Thank You To The Girlfriends Who Inspire Us

Thank You To The Girlfriends Who Inspire Us

For everything you are and everything you do.

For another year, Valentine's day has come and gone. Whether you were at home being salty because that guy STILL fails to notice you, or you were out wining and dining with your boo, I think we can all agree that Valentine's day is the perfect time of the year to reflect on love.

You can either want nothing to do with that treacherous four-letter word or be absolutely blinded by it. Regardless of what side you're on, I think it's time we said thank you. Thank you to those that play a huge role in making us who we are. To those that always have our backs no matter what, and are always ready to pick us up when we're down.

Girlfriends, this one is for you.

As a guy, I know it's easy to think that it's hard for us to explain our feelings or get all mushy, but I feel it's about time somebody broke that rough exterior.

After all fellas, wouldn't you agree? Be honest, where would we be without the strong women in our lives? They're already strong enough to put up with us, shouldn't we show some appreciation for that?

No, but seriously now. I always see articles about being ghosted, college "baes" we wish we had, or "a letter to the guy that tried to break my best friend's heart," but you rarely ever see an appreciation article for the women that are always there for us. I personally feel that our girlfriends are very much underappreciated. For the guys out there who were also raised by strong, independent women, I'm pretty sure you know exactly what I'm talking about.

I remember being in middle school and having my first "legit" girlfriend. I remember trying my absolute best and even spending my last dollar just to have someone show some love my way because it was this new, exciting thing I've basically never experienced before.

I know a lot of us can remember our first relationships, whether they were the best things ever or just absolute failures. They're memorable because they gave us our first shot of love that a lot of us craved so much to have, and even molded how most of our future relationships would play out. Now maybe I'm just saying this because again, I was raised by nothing but amazing, strong, independent women, but I can't help but think that if it weren't for all those paths and experiences I wouldn't be with the one I love today.

Girlfriends, I want you to know right off the bat that us guys love you for way more than just physical attraction.

To think someone is cute or just downright "sexy" is one thing, but to have someone who appreciates you and helps you develop as a human being is another. I can't even hold back my smile while writing this because I know I have someone in my corner who does that exact thing. When you love us for who we are and help us unlock our full potential, it creates this feeling of love and appreciation that can never be matched.

It's no secret that growing up, a lot of guys are told to be strong and not show emotion. What happens when we need to though? Let's say when our dog passes or classes are just so difficult you want to scream, who can we rely on? Now before you say your parents, think about the girl you ACTUALLY text all day. The one who you can't be without for over 24 hours and is always there with a quick reply when you need it.

Knowing that someone is there for us no matter what always makes everything that much easier. Like yeah, I bombed that math test, but you still think I'm smart right? It gives us the drive to do better, and eventually succeed in whatever it is that we're doing. Whether it's a mental or physical adjustment, having you back us up means the world to us.

We appreciate you because you teach us. Now there's no easy way to put this so I'm going to dive right in. Above raising our IQ every day with academic knowledge, you inform us about stuff that, for most guys, is like a foreign language. By that, I'm saying thank you for teaching us about your body and the constant struggles that you go through.

Now I know it's not an easy topic, but as a guy, I feel like it's our responsibility to learn and understand the struggles that women go through. My girlfriend has taught me SO MUCH about what it means to be a woman in today's day and age. Whether it's about periods (wow such threatening word much scared), getting cat-called on the street, going shopping, or just blatant sexism, we wouldn't be as knowledgeable as we are today without you in our corner.

Guys, once you understand what she goes through, don't be afraid to talk about it. Offer your hand to buy some feminine hygiene products or just spoil her every once in a while. A small gesture makes a big difference, and the least we can do for them is show that we care about their wel-lbeing—mentally and physically.

Because of you, I can't wait to have my own daughters and help them grow to be just as amazing as a lot of passionate and driven women out there.

I can't wait to help them acknowledge that everything they face is natural and that if they ever need something, I'll always be there because YOU taught me about those struggles.

We appreciate you because you elevate us. As mentioned a bit before, it's a lot more than just physical attraction. At this stage in our lives, I'm pretty sure a lot of us are looking for that person that can tolerate us for extended periods of time without wanting to pull their hair out. Once you become that person that we can envision a life with, we keep you closer than Obama keeps Joe Biden.

You become our best friends. You elevate us to the point where we learn not only more about ourselves but the world around us.

You have the ability to instill in us a drive that almost no other person can do.

Once we have that drive to be successful together, no one can stop us. I know it's all about self-love, but once you have someone that loves you even when you hate yourself, it makes life in general that much easier.

In my opinion, the only thing more amazing than a woman who loves you no matter what is a woman who teaches you, motivates you, and drives you no matter what. O

nce you help elevate us to your level, it's almost like the greatest gift you could possibly bestow upon us.

Overall, I'm writing this to say thank you to the unsung heroes that care for us on a daily basis. No matter your orientation, race, gender or belief I think we can all say that our girlfriends are always there to back us up and pick us up when we need it.

For that, we say thank you.

And for my girlfriend, Lanette. I want you to know that I appreciate you with every fiber of my being. As I don't want to make this a love letter, I want you to know though that you help drive my inspiration for many things. My passion for love, equality, intelligence, and life all have grown because you were there to guide and love me. Without you, I wouldn't be at the college I'm at now, I wouldn't be an Odyssey writer, and I most definitely wouldn't have as much fun as I do with you, with anyone else. You are the best, and no matter what, I will be there for you just like you are for me. I love you. I thank you.

I hope everyone's Valentine's Day was filled with love and appreciation. For those who haven't found that person yet, just wait. Because you never know who's going to be waiting around the corner for you to be thankful for.

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I Was Cheated On, But It Brought Me A Sense Of Relief

Don't get me wrong, I'm still heartbroken.

I dated him for over two years.

We did everything together.

I entered a different world when I laid in his arms, felt his touch, and kissed his electric lips.

It was amazing. It was beautiful. He was my first true love.

But…something always felt off.

From the day we started dating, I had a feeling that something wasn’t right, but I pushed it back, wayyyy back, because my love for him was stronger than I had ever felt before. But then, as time passed, although my love remained, that uneasy feeling grew. In fact, it grew so much, that I couldn’t push it back anymore.

A year ago was when I started realizing that I was becoming more unhappy. It just didn’t feel right sometimes, and I couldn’t figure out what exactly it was. There were magical days, but there were also devastating days. He would say things, and I would wonder, “Why would he say that to me?” but I brushed it off. I kept silent. I didn’t want to lose him and his love for me.

As college started, the feeling grew. I found myself more unhappy than I had ever been with him—I just didn’t want to admit it to myself. One day, I found myself lost and in tears. I prayed to God and I asked him for a sign, to show me if I should be in this relationship or not.

One hour later, I got a direct message from a girl. It said:

“I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I would want to know if my boyfriend cheated on me, so please text this number."

Want to know the craziest thing? Above and beyond feeling the immense pain, I felt a greater sense of relief, like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

It’s been 11 days since we have officially been broken up. And yes, It hurts. It hurts a lot. I wake up every day with a pit in my stomach, because for the first time in over two years, I am alone. Not completely alone of course, but my other half is missing.

I walk around campus constantly being reminded of him by the simplest of things. Where we used to eat, his favorite songs, what he used to say, wear, and do. Anything really, my mind finds a way to bring it back to him.

Heartbreak is exactly what it sounds like. I feel like my heart is shattered. I have little motivation to do my work and I cry, a lot. I'm not going to sugar coat it and say it's easy because it's not. Breaking up with him was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

The thing is, yes, I feel sad, and yes, it hurts. But for the first time in forever, I am hopeful for the future. I am optimistic about my life and what will come from this monumental battle.

I still think of him every day, but I know one day I will wake up and he won’t be on my mind.

And when that day comes, a new journey begins.

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If You’re Grossed Out By Me And My Boyfriend Kissing Goodbye, You Need A Reality Check

We shouldn't be shut down for loving each other.

You see it all the time. A couple goes to give each other any form of affection and the crowd around them goes wild. Throwing phrases like, "gross," "I just threw up a little," "get a room," and more. These comments leave the couple feeling uncomfortable with their actions of just showing love for one another.

Why is this the natural response when two people in love are showcasing their love?

I do see certain points. The couples all over each other (making out, grabbing any part of the body they can reach, without even stopping for air) can get overwhelming and highly inappropriate. Those are the moments where I myself get grossed out.

There are moments and times for examples of affection. Where you become heavily attached to one another, that's more so for private places to be shared with just the two of you. If a couple decides to give each other a kiss goodbye as they part ways, they shouldn't feel reprimanded for doing so.

I kiss my family members on the cheek when I say hello, as well as when I say goodbye. Why is kissing my boyfriend goodbye any different?

Then comes the displays of affection that don't even involve any physical affection. As a writer, I enjoy writing about the experiences my boyfriend and I share.

I write about those experiences for quite a few reasons, some being to have another way of showcasing my appreciation for him, to give advice to other couples who share similar feelings/experiences, and to give hope to those who are still searching for that special someone and more.

Showing love for one another is something we all need to do more. This world is so filled with hatred and anger. Kindness and love, even in small attributes can go a long way.

I also know that the world can be a scary place. Things can change and anything can happen in the blink of an eye. While it isn't always the best way to think, I could lose him at any given time. I would much rather "be gross" and show as much affection to him as I can than not and regret not doing it more.

The jokes can be funny at times when coming from close friends. But there comes a time when it begins to bother the couple. They shouldn't have to feel anxious when it comes to showing their affection to one another just because other people are around. Give them a break and let them be in love.

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