Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

Distance Makes Your Relationship Grow Stronger, If You're With The Right Person

There are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

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I'm in a long distance relationship and, as everyone in a long distance relationship knows, it's really hard. Sometimes it's really hard not seeing the person you care about as much as you'd like. But as I've been contemplating my own relationship, I realized there are several pros to long distance that other couples don't understand.

First, when you see your partner, your activities are most likely planned in advance. You know what you'll be doing and where you'll be going, so there's none of that back-and-forth "what do you want to do?" questioning. Also, you get to experience a lot more with that person because whenever you see your partner, you want to go out and experience life with them.

Second, it makes you miss that person more. If you see your partner all the time, you start to take that time for granted. It's a lot easier to make last-minute plans because they're closer to you. However, when you only get to see your partner once a week or a couple times a month, you value your time spent with them more. You realize how much you like spending time with that person, and it makes your relationship stronger.

Third, you're able to focus more on yourself in your free time. Since your partner isn't around, you still have time to yourself to spend at the gym, going to dinner with friends, etc. You also don't have to give up any time during the week, so you still can attend all the activities you'd want to if you were single, such as '90s Night, a late-night Zumba class or any other event. You can also still make last-minute plans with friends without interfering with your partner's expectations.

You're also able to spend an equal amount of time with friends. A lot of times, girls sacrifice time they could spend with their friends to hang out with their partner, but when you're in a long distance relationship, you can still see your friends all throughout the week and on the weekends that you don't see your partner. It forces you to put in the time and effort to see your friends and keep your relationships strong, and it helps you to keep an equal balance between your partner and your friends.

Long distance also forces you to improve your communication skills. Since you won't see your partner in person as often, you have to make time to text, FaceTime, Skype, Snapchat, etc. whenever it's convenient for both you and your partner. By doing this, you're making time for your partner, which means you'll be more attentive, and it gives you an opportunity to show you care about that person and you're making time to ask about their day or make sure they're doing alright. Also, if any conflicts arise in your relationship, you have to face them head on since you most likely can't see them in person to talk about whatever may be bothering you.

Lastly, being long distance makes you improve your time management skills. If I know my boyfriend is coming up for the weekend, I make sure to get all my work done during the week, or at least a good majority of it, so that I can devote time to seeing him. This also means that when I'm studying, I'm more focused on my studies since I want to make sure that I retain the information the first time. You also have to balance your time between school and your relationship, and since you can't see your partner as often as you'd like, you have time to study and maintain your grades throughout the week.

Long distance can be tricky, and you miss your partner like crazy a lot of times, but if it's with the right person you can have a successful relationship.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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