No, You Don't Have To Move In together Before You Get Married

No, You Don't Have To Move In together Before You Get Married

Why play house when you could have so much to look forward to?


In today's dating culture, it has become almost a given for couples to move in together after they have been dating for a certain length of time. In fact, moving in together is almost universally known as "taking the next step" in your relationship. But this does not have to be the case! In no way is it necessary to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend before you get married. You can be certain about your feelings and commitment without taking this step.

I cannot tell you how many times I have been questioned by shocked friends and acquaintances when I tell them that I absolutely will not live with my future boyfriend before I get married. I get questions such as "How will you know if you're compatible?" or "How else can you test out the relationship?" or even "What if they have annoying quirks that you don't know about until you live together?"

Well, as for the first question, I sure hope you can figure out whether or not you are compatible without living together. If you aren't compatible then I think you would know this sooner rather than later in your dating journey. If you are dating someone, you are likely spending time with them, talking to them, getting to know them, etc. All of these things help you realize compatibility just as you do when getting close to a friend. I understand that a dating relationship should be more intimate in many ways, but this intimacy can be formed in other ways than living together. There is such a thing as emotional intimacy rather than just physical intimacy.

You want to test out your relationship? You mean like you might test drive a car? Is that really what you want to compare your boyfriend or girlfriend to? So after you move in together and have "test driven" living with them and realize they are a horrible roommate, based on whatever qualifications you have decided on, all bets are off and you dump them? Doesn't seem like a very loving and caring relationship to me.

Plus, what happens if you do realize that you are "incompatible" or that the test drive went poorly and you want to break up? You just signed a year long lease and became dog parents, but suddenly you realize you want to break it off. Now what happens? Someone has to move out and find a new place to live and the other is stuck paying the whole lease or has to find a new roommate pronto. But guess what? You don't have to worry about that happening if you are in a committed marriage. You also do not have to worry about that happening if you don't live together before you are married. It's a heck of a lot harder to break up with someone when you have a dog together, a lengthy lease, and a whole apartment of furniture and things to move out.

Finally, what quirks are you worried about discovering in your significant other that you could only realize if you lived with them? Ooh no! They leave the shower curtain open after they shower! Time to break up with him. Ooh gosh, she leaves her dirty dishes in the sink for two whole days before washing them! That's my breaking point. Our two year relationship is over. Gosh, I sure hope not. There are so much more important things to discuss and discover about your significant other than just simple quirks of living with them. And likely, if you have been dating for any length of time, you probably already have discovered these quirks without living with them.

Regardless, everyone has something that will eventually annoy others, even your future spouse. But that should not be enough to cause you to break up with them! Love is about caring for someone even when they do small things to annoy you. Your relationship should be built upon more than just the physical. It should be about more than just what your partner offers you, but also about how you can love them even when they do things to annoy you.

But you can find these things out just by spending time with someone. You absolutely do not have to live with someone to know whether or not you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them. Leave the excitement of finding and building a home together for when you are married.

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To My Future Fiance, If You’re Proposing To Me For The Instagram Content, Have Fun Posting A Video Of Me Saying ‘No’

Whoever you are, take notes for future reference.


OK, OK, he can propose to me in public, but if it's a grand event that has nothing to do with my character, then 100% I'm saying, "No, try again."

I hope that one day someone special has my heart and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. But I want them to really know who I am. Inside and out and all around. I'm not a showy person, I'm not into social media, and I don't want a 20-carat ring. There's nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's never been for me. It's just not me.

I'm never going to do anything because someone else or the general society thinks or says I should do it. I like to defy society and do what's best for me. Even if I do something that is acceptable by society's standards, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I always say, "If someone wants to get to know me then they shouldn't judge what they see, read, or hear, they should just say, 'Hi,' and we can go from there." I don't post something for others to see, I post it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. Because I impulsively want to.

So, I want my fiancé's initial feeling of complete and absolute love to be blurted out to me ASAP. You don't have to keep your passions hidden while you plan a huge fiasco with balloons and confetti and "Will you marry me?" clouds in the sky. I don't need that for you to tell me you love me.

My dream proposal would be us cooking and taste tasting dinner, dancing, and singing to our favorite song when you just pause to look at me and ask, "You wanna get married?"

Of course, I'd question if you're being serious or not, but if we've already discussed the future and our hearts are in the right place, I'd melt in your arms.

You're not proposing to me to show off our love to your Facebook friends. You're proposing to me because you want nothing else but me. If you want to plan something special afterward, go ahead. Thoughtful surprises make me feel so special, but make sure that it's planned for me.

My long-distance boyfriend recently surprised me with a visit by calling my parents to figure out just how to leave me open-mouthed. I realized how much I appreciated the planning and arrangement. No one has ever done that for me before and I won't lie, I loved it. I wouldn't mind a fun proposal. I would be eternally grateful for the thought behind it, but I want the initial question to be intimate, personal, and tailored for me.

At the end of the day, sure, the proposal can be out and about in public, but I want the focus to be us. Not just me or you, but our relationship and our future. I don't care if other people don't think you love me enough because the proposal wasn't a showstopper. I know how you feel about me and that's all that matters.

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16 Wedding Gifts Under $50 That'll Have Any Wedding Guest Say 'I Do'

Because being on a budget doesn't mean you have to arrive at a wedding empty-handed.


If you're on a budget but have a wedding to go to, it can be hard to find an affordable wedding gift you can buy for the bride and groom. You don't want to show up empty-handed, but you also don't want to spend an arm and a leg on a gift when there are plenty of other people attending who are better off affording certain items. (A good rule of thumb? Always try to "pay for your plate" — or the cost of what the bride and groom likely paid for you to be there.)

Most of the time, there are lots of things you can find on a registry under $50. Whether it be towels, a waffle maker or oven mitts, you can usually find SOMETHING in your price range. If not, this list is for you.

Brides-to-be: Here is a list of things to add to your wedding registry for your broke AF friends.

Broke friends: Here is a list of things to get if everything on your friend's list is way out of your price range.

1. Personalized cutting board

Personalized Cutting Board, 12 Designs & 3 Sizes, Bamboo Cutting Board, Wedding Gifts for Couple, Housewarming Gift & Kitchen Sign - Butcher Block Inlay Board #G

2. Cookbook

The Complete Cooking for Two Cookbook, Gift Edition: 650 Recipes for Everything You'll Ever Want to Make

3. Meat and cheese board

Bamboo Cheese Board and Knife Set - Charcuterie Board Set for Cheese Platter. Wood Serving Tray For Wine, Meat, Appetizers, Snacks - Entertaining Kitchenware Gift Ideas for Wedding and Housewarming

4. Handheld vacuum

Handheld Vacuum Cordless, HUNLEE 5KPA Powerful Suction Hand Vacuum Cordless Cleaner Rechargeable Hand Vac with 2.5h Quick Charge, Lightweight Hand Held Vacuum Cordless for Home and Car Cleaning

5. Carry on

COOLIFE Luggage Expandable(only 28") Suitcase PC+ABS Spinner 20in 24in 28in Carry on (White Grid New, S(20in)_Carry on)

6. Blender

NutriBullet NBR-1201 12-Piece High-Speed Blender/Mixer System, Gray (600 Watts)

7. Crock-Pot

Crock-Pot SCCPVL610-S-A 6-Quart Cook & Carry Programmable Slow Cooker with Digital Timer Stainless Steel

8. Bathroom towels

Luxury Hotel & Spa Bath Towel 100% Genuine Turkish Cotton, 27" x 54", Set of 4, White

9. Waffle maker

Cuisinart WAF-F10 Belgian Waffle Maker, Stainless Steel

10. Tools

DEKOPRO 128 Piece Tool Set-General Household Hand Tool Kit, Auto Repair Tool Set, with Plastic Toolbox Storage Case

11. Kitchen tools

Stainless Steel Kitchen Utensil Set - 29 Cooking Utensils - Nonstick Kitchen Utensils Cookware Set with Spatula - Best Kitchen Gadgets Kitchen Tool Set Gift by HomeHero

12. Baking dishes

Staub Ceramic 2-pc Rectangular Baking Dish Set - Rustic Red

13. Kitchen Towels

The Weaver's Blend Set of 3 Kitchen Towels + 3 Dish Cloths, Basket Weave, 100% Cotton, Absorbent, Size 28"x18" and 12'x12", Yellow Stripe, Kitchen Towels and Dish Cloths

14. Cute AF oven mitts

RED LMLDETA Oven Mitts Set of 2 with Transparent Clear Silicone Shell and Nice Dog Printing Cotton Lining, Heat Resistant to 500 F Kitchen Oven Gloves Pot Holder for Cooking (Blue)

15. Kitchen knife

J.A. Henckels International CLASSIC 8" Chef's Knife

16. Pizza cutter

16" Pizza Cutter by Kitchenstar | Sharp Stainless Steel Slicer Knife - Rocker Style w Blade Cover | Chop and Slices Perfect Portions + Dishwasher Safe - Premium Pizza Accessories

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