We Didn’t Date, But I Still Deserved Respect

We Didn’t Date, But I Still Deserved Respect

For the girls with a f*ckboy in their lives
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Dear Immature College Boy Who Wasted My Time,

We didn’t date, and that’s perfectly fine, but that didn’t mean you could treat me the way you did. You know better than most people what I’ve been through in the past, so to be treated by you in similar ways is shocking to say the least.

It’s unfortunate that you see a difference between treating a girl properly and being a decent person because there truly is no difference. I was never your girlfriend, which means that you were never inclined to take me out on dates or hold my hand in public. I never expected any of that. Instead, what I expected was for you to respect me and my time, and realize that I wasn’t there for you to mess with physically and emotionally whenever you felt like it. You owed me nothing more than the respect you give and show your friends, but you couldn’t even deliver that to me on its most basic level.

I can no longer count on two hands how many times you disrespected me or purposefully gave me ambiguous answers to serious questions simply because you couldn’t confront your own feelings. Your games were never fun, and they never will be—for anyone.

What you clearly have yet to realize is that you lost a girl who cared for and respected you as an individual—as a friend—and you didn’t even have the decency to say goodbye to her. You walked out of my life and never looked back, neglecting our friendship in the process. The worst part was realizing just how little I meant to you all this time.

I no longer have the patience to involve myself with people who waste my time and play with my feelings like they’re part of some game. I was always there whenever you needed me, but you couldn’t extend that same courtesy any of the times I asked.

Immature college boy, learn to treat a girl correctly because maybe once you do, you’ll realize that the reason you’ve been single all this time wasn’t out of personal choice; it was because you’re an utter asshole.


Sincerely,

The Girl Who Was Always Too Good For You

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Literally, so hot RN

12 Times IG Made Saying G-Bye To Halsey and G-Eazy Very Hard

Alexa, play "Him & I" on repeat.

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G-Eazy and Halsey went public with their swoon-worthy relationship on Instagram in September 2017. The couple recently broke up after several months of being on again, off again. But that didn't stop them from having the cutest displays of public affection all over their Instagrams during their courtship.

Here are the 12 cutest Instagrams of G-Eazy ad Halsey that make it all that much harder to let go of their relationship:

1. When they went to the AMA's and looked like the hottest couple at prom

2. When they spent a normal day by the pool just Mom, Dad & Pup 

3. When they took a casual ride down the gondola in Venezia, Italy

4. When they were too smitten for us to handle

6. When they had an impromptu photoshoot in a convenient store that could be on the cover of Vogue

7. When the show STOPPED as they graced the MTV Movie & TV Awards red carpet

8. When G posted a picture of his Mom and Halsey for International Women's Day (and I shed real tears)

9. When they showed us what pure bliss looks like (and he quoted their song for his caption)

10. When they kissed ON STAGE during a performance together and confirmed that they are the OTP

11. When G posted a candid picture of them kissing in the snow

Halsey and G-Eazy are the modern Romeo and Juliet as far as I'm concerned. They serve up a heavy dose of love on all of their social media accounts and prove to us time and time again that real love is out there and they're not afraid to show theirs off.

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I Watched The Boys I Hooked Up With Fall In Love With Other Girls And Wondered Why They Couldn't Love Me

Maybe I cared too much or I'm just not pretty enough. I guess I'll never know.

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When I was 20, I stopped going on dates because my first relationship was so toxic, it broke me. To save myself from future disappointment and minimize the chances of getting attached to any one person, I joined hookup culture.

For two years, I watched my friends with benefits fall in love with other girls. And I wondered why none of them ever loved me.

When I chose this lifestyle, I wasn't seeking a relationship—clearly. I wasn't completely closed off to the idea, despite my lingering heartache, but it wasn't something I initially desired. That also meant I didn't anticipate any of my FWBs wanting relationships either, much less falling in love. (Since when do f*ckboys try to tie themselves down?) Regardless, I envied the girls who singlehandedly convinced each of them to abandon a lifestyle they previously so desired, while wondering what it was about me that couldn't entice them to do the same.

To be quite honest, all of these relationships exceeded my expectations in their beginnings. Over time, I watched these boys truly love and fall in love with their girls. But alas, nothing is perfect and everyone is toxic in their own way. These relationships, like so many others, had their highs and almost equally as many lows, which only continued to make me wonder what about these girls was so worth the emotional scarring. It broke my heart that they found respite in someone and something so lackluster.

Unfortunately, I understood. I still do. We're hosts to an undying vice that acknowledges the necessity of escape, but simultaneously convinces us there isn't the possibility of one. I understood this so deeply, and the familiarity of their situations only wrung my heart.

Despite caring for a couple of these boys more than I cared for the others, I was never in love with any of them. Perhaps that's one of the reasons they couldn't love me. Regardless, it means my intent was never to replace any of the girls. It was simply to understand what it was about them and their somewhat f*cked up relationships that outshone me. Curiosity really did kill the cat.

Don't be mistaken—I have loved, and I've also been loved before. So it's not that I think I'm unworthy. But as I continued to learn more about these far-from-perfect relationships, I wanted answers. I was, and sometimes still am, suspended in turmoil, harboring a genuine curiosity for where these boys found fault in me and why they couldn't look past those flaws.

Today's nature would lead me to believe I just wasn't pretty enough for them. Or maybe I tried too hard or cared too much. Whatever the case, it doesn't matter because in some way, shape, or form, I just wasn't enough for any of those boys. And that's fine. Truly. You can't win 'em all, but after all the time we invested in each other, I just wanted to know why I wasn't any of their first choices.

Despite it all, whether or not their relationships at the time are still currently active, I'm at ease knowing they are capable of love. It's silly, but considering their undying habits, it's true. And I hope that one day, they find girls who will encourage them to leave those habits behind for good.

I never needed any of my friends with benefits to love me. I simply wanted to know why, after everything we'd been through, they didn't.

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