Thank You To The Girlfriends Who Inspire Us

Thank You To The Girlfriends Who Inspire Us

For everything you are and everything you do.
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For another year, Valentine's day has come and gone. Whether you were at home being salty because that guy STILL fails to notice you, or you were out wining and dining with your boo, I think we can all agree that Valentine's day is the perfect time of the year to reflect on love.

You can either want nothing to do with that treacherous four-letter word or be absolutely blinded by it. Regardless of what side you're on, I think it's time we said thank you. Thank you to those that play a huge role in making us who we are. To those that always have our backs no matter what, and are always ready to pick us up when we're down.

Girlfriends, this one is for you.

As a guy, I know it's easy to think that it's hard for us to explain our feelings or get all mushy, but I feel it's about time somebody broke that rough exterior.

After all fellas, wouldn't you agree? Be honest, where would we be without the strong women in our lives? They're already strong enough to put up with us, shouldn't we show some appreciation for that?

No, but seriously now. I always see articles about being ghosted, college "baes" we wish we had, or "a letter to the guy that tried to break my best friend's heart," but you rarely ever see an appreciation article for the women that are always there for us. I personally feel that our girlfriends are very much underappreciated. For the guys out there who were also raised by strong, independent women, I'm pretty sure you know exactly what I'm talking about.

I remember being in middle school and having my first "legit" girlfriend. I remember trying my absolute best and even spending my last dollar just to have someone show some love my way because it was this new, exciting thing I've basically never experienced before.

I know a lot of us can remember our first relationships, whether they were the best things ever or just absolute failures. They're memorable because they gave us our first shot of love that a lot of us craved so much to have, and even molded how most of our future relationships would play out. Now maybe I'm just saying this because again, I was raised by nothing but amazing, strong, independent women, but I can't help but think that if it weren't for all those paths and experiences I wouldn't be with the one I love today.

Girlfriends, I want you to know right off the bat that us guys love you for way more than just physical attraction.

To think someone is cute or just downright "sexy" is one thing, but to have someone who appreciates you and helps you develop as a human being is another. I can't even hold back my smile while writing this because I know I have someone in my corner who does that exact thing. When you love us for who we are and help us unlock our full potential, it creates this feeling of love and appreciation that can never be matched.

It's no secret that growing up, a lot of guys are told to be strong and not show emotion. What happens when we need to though? Let's say when our dog passes or classes are just so difficult you want to scream, who can we rely on? Now before you say your parents, think about the girl you ACTUALLY text all day. The one who you can't be without for over 24 hours and is always there with a quick reply when you need it.

Knowing that someone is there for us no matter what always makes everything that much easier. Like yeah, I bombed that math test, but you still think I'm smart right? It gives us the drive to do better, and eventually succeed in whatever it is that we're doing. Whether it's a mental or physical adjustment, having you back us up means the world to us.

We appreciate you because you teach us. Now there's no easy way to put this so I'm going to dive right in. Above raising our IQ every day with academic knowledge, you inform us about stuff that, for most guys, is like a foreign language. By that, I'm saying thank you for teaching us about your body and the constant struggles that you go through.

Now I know it's not an easy topic, but as a guy, I feel like it's our responsibility to learn and understand the struggles that women go through. My girlfriend has taught me SO MUCH about what it means to be a woman in today's day and age. Whether it's about periods (wow such threatening word much scared), getting cat-called on the street, going shopping, or just blatant sexism, we wouldn't be as knowledgeable as we are today without you in our corner.

Guys, once you understand what she goes through, don't be afraid to talk about it. Offer your hand to buy some feminine hygiene products or just spoil her every once in a while. A small gesture makes a big difference, and the least we can do for them is show that we care about their wel-lbeing—mentally and physically.

Because of you, I can't wait to have my own daughters and help them grow to be just as amazing as a lot of passionate and driven women out there.

I can't wait to help them acknowledge that everything they face is natural and that if they ever need something, I'll always be there because YOU taught me about those struggles.

We appreciate you because you elevate us. As mentioned a bit before, it's a lot more than just physical attraction. At this stage in our lives, I'm pretty sure a lot of us are looking for that person that can tolerate us for extended periods of time without wanting to pull their hair out. Once you become that person that we can envision a life with, we keep you closer than Obama keeps Joe Biden.

You become our best friends. You elevate us to the point where we learn not only more about ourselves but the world around us.

You have the ability to instill in us a drive that almost no other person can do.

Once we have that drive to be successful together, no one can stop us. I know it's all about self-love, but once you have someone that loves you even when you hate yourself, it makes life in general that much easier.

In my opinion, the only thing more amazing than a woman who loves you no matter what is a woman who teaches you, motivates you, and drives you no matter what. O

nce you help elevate us to your level, it's almost like the greatest gift you could possibly bestow upon us.

Overall, I'm writing this to say thank you to the unsung heroes that care for us on a daily basis. No matter your orientation, race, gender or belief I think we can all say that our girlfriends are always there to back us up and pick us up when we need it.

For that, we say thank you.


And for my girlfriend, Lanette. I want you to know that I appreciate you with every fiber of my being. As I don't want to make this a love letter, I want you to know though that you help drive my inspiration for many things. My passion for love, equality, intelligence, and life all have grown because you were there to guide and love me. Without you, I wouldn't be at the college I'm at now, I wouldn't be an Odyssey writer, and I most definitely wouldn't have as much fun as I do with you, with anyone else. You are the best, and no matter what, I will be there for you just like you are for me. I love you. I thank you.

I hope everyone's Valentine's Day was filled with love and appreciation. For those who haven't found that person yet, just wait. Because you never know who's going to be waiting around the corner for you to be thankful for.

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16 Things You Start Texting Eachother If You've Been Dating TOO long

You two aren't even dating anymore...the term doesn't seem enough

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There comes a time in a relationship where the honeymoon stage ends. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, dates become more infrequent, and unfortunately, the sweet "good morning" texts end.

But don't worry, that just means all the real fun is just beginning.

When the honeymoon stage ends you stop seeing that person as just your date or piece of arm candy, you start seeing them more as just another extension of yourself. And unfortunately, once that happens, all barriers that once were immediately come loose.

Does that mean the romance is dead? Just take a look at these texts you two start texting if you have been dating too long.

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My Date and I Split The Bill Because it's 2018

Common sense means more to me than antiquated gender norms

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I'm a girl. Sometimes I pay for dates. Shocking, I know.

But when you're a college student or a millennial struggling to get by, dropping $100 on a fancy dinner or $30 for a date to the movies can sometimes be too much.

Which is why, when I go on dates, I at least offer to split the bill. Whether I've been on one date or dozens with this person, I never go with the expectation that someone is going to buy me a meal.

Rather, I plan on splitting the bill, each of us putting down a credit card and signing our respective receipts when they arrive. We tend to either do that or work out a sort of "I'll pay for lunch, you pay for the movie" sort of system.

While no one ends up counting pennies and squabbling over who ultimately ended up paying more and both people get to go away happy with their wallets (at least mostly) intact.

It helps on a number of levels. It helps us balance our finances with having fun, making sure we only end up ordering something we're comfortable paying for. It also helps us save money for things that are more important, like buying a car or getting to go on a weekend trip with friends.

While some would argue that it's the man's role to pay for the meal and that even suggesting that a woman pitches in is anti-chivalry and feminist garbage, the reality is actually the opposite.

Now that men and women tend to both be working and bringing home money, a woman doesn't have to rely on a man to buy everything for her anymore. In the same way, a man no longer has to feel obligated to work himself to death to provide his wife/girlfriend/string of casual flings with whatever they want.

Now, are there exceptions to this? Of course. I've been on dates with men that insist on paying for dinner, which I let them do but then I buy the ice cream.

Other times, it's just easier for one person to pay for both. Whether someone has to run before the bill gets paid, one person is driving in the drive-through, or the restaurant won't split the check, splitting the bill doesn't have to be a perfect science.

At the end of the day, it's the intention that matters. To even offer to share the financial burden is a great way to show consideration for the person you're dating.

Besides, it's 2018 and common sense means more to me than antiquated gender norms. Dating is about mutual giving and receiving and the relationship has been unbalanced for far too long.

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