Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

There are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

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I'm in a long distance relationship and, as everyone in a long distance relationship knows, it's really hard. Sometimes it's really hard not seeing the person you care about as much as you'd like. But as I've been contemplating my own relationship, I realized there are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

First, when you see your partner, your activities are most likely planned in advance. You know what you'll be doing and where you'll be going, so there's none of that back-and-forth "what do you want to do?" questioning. Also, you get to experience a lot more with that person because whenever you see your partner, you want to go out and experience life with them.

Second, it makes you miss that person more. If you see your partner all the time, you start to take that time for granted. It's a lot easier to make last-minute plans because they're closer to you. However, when you only get to see your partner once a week or a couple times a month, you value your time spent with them more. You realize how much you like spending time with that person, and it makes your relationship stronger.

Third, you're able to focus more on yourself in your free time. Since your partner isn't around, you still have time to yourself to spend at the gym, going to dinner with friends, etc. You also don't have to give up any time during the week, so you still can attend all the activities you'd want to if you were single, such as '90s Night, a late-night Zumba class or any other event. You can also still make last-minute plans with friends without interfering with your partner's expectations.

You're also able to spend an equal amount of time with friends. A lot of times, girls sacrifice time they could spend with their friends to hang out with their partner, but when you're in a long distance relationship, you can still see your friends all throughout the week and on the weekends that you don't see your partner. It forces you to put in the time and effort to see your friends and keep your relationships strong, and it helps you to keep an equal balance between your partner and your friends.

Long distance also forces you to improve your communication skills. Since you won't see your partner in person as often, you have to make time to text, FaceTime, Skype, Snapchat, etc. whenever it's convenient for both you and your partner. By doing this, you're making time for your partner, which means you'll be more attentive, and it gives you an opportunity to show you care about that person and you're making time to ask about their day or make sure they're doing alright. Also, if any conflicts arise in your relationship, you have to face them head on since you most likely can't see them in person to talk about whatever may be bothering you.

Lastly, being long distance makes you improve your time management skills. If I know my boyfriend is coming up for the weekend, I make sure to get all my work done during the week, or at least a good majority of it, so that I can devote time to seeing him. This also means that when I'm studying, I'm more focused on my studies since I want to make sure that I retain the information the first time. You also have to balance your time between school and your relationship, and since you can't see your partner as often as you'd like, you have time to study and maintain your grades throughout the week.

Long distance can be tricky, and you miss your partner like crazy a lot of times, but if it's with the right person you can have a successful relationship.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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