If You're Not SURE He Likes You, He Probably Doesn't

If You're Not SURE He Likes You, He Probably Doesn't

The answer is simple. Now is the time to stop making the same mistakes in love and romance. You'll know if he likes you. If he doesn't make that clear to you, he likely isn't the right person.

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There is no limit to the number of articles and online quizzes that claim to determine whether someone has romantic feelings towards you, but the truth is you cannot relegate the responsibility of figuring out the answer to someone else.

If your potential partner has actual potential, he will make an effort to show his feelings for you—and you will be able to feel out the answer for yourself. You won't have doubts. You won't have to second guess your gut feelings. You will be secure that the feelings are mutual.

Why would you want to be with someone who only maybe likes you?

We've all fallen into this trap of what-ifs, but now it's time to climb back out. Of course, there's always a period of not-knowing in the blossoming of any relationship as you begin to ascertain your own feelings, but the not knowing should not be chronic. He either likes you or he doesn't. And you definitely don't deserve someone who is uncertain about how he feels, one foot in, one foot out. No, he should figure that sh*t out on his own and if he comes back with open arms, you can decide whether he's worth it to you. You need to think of yourself as a high-value individual, and should never settle for maybe, maybe, maybe. Everyone deserves more than that.

Keep in mind the words of author John Green: "Don't bother with someone who maybe likes you."

I always made the mistake of chasing the wrong men thinking that I was always one step away from not maybe. That's not how it works, for whatever reason, they can't be certain. Or you're not certain about what to think.

By holding onto someone who isn't right for you, you reduce your chances of meeting that person who is right. The person who will be direct and say "' have feelings for you," "I think I've fallen for you," "I love you," and show it too. When you continue to bother with someone who maybe likes you, you stop questioning whether you should like them. You become too caught up in them liking you, you don't stop to think: huh, maybe there's a better fit for me out there, somewhere. Because it's better to be alone than to be pining after the wrong person—or finally get with them and realize how wrong you are for each other.

Sure, give him a chance, but don't accept any wishy-washy words or behavior. Getting someone to tell you they have feelings shouldn't be like pulling teeth, let them pour it out on their own volition or assume it's not there. Go with your gut instinct and follow that trail.

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Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it

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This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?

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As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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