I Am So Jealous Of The Way My Parents Met—Without A Dating App

I Am So Jealous Of The Way My Parents Met—Without A Dating App

There's nothing like a cute and classic love story.

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Now I know this sounds crazy, it sure is to me, but my parents actually didn't meet on a dating app. In fact, Tinder, Bumble, Christian Mingle, MeetaMormon, and other dating sites did not exist. Therefore, people were actually forced to talk face-to-face and interact with each other.

What a concept!

I feel like as the days go on, new inventions arise, app updates blow up our phone, we get more closed off from each other, and sucked into the world of the web. We correspond through a series of text messages and emojis, making it impossible to judge tone. This means miscommunication is a common occurrence.

Nowadays a lot of couples meet on Tinder, or some sort of dating website. And nothing is wrong with that, I just miss the old-fashioned way of dating without the use of technology.

Men used to ask women out on dates in person. Girls would call guys on the phone and they would spend hours talking late into the night. Dates would consist of flowers and a sweet dinner or some romantic gesture.

We have traded those sweet memories and moments for texts to "hang out," as well as a collection of "stories," "streaks," and "goals." Many times, we care more about the picture, than the moment itself. Long and deep conversations are replaced by sitting side-by-side and watching a movie, both on their cell phones.

My parents grew up in a small town together and went to elementary school together. They would all play kickball together, as well as "house." My parents would play the mom and dad in their friend group. In fifth grade, my dad wrote my mom a note. It read, "Want to go out with me?" With two boxes of "yes" or "no." My mom, always the mature one and thinking into the future, thought she was too young to date and checked the no box.


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Shortly after, my mom moved three hours away to a bigger town and spent life going to school, cheerleading, and dating guys who are now either bald or divorced (according to Facebook). My dad stayed in his hometown until he left for college.

They both ended up going to the same college and met one day through mutual friends. They immediately became good friends. After pining after each other for months (neither wanted to risk their friendship), they finally went out on a date. My dad would always call my mom, they would pray together, and they enjoyed each others company. Two weeks later my dad asked my mom if she wanted to marry him as they were hanging out. My mom said yes after they graduated college and a few years later he proposed on a beach and they got married.

Fast forward 25 years later and they have three kids, one dog, have moved to three different states, and are still as ridiculously in love as they were when they met. The closest thing to a fight they've ever had is when my dad is driving and freaks my mom out. They have nothing but kind words for each other and always put each other first. They still go out on little dates and tease each other. My dad once brought home cookies, to which all of us kids ate them. When my mom came downstairs and saw we didn't save any for her (sorry mom), my dad pulled out another box of cookies he had bought just for her.

Cute, right?

My parents didn't have the dating apps or the cell phones. They had to do it the "old-fashioned" way, aka talking and communicating. Their love story is cute and innocent and something I hope I can someday have. I want the cute boy-meets-girl love story that doesn't involve an app.

So as I wait for my story to play out, I will look to my parents for an example of what a beautiful and Godly relationship should be and take notes.

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Literally, so hot RN

To My Future Fiance, If You’re Proposing To Me For The Instagram Content, Have Fun Posting A Video Of Me Saying ‘No’

Whoever you are, take notes for future reference.

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OK, OK, he can propose to me in public, but if it's a grand event that has nothing to do with my character, then 100% I'm saying, "No, try again."

I hope that one day someone special has my heart and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. But I want them to really know who I am. Inside and out and all around. I'm not a showy person, I'm not into social media, and I don't want a 20-carat ring. There's nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's never been for me. It's just not me.

I'm never going to do anything because someone else or the general society thinks or says I should do it. I like to defy society and do what's best for me. Even if I do something that is acceptable by society's standards, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I always say, "If someone wants to get to know me then they shouldn't judge what they see, read, or hear, they should just say, 'Hi,' and we can go from there." I don't post something for others to see, I post it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. Because I impulsively want to.

So, I want my fiancé's initial feeling of complete and absolute love to be blurted out to me ASAP. You don't have to keep your passions hidden while you plan a huge fiasco with balloons and confetti and "Will you marry me?" clouds in the sky. I don't need that for you to tell me you love me.

My dream proposal would be us cooking and taste tasting dinner, dancing, and singing to our favorite song when you just pause to look at me and ask, "You wanna get married?"

Of course, I'd question if you're being serious or not, but if we've already discussed the future and our hearts are in the right place, I'd melt in your arms.

You're not proposing to me to show off our love to your Facebook friends. You're proposing to me because you want nothing else but me. If you want to plan something special afterward, go ahead. Thoughtful surprises make me feel so special, but make sure that it's planned for me.

My long-distance boyfriend recently surprised me with a visit by calling my parents to figure out just how to leave me open-mouthed. I realized how much I appreciated the planning and arrangement. No one has ever done that for me before and I won't lie, I loved it. I wouldn't mind a fun proposal. I would be eternally grateful for the thought behind it, but I want the initial question to be intimate, personal, and tailored for me.

At the end of the day, sure, the proposal can be out and about in public, but I want the focus to be us. Not just me or you, but our relationship and our future. I don't care if other people don't think you love me enough because the proposal wasn't a showstopper. I know how you feel about me and that's all that matters.

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16 Wedding Gifts Under $50 That'll Have Any Wedding Guest Say 'I Do'

Because being on a budget doesn't mean you have to arrive at a wedding empty-handed.

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If you're on a budget but have a wedding to go to, it can be hard to find an affordable wedding gift you can buy for the bride and groom. You don't want to show up empty-handed, but you also don't want to spend an arm and a leg on a gift when there are plenty of other people attending who are better off affording certain items. (A good rule of thumb? Always try to "pay for your plate" — or the cost of what the bride and groom likely paid for you to be there.)

Most of the time, there are lots of things you can find on a registry under $50. Whether it be towels, a waffle maker or oven mitts, you can usually find SOMETHING in your price range. If not, this list is for you.

Brides-to-be: Here is a list of things to add to your wedding registry for your broke AF friends.

Broke friends: Here is a list of things to get if everything on your friend's list is way out of your price range.

1. Personalized cutting board

Personalized Cutting Board, 12 Designs & 3 Sizes, Bamboo Cutting Board, Wedding Gifts for Couple, Housewarming Gift & Kitchen Sign - Butcher Block Inlay Board #G

2. Cookbook

The Complete Cooking for Two Cookbook, Gift Edition: 650 Recipes for Everything You'll Ever Want to Make

3. Meat and cheese board

Bamboo Cheese Board and Knife Set - Charcuterie Board Set for Cheese Platter. Wood Serving Tray For Wine, Meat, Appetizers, Snacks - Entertaining Kitchenware Gift Ideas for Wedding and Housewarming

4. Handheld vacuum

Handheld Vacuum Cordless, HUNLEE 5KPA Powerful Suction Hand Vacuum Cordless Cleaner Rechargeable Hand Vac with 2.5h Quick Charge, Lightweight Hand Held Vacuum Cordless for Home and Car Cleaning

5. Carry on

COOLIFE Luggage Expandable(only 28") Suitcase PC+ABS Spinner 20in 24in 28in Carry on (White Grid New, S(20in)_Carry on)

6. Blender

NutriBullet NBR-1201 12-Piece High-Speed Blender/Mixer System, Gray (600 Watts)

7. Crock-Pot

Crock-Pot SCCPVL610-S-A 6-Quart Cook & Carry Programmable Slow Cooker with Digital Timer Stainless Steel

8. Bathroom towels

Luxury Hotel & Spa Bath Towel 100% Genuine Turkish Cotton, 27" x 54", Set of 4, White

9. Waffle maker

Cuisinart WAF-F10 Belgian Waffle Maker, Stainless Steel

10. Tools

DEKOPRO 128 Piece Tool Set-General Household Hand Tool Kit, Auto Repair Tool Set, with Plastic Toolbox Storage Case

11. Kitchen tools

Stainless Steel Kitchen Utensil Set - 29 Cooking Utensils - Nonstick Kitchen Utensils Cookware Set with Spatula - Best Kitchen Gadgets Kitchen Tool Set Gift by HomeHero

12. Baking dishes

Staub Ceramic 2-pc Rectangular Baking Dish Set - Rustic Red

13. Kitchen Towels

The Weaver's Blend Set of 3 Kitchen Towels + 3 Dish Cloths, Basket Weave, 100% Cotton, Absorbent, Size 28"x18" and 12'x12", Yellow Stripe, Kitchen Towels and Dish Cloths

14. Cute AF oven mitts

RED LMLDETA Oven Mitts Set of 2 with Transparent Clear Silicone Shell and Nice Dog Printing Cotton Lining, Heat Resistant to 500 F Kitchen Oven Gloves Pot Holder for Cooking (Blue)

15. Kitchen knife

J.A. Henckels International CLASSIC 8" Chef's Knife

16. Pizza cutter

16" Pizza Cutter by Kitchenstar | Sharp Stainless Steel Slicer Knife - Rocker Style w Blade Cover | Chop and Slices Perfect Portions + Dishwasher Safe - Premium Pizza Accessories

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