If You Don't Have Your Heart Broken In College, I Feel Sorry For You
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I've had my heart broken more times I can count.

With every heartbreak, I learn more and more about myself and what I want out of life and relationships. Yeah, these heartbreaks are no walk in the park. Many times they've sent me into the corner of my bed, curled up in my blanket at all hours of the day and night wondering what I did to deserve such a pain. True heartbreak is something I wouldn't wish upon anyone, but I do feel sorry for anyone who has made it through college without getting their heart broken.

You learn the most about yourself in your darkest moments. College is a time of self-discovery, after all, and self-discovery isn't an easy process. If you go through your four years of college either avoiding relationships completely or in a relationship that keeps you on cloud nine 24/7, you aren't truly experiencing love. You don't know what it's like to not feel like you're good enough for the person you want to be with. You don't understand the true pain of giving someone your all only for them to choose someone else. And if you don't experience this during college, life is going to hit you like a brick once you graduate.

You're still growing in college. Once you've entered the world with your degree and your first "real" job, you're going to think you know it all. You'll think every guy you encounter will be so much more mature, since they're graduated too, but that's far from the case. If you go in with that mindset, you'll be destroyed for the first time and you won't know what to do. It's hard to balance your first heartbreak with a 9-to-5 and studio apartment rent due on Friday.

College heartbreaks teach you how love really is. They teach you that love is not always a happy pop song with a year or so of dating then a ring by spring. These college boys are tough, man, and they'll leave you hanging high and dry even when you think you're exactly what they wanted. But these are the lessons you truly needed. Now that you've had your heart broken, you will enter your more mature adult relationships with the mindset that you need. You'll understand all that love requires. You won't be as naive. You'll remember that you're not promised forever with anyone, and with that in the back of your mind, you'll approach any new relationships, much, much better.

If you've never had your heart broken in college, proceed with caution. Love isn't always a walk in the park.

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20 Feelings You Probably Still Have When You See Your Ex

It's never really over.

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Getting over an ex and moving on is HARD. We all felt at least one of these feelings:

1. You changed me 

2. You hurt me 

3. I still care, always will. 

4. I hate myself for caring still 

5. I still think of you 

6. I hate myself for thinking of you 

7. I know you are happier without me, and that hurts. 

8. I still feel like you are the one 

9. I want you back in my life

10. I don't want you back, I just miss the memories, I'm hurt. 

11. I wish you knew how I still cry over you 

12. You broke my heart and you don't even care 

13. I wonder if you even think of me

14. I will never find love because of you 

15. I feel damaged 

16. I don't want to fall in love anymore 

17. I would rather feel nothing 

18. I feel like I'm drowning in my own tears every time I see you

19. I want to be happy again, let me free, please. 

20. I deserve better, but you could of just been..BETTER. 

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10 Guys Admit The Moment They Realized Their Relationship Was Doomed

If you know, you know.

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It's not breaking news that you can just tell when your relationship is going downhill. Whether it's a mood change, a lack of wanting to be around each other, or a blatant fight, the signs are everywhere.

I sent out a survey asking guys to confess when they realized their relationship was bound to fail. Not necessarily a time stamp in the relationship duration where they realized this, but a realization that was prompted by something happening.

This is what they had to say.

1. The little things

"When she stopped smiling in our pictures."

2. Pretty obvious

"When she told me she wanted to break up with me."

3. Friends come first

"She made every excuse under the sun for not being able to be around when my friends were around and refused to meet my family, even after we'd been a thing for almost six months. Whenever I finally asked her about it, she changed the subject and adamantly refused to talk about it. So, I told her if she didn't want to meet my family yet, that was one thing. But if I had to choose between her or my friends, my friends win every time. So, we broke up."

4. Might want a restraining order

"When she broke into my home and I was woken up to her crying and yelling at me."

5. Red flags

"Talking to my partner started to fill me with dread and anxiety, texting was always just a series of miscommunications and fights and we only ever got along in person. There were so many flags that we were incompatible that I ignored throughout the relationship that all coalesced into a massive weight on my chest. Complaining to a close friend and hearing their advice was what finally tipped me off that waiting for things to change was going to get me absolutely nowhere, so I finally broke it off."

6. Communication is key

"Lack of respectful communication."

7. Hindsight is 20/20

"When she stopped texting me very often. The signs were there before but I was oblivious. 20/20 hindsight I guess."

8. Feeling's mutual

"My last relationship only ended because of long distance problems, and because I had to move. It was a mutual agreement."

9. Not enough time

"Neither of us had enough time for the other."

10. Not the right fit

"Our personalities really clashed. She kept participating in activities I wasn't really happy about and we fought about it a lot. We used to get along and be able to have a good time, but something happened I guess. She became a different person."

Responses have been edited for length or clarity.

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