I Asked 20 People What Their Deal Breakers Are In A Relationship And Here Are The Results

I Asked 20 People What Their Deal Breakers Are In A Relationship And Here Are The Results

We all have a line we have to draw at some point.
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Romantic relationships. Almost everyone will experience at least one throughout their life time. Dating is a source of enjoyment and entertainment. You find someone who you can cuddle with, joke around with, go on dates with, etc. Dating may be all smiles and fun at first, but along with finding a person who you can be intimate with, comes complications.

I was curious so I went around and asked 20 people their gender, age, sexuality and what they simply cannot overlook in a relationship, and here's the results!

1. Female, 20, straight

"My deal breaker is when they are too clingy and insist on doing EVERYTHING together. I like having time with them but also time away with friends."

2. Female, 18, straight

"The biggest deal breaker for me is if they are humble. I love when a guy can be proud of all he has accomplished but not flaunt it and be all cocky about it. It drives me crazy! Almost seems like he cares only about himself."

3. Male, 20, straight

"Mine is bad teeth. It makes her more attractive if she has straight teeth. I guess that's just my initial observation."

4. Female, 20, straight

"A guy that asks for nudes."

5. Male, 22, straight

"If you ever cheat, we're done. No more trust ever again."

6. Female, 18, straight

"My deal breaker would be continuous lying. I can't stand it."

7. Female, 18, straight

"I'd say someone who isn't nice to my friends. My friends are a big part of my life and they'd just have to get along."

8. Male, 19, gay

"Height, teeth, weight. I have really high standards."

9. Male, 19, straight

"Bad teeth, because you don't want to show that woman off then. You don't want to kiss her, it makes her face unattractive."

10. Male, 19, straight

"When she smokes anything because I don't like smoking and the smell."

11. Female, 20, bisexual

"My biggest deal breaker would be that he doesn't want a family in the future. I very much want to be a mom."

12. Female, 19, straight

"Clinginess. I understand that a partner is supposed to be your best friend but when we go out with friends or to the bars, I don't want to be attached at the hip! I like to roam and mingle and make friends. Also, extreme PDA like a little is okay but don't suck my face everywhere we go."

13. Female, 19, straight

"When someone doesn't take no as an answer."

14. Female, 18, straight

"Deal breakers: cigarettes; nasty and expensive habit. Not good with money; kind of obvious but wouldn't plan well for the future. Immature; like always having to do stuff for them or bailing them out. Doesn't make me better or bring out the best in me; this is the MOST important because I want to make the boyfriend happy but if I'm not happy then there's no relationship."

15. Male, 21, straight

"People not being trusting. Because if someone doesn't trust you (and you haven't given them a reason not to trust you) then they question everything and it always leads to an argument and it just isn't healthy for a relationship."

16. Female, 18, straight

"Bad teeth and talks about themselves constantly."

17. Female, 21, bisexual

"A deal breaker for me is a future. If you're moving away after college or want completely different things in the future than me, then I'm going to have to pass. I don't want to waste time and emotions on someone who I know won't be there in a year. Also I'm not attracted to people who aren't working towards a future of their own. It's okay to have a dead end job now, but if you are okay with being stagnant in life (which in my expeirences I see a lot of people are), then I'm not interested. #idontwantascrub."

18. Male, 19, straight

"Here is my biggest deal breaker in a relationship: someone who doesn't have any ambitions, goals, dreams... etc. If they don't have anything they want to pursue in life, then there is no way I would pursue a relationship with them!"

19. Female, 18, straight

"No relationship with the Lord."

20. Female, 18, straight

"The number one deal breaker for me in a relationship is when a guy isn't willing to introduce me to his friends and family. I understand that for some, a little time has to have passed for him to feel comfortable, but when a significant amount of time has passed and he still won't let me hang out with his friends or meet his family, it makes me feel like he's embarrassed by me and doesn't care."

After asking these people what their deal breakers are, it appears that many of them relate somehow. All in all, everyone who's in or has been in a relationship has a pet peeve of some sort. Happy end-of-cuffing season!

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10 Things My Significant Other MUST Do In Order To Earn The Privilege Of Meeting My Mom

I say "Hakuna Matata" on the daily, but you really need to say it when you prepare to meet my mom.

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Besides getting married, meeting the parents can be the most stressful time in any relationship. Your boyfriend could be freaking out because he doesn't want to sound like a loon in front of your dad or your mom may be chopping the vegetables a little too loudly making your girlfriend seem uncomfortable in the presence of a knife. Stressing for days (maybe even weeks) up until the day arrives is apart of being in love because you want your parents to love your significant other just as much as you do and when the dinner is finally over, you can breathe again. My family is a little different and my boyfriend has to do these things to be able to meet my mom and my brother (may as well add my cousins into the mix, too because they're my older siblings).

1. Pass the "Best Friends Test"

I have 6 best friends and each one of them has a unique personality. There's the momma friend, the crazy friend, the questionable friend, the laid back friend, the turnt friend, and the friend who just wants me to be happy. If they don't like you, I'll talk to them to figure out why they don't like you. Either way, if you hurt me, they'll hurt you.

2. Prove that stability is your main priority five years from now, even if I'm not in your plan

Things happen and we can't predict everything. We can be together now, break up in a year, and then get back together. It's part of being a teenager/young adult. We deal with a lot, I mean, we're in college, but the older we get, the more stressful life gets, so I want you to show me that you can handle whatever stresses come your way. I want you to be stable on your own before adding a girlfriend into the mix.

3. Deal with my "Hunger Fits"

Let's face it, I can be a brat, but I'm only a brat on three occasions.

1. I'm sleepy.

2. You didn't let me get my way.

3. I'm hungry.

If you eat without me or go get food without me, I might cry and pout like a two-year-old, so you have to be able to handle it. Pro-tip, have snacks with you whenever we go somewhere.

4. Be okay with getting roasted

My cousins are the funniest people you'll ever meet, but they aren't afraid to talk about you while you sit in front of them, so I need to know that you're okay with being roasted. They're not doing it to be mean (trust me, they aren't), but they're doing it because they're my family and they care about me as if I were their little sister.

5. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation for more than 5 minutes

Good conversation is an essential part of a relationship and I love talking about things that are happening in the world today and because my mom is super knowledgeable on a lot of things, you have to be able to talk for more than 5 minutes about something that's engaging.

6. Remain calm in the face of a difficult conversation

I know when it came to certain topics, I used to go off like a volcano, but I've had to grow out of exploding on people just because they don't agree with me. It takes months, maybe even years to master that type of patience and self-restraint, but I grew up fast, so I needed to learn in less than a year how to hold my tongue. I need to know that if you and I (or someone in my family) were to be in a serious conversation, you'd remain calm. I won't blow up on you, so please don't blow up on me (or my family) because then it might not end so well.

7. State your opinion, no matter how mad I might get

Following up with number six, this is a must! I'm a writer, so I deal with a lot of written opinions on the daily. I'm also involved in a lot of organizations where open dialogue is encouraged, so I deal with a lot of verbal opinions, too. People are going to say what they want to say no matter what and I want you to be able to tell me what's on your mind no matter how severe it may be. I'm here for you and I want you to know that you can trust me with your opinions. I might not agree with them, but I can deal with them.

8. Be able to sit and talk about sports and video games with my brother

You'll for sure meet my older brother before you meet my mom only because he acts just like my late grandfather; calm and laid back. He goes with the flow and doesn't get upset unless I get upset, so you don't have to worry about the big bad overprotective brother (but he is very big and very overprotective). He'd much rather sit and talk about "fork-knife" or a basketball game than grill you. It's just how he is. Also, don't be offended if he engages in conversation with you for like ten minutes before he loses interest in talking to you and goes back to playing his game.

9. Be okay and open to the possibility of a long distance relationship

I don't plan on staying down South for long. I actually won't stay here after I graduate from college. Long distance relationships don't work for 40% of all couples, but I want us to not be a statistic. I believe that we could make it, so I would need to know that you'd be okay with me being a thousand miles away; and of course, if you were halfway across the country, I would learn to be okay with it, too.

10. Love your family as much as you love me

Family is a big deal for me. It's always been me, my older brother, and my mom. You may come from a household where it's you and both of your parents, you and one parent, or you, your parent(s), and your siblings. I love my mom and brother with all of my heart and would drop anything (and I have dropped things) to be with them. I want to see that you love your family with the same amount of love that you give me. A man who loves the family he is born into will love the family he marries into.

My family's triangle has never been broken before, so this is new territory for all of us. Don't feel like an outsider, though! These may seem extensive and extra, but it's the things that matter to me. Aside from the apparent trustworthiness, loyalty, wanting three pets, having a sense of humor, and education that I look for in a guy, you have to do these ten things to meet my mom.

If you pass all of these, then you get to meet her. Don't stress about it though because if she doesn't like you at the first meeting, she'll come around by the next because she loves me and she'll see that I love you.

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To The Parents Who Raised The Man Of My Dreams, It Paid Off

You did a phenomenal job.

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As a parent, you always wonder if you're doing it right. Parenting doesn't come with instructions. You're not told how to punish your children in every situation or what to do whenever they accomplish something. You're not completely prepared for it. However, for someone without instructions, you did a phenomenal job.

You raised the man of my dreams.

I've dated throughout my teens and every guy seemed to be the same, but with your son everything was different. Your son is everything I've ever wanted. He is perfect. He is such a gentleman. I want you to know everything you taught him like holding the door and paying for dates, it worked.

I want you to know he doesn't show anger towards me. I'm sure I aggravate him and make him angry, but I want you to know I'll never know when I've done so because he doesn't show it. He gets mad with football games and after he gets done yelling, he apologizes.

He makes me feel beautiful. He has seen me at my absolute worse. He has seen me right when I wake up in the morning with no makeup and my hair is a mess and he tells me I'm beautiful. Whenever so get dressed up, he notices. He makes sure to let me know I look beautiful. He pays attention to detail like that my hair is curled or I have a new nose ring in and he adds them in with the compliments.

He is always supportive. Whenever I started back to school, he was so proud of me. When I started writing for The Odyssey, he shared my articles. He will tell me how proud he is of me. When I make good grades on assignments, he tells me good job.

He is so loving. He comforts me whenever I'm sick. When I had the stomach bug, he got my medicine, trashcans, and played with my hair to comfort me. He brushes and straightens my hair for me whenever I don't feel like it because he wants it to look good.

Thanks to you I have found someone who treats me wonderful. If it wasn't for you, he wouldn't know how to treat a lady. It is because of you that he turned out to be nice and respectful man he is today. I want you to know you did an amazing job raising him. He's everything I've ever wanted. Thank you for raising him to be such a gentleman. Thank you for raising him to be everything I've ever dreamed of.

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