If You're Not SURE He Likes You, He Probably Doesn't

If You're Not SURE He Likes You, He Probably Doesn't

The answer is simple. Now is the time to stop making the same mistakes in love and romance. You'll know if he likes you. If he doesn't make that clear to you, he likely isn't the right person.

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There is no limit to the number of articles and online quizzes that claim to determine whether someone has romantic feelings towards you, but the truth is you cannot relegate the responsibility of figuring out the answer to someone else.

If your potential partner has actual potential, he will make an effort to show his feelings for you—and you will be able to feel out the answer for yourself. You won't have doubts. You won't have to second guess your gut feelings. You will be secure that the feelings are mutual.

Why would you want to be with someone who only maybe likes you?

We've all fallen into this trap of what-ifs, but now it's time to climb back out. Of course, there's always a period of not-knowing in the blossoming of any relationship as you begin to ascertain your own feelings, but the not knowing should not be chronic. He either likes you or he doesn't. And you definitely don't deserve someone who is uncertain about how he feels, one foot in, one foot out. No, he should figure that sh*t out on his own and if he comes back with open arms, you can decide whether he's worth it to you. You need to think of yourself as a high-value individual, and should never settle for maybe, maybe, maybe. Everyone deserves more than that.

Keep in mind the words of author John Green: "Don't bother with someone who maybe likes you."

I always made the mistake of chasing the wrong men thinking that I was always one step away from not maybe. That's not how it works, for whatever reason, they can't be certain. Or you're not certain about what to think.

By holding onto someone who isn't right for you, you reduce your chances of meeting that person who is right. The person who will be direct and say "' have feelings for you," "I think I've fallen for you," "I love you," and show it too. When you continue to bother with someone who maybe likes you, you stop questioning whether you should like them. You become too caught up in them liking you, you don't stop to think: huh, maybe there's a better fit for me out there, somewhere. Because it's better to be alone than to be pining after the wrong person—or finally get with them and realize how wrong you are for each other.

Sure, give him a chance, but don't accept any wishy-washy words or behavior. Getting someone to tell you they have feelings shouldn't be like pulling teeth, let them pour it out on their own volition or assume it's not there. Go with your gut instinct and follow that trail.

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10 Valentine's Day Facts To Send To Your Crush—The Rest Is History

From secret marriages to pet Valentines.

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Behind the bouquets of roses and candy hearts are years of history behind these Valentine's Day facts.

5. One theory for the origin of Valentine's Day was secret marriages in Rome​.

One theory for the origin of Valentine's Day was in Ancient Rome, when Emperor Claudius II made it illegal for men to marry, as he claimed single men made better soldiers. Apparently, St. Valentine performed secret marriages, for which he was executed on February 14th.

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7 Signs Your Single Friend Might Be Better At Dating Than You

They might be dating geniuses and you don't even know it.

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We all have a go-to friend who gives THE BEST dating advice. Somehow, whether they're single or in a relationship, they always know just what to say. Pretty soon, you can't help but wonder if your single friend might actually be better at dating than you...

1. Their advice is the best and you ask for it quite often.

Don't get me wrong here, asking for advice to someone is always a good thing because others may offer a clearer and more objective perspective of your relationship problems. However, if you are constantly recurring to the same person in order to get advice and that person happens to be your single friend, then you're probably not the best at making your own decisions like he or she might be.

2. They are more selective than you are.

Sometimes if you stop and wonder why they are not dating a lot or anyone for that matter, you may think they are either weird or questioning their own sexuality. Truth is, they're actually just looking for a person they know they can have a long and stable relationship with, and as you may know, those are kinda hard to come by.

They don't simply try to date anybody they've just met because they know their chances of making it work are slimmer than dating a person they know well. In short, they are more selective because they know what they want whereas you may not just yet.

3. They helped you find your current girlfriend/boyfriend.

Because they also probably know you better than you know yourself, they are also the best wingmen or real-life Tinder matchers. More likely than not, they probably helped you or contributed to finding your current lover. They might have helped you choose between one person or another or they might have simply made a suggestion on why you should date someone and you went ahead and followed it.

If you think about it, I'm sure you might remember a time or two when they were right in those kinds of situations.

4. They are not clingy.

After dating several people for a while and having experienced a lot of things, it is almost inevitable that sometimes negative thoughts will pop-up in your mind such as jealousy, the possibility that your counterpart might be cheating on you, or the need to do everything with them because you don't want to lose them. This sense of attachment and fear of losing your counterpart might suggest you to be with your couple all the time.

But in reality, giving each other space to breathe is essential, especially if you want to have a good relationship. Your single friend probably understands this concept better than you because since he or she has been alone for a long time, he or she probably values his or her time alone more than you do, making them less susceptible to be clingy.

They know that balance is key.

5. They are better at learning from their own mistakes than you.

If you think about it, dating is a constant cycle that revolves around screwing up and then making up. For this reason, when you're in a relationship, you always get the chance to always keep learning from the mistakes you make—whether that is by not dating someone who's crazy like you did in the past, or by not letting your significant other be too controlling or manipulating.

However, for some reason or another, your single friend seems to never fall for the same thing twice. This most likely means they learned something and they are probably going to take more precautions when considering other dating prospects. By the way, this also explains why they tend to be more selective.

6. They are more independent.

Don't know if you have heard this before but usually, people who are more independent and confident are overall more attractive than those who are not. Knowing how to be independent is a key characteristic in both life and dating. But when you've been dating a little too much and have not spent some time alone, you're probably lacking in this area. Mainly because by dating too much you can unconsciously develop a feeling of dependence upon someone else that your single friend most like does not have.

7. They understand timing and its effects.

If you have dated multiple people you probably know what I am talking about. At times you may find yourself in a situation where you seemingly find the ideal person to date but you can't because you either live far away from each other or either one of you is going through a situation that is not allowing you to date. This problem is quite relevant among relationships but a lot of people foolishly chose to date anyway while knowing they will probably won't be able to hold a sane relationship.

Single people, including your friend/s, have probably seen how this affects other people's relationships and they want to take no part of that. Thus, they avoid going for those kinds of relationships altogether because they rather invest their time in something that has greater chances of working out.

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