a tinder or a bumble account or any dating account for that matter. My everyday thoughts aren’t wondering if I matched with this really cute guy, my thoughts are let's get everything that needs to be done today, done.
I’m not a single person that hates everyone that's in a relationship and wishes dating wasn't a thing. I feel like people think oh you haven’t dated anyone and your not looking because you haven’t been opened up to the dating world.
Um, no.
I just don’t care for a relationship because I want to be able to live my life and run towards my goals. I don’t see dating as a number one priority on my list now or anytime soon until AFTER my goals are accomplished.
I don't get bothered by people with relationships. If I see people in their relationships doing PDA, I look at them and go on about my day, I don't even give them a thought or a second look.
Being single doesn't mean I hate couples or romance. I watch a lot of romantic movies when I saw “Beauty and the Beast” I cried because I thought it was a beautiful love story. I met a couple over the summer and they were literally my goals, and now they're getting married and I couldn't be happier for them. But even though I love romance, I don't want to sit around and talk about how you love your boyfriend so much or how you guys are having problems.
To be honest, when my friends get boyfriends I don’t hang out with them as much because I don't want to hear about their relationship every day. But if they need me to listen to them about their relationship or give them advice about their relationship (even if I haven’t been in one) I will be there to do that.
Being single is awesome in my opinion. I’ve never been through a rough heartbreak. I don’t feel the need to dress up like at all. If I want to sit at home all day by myself and not text anyone all day, I can without someone getting mad at me. I don’t have to get into arguments about dumb stuff.
I am by no means sad that I am single. I don’t think that being single is the worst thing in the world. I don't dread being single, I’m not at home waiting for a cute guy to message me and I love that.