My Ex-Boyfriend Is One Of My Greatest Friends, And I Couldn't Ask For Any Better

My Ex-Boyfriend Is One Of My Greatest Friends, And I Couldn't Ask For Any Better

Breakups do not need to just be an end, they can also be a beginning.


Breakups are always portrayed as these horrendous things—yelling, screaming, throwing objects. While my breakup with my ex-boyfriend was not like that, it sucked.

We were in love, but the distance became too difficult. I cried for months, mourning the boy who I talked to every day and shared my heart with. All I wanted to do was call him and tell him that we made a giant mistake and that we can work everything out.

There was a human-shaped hole in my life.

It is not like we were able to become friends right away—it took over a year to even text normally besides the intermittent "Happy Birthday" and "Merry Christmas." It took even longer to finally meet back up in person. It was too painful—too painful to see that, even without each other, life still went on. Too painful to look through old photographs be overcome with all of the memories and the emotions associated with them. Too painful to remember the last time you hugged, held hands, laughed.

Once we started talking again, it happened slowly, from catching up once-in-a-blue-moon to spontaneously sending YouTube videos that we know the other will crack up at. And slowly, I realized how much I missed him being in my life in some way, shape, or form.

Whenever I talk to friends from high school and mention us talking and hanging out, they always look taken aback and always ask why? Why stay friends with someone you have loved?

It may not be typical and it may not work for everyone but, for us, it is right.

He is one of the people who understands me in the world and, if I may be so blunt, I think I am one of the people who know him best. We bond over ridiculous memes and "high school" drama and life in general. We can hang out for hours on end and it can feel like only a few minutes. I trust him and know that I can depend on him.

Yes, I am friends with my ex-boyfriend. We have dated other people since breaking up, and here we are now as friends. Unlike how breakups are portrayed in movies and on television, I hope for the best for him. I hope that he is happy with whoever makes him happy and I hope he achieves his dreams. Just because someone is an ex does not mean they deserve ill-will wished upon them. Break-ups do not need to just be an end, they can also be a beginning.

So, to my ex-boyfriend and one of my greatest friends, this is what I have to say, I am thankful for you. My parents always told me that time will show who my true friends are. I have lost some friends who I thought would be in my life forever, but you have always been there to send me ridiculous memes and videos and to make me laugh after venting about irksome things. I am thankful for the memories we shared when we dated and I am thankful for the memories that we share now as friends. I look forward to seeing you when I come home for Christmas and for summer break.

I hope this message does not make you feel awkward, but just know how much I cherish your friendship. I hope that it never ends.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

12 Times IG Made Saying G-Bye To Halsey and G-Eazy Very Hard

Alexa, play "Him & I" on repeat.


G-Eazy and Halsey went public with their swoon-worthy relationship on Instagram in September 2017. The couple recently broke up after several months of being on again, off again. But that didn't stop them from having the cutest displays of public affection all over their Instagrams during their courtship.

Here are the 12 cutest Instagrams of G-Eazy ad Halsey that make it all that much harder to let go of their relationship:

1. When they went to the AMA's and looked like the hottest couple at prom

2. When they spent a normal day by the pool just Mom, Dad & Pup 

3. When they took a casual ride down the gondola in Venezia, Italy

4. When they were too smitten for us to handle

6. When they had an impromptu photoshoot in a convenient store that could be on the cover of Vogue

7. When the show STOPPED as they graced the MTV Movie & TV Awards red carpet

8. When G posted a picture of his Mom and Halsey for International Women's Day (and I shed real tears)

9. When they showed us what pure bliss looks like (and he quoted their song for his caption)

10. When they kissed ON STAGE during a performance together and confirmed that they are the OTP

11. When G posted a candid picture of them kissing in the snow

Halsey and G-Eazy are the modern Romeo and Juliet as far as I'm concerned. They serve up a heavy dose of love on all of their social media accounts and prove to us time and time again that real love is out there and they're not afraid to show theirs off.

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Why Do Athletes Think They Can 'Play The Field' And Cheat On Their Partners?

Being an athlete doesn't give you the right to cheat.


We've seen it in the media too many times before. The big-shot sports star has his infidelity revealed to his partner and the press and, once the news is out and about, an explosive altercation ensues. Take Tristan Thompson and Khloe Kardashian, for example—a mere two days before the birth of their daughter, True, The Daily Mail released footage of Thompson getting frisky with two other women at a hookah lounge.

And that's not even the worst part. Thompson actually blames his cheating behaviors on peer pressure from his fellow athletes! He reportedly told Kardashian that "women were constantly throwing themselves at him, and he felt pressure to not refuse them." He tried to justify his actions by saying that there is an "unspoken rule in the NBA that players hook up with groupies on the road."

So he, a grown adult who should be capable of self-control, is claiming that his teammates on the Cavaliers all but forced him to cheat on his pregnant girlfriend. And it's quite sad that he actually expected that excuse to work.

Not surprisingly, this ideology is just as popular among college athletes as it is among professionals. "We're athletes," they declare, "so women will always want to be with us." And while that's all well and good, it's resisting these temptations while in a monogamous relationship that is always of the utmost importance.

To the cuffed athletes who love to score on and off the field, you need to come down off of your high horses and start thinking of the people you're hurting.

Those girls in the bleachers are sitting out there for you. They are taking the time to cheer you on and support your athletic career, not the promiscuity that you think should come with it. If you want to have casual sex and flex in a different girl's face every night, that's fine, but do that only if you are really, truly single. Your girlfriend shouldn't be wearing the same jersey that you loaned out to one of your hookups a few days earlier. She shouldn't have to worry about you being on the road, wondering what other girls might be all over you when you're celebrating a big win. Do her a favor and call it quits if you really feel the need to see other people, because she'd much rather be broken up with than cheated on.

At the end of the day, you might have won the game, but take a good look in the mirror and you'll see what a loser you really are for being so careless.

SEE ALSO: 12 Fouls Every Girlfriend Of A College Athlete Deals With From The Sidelines

No one is so famous that they are above staying faithful. Your varsity status does not exempt you from being a decent human being and respecting the person you promised your heart to. There is no privilege or accolade on Earth that puts you in a place where cheating is acceptable.

In short, the quarterback needs to know that what his girlfriend doesn't know will come back to hurt her. The point guard needs to start thinking of himself as someone's boyfriend and not as a celebrity worthy of being worshipped. The champions and underdogs of every sports team must be held accountable for their actions just like we all are. When it comes to cheating, it's plain and simple—no one is pardoned based on who they are when it comes to being unfaithful.

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