Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

There are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

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I'm in a long distance relationship and, as everyone in a long distance relationship knows, it's really hard. Sometimes it's really hard not seeing the person you care about as much as you'd like. But as I've been contemplating my own relationship, I realized there are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

First, when you see your partner, your activities are most likely planned in advance. You know what you'll be doing and where you'll be going, so there's none of that back-and-forth "what do you want to do?" questioning. Also, you get to experience a lot more with that person because whenever you see your partner, you want to go out and experience life with them.

Second, it makes you miss that person more. If you see your partner all the time, you start to take that time for granted. It's a lot easier to make last-minute plans because they're closer to you. However, when you only get to see your partner once a week or a couple times a month, you value your time spent with them more. You realize how much you like spending time with that person, and it makes your relationship stronger.

Third, you're able to focus more on yourself in your free time. Since your partner isn't around, you still have time to yourself to spend at the gym, going to dinner with friends, etc. You also don't have to give up any time during the week, so you still can attend all the activities you'd want to if you were single, such as '90s Night, a late-night Zumba class or any other event. You can also still make last-minute plans with friends without interfering with your partner's expectations.

You're also able to spend an equal amount of time with friends. A lot of times, girls sacrifice time they could spend with their friends to hang out with their partner, but when you're in a long distance relationship, you can still see your friends all throughout the week and on the weekends that you don't see your partner. It forces you to put in the time and effort to see your friends and keep your relationships strong, and it helps you to keep an equal balance between your partner and your friends.

Long distance also forces you to improve your communication skills. Since you won't see your partner in person as often, you have to make time to text, FaceTime, Skype, Snapchat, etc. whenever it's convenient for both you and your partner. By doing this, you're making time for your partner, which means you'll be more attentive, and it gives you an opportunity to show you care about that person and you're making time to ask about their day or make sure they're doing alright. Also, if any conflicts arise in your relationship, you have to face them head on since you most likely can't see them in person to talk about whatever may be bothering you.

Lastly, being long distance makes you improve your time management skills. If I know my boyfriend is coming up for the weekend, I make sure to get all my work done during the week, or at least a good majority of it, so that I can devote time to seeing him. This also means that when I'm studying, I'm more focused on my studies since I want to make sure that I retain the information the first time. You also have to balance your time between school and your relationship, and since you can't see your partner as often as you'd like, you have time to study and maintain your grades throughout the week.

Long distance can be tricky, and you miss your partner like crazy a lot of times, but if it's with the right person you can have a successful relationship.

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.

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If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

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Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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