A Letter To My Asshole Ex-Boyfriend, F*ck You And Your Thoughts About Me And My Body

Let's face it, we've all been there. We have all been with or had something with someone who made us just feel utterly horrible about ourselves. Whether it be our emotions, our bodies... the list goes on. Toxicity in young relationships is sadly a common norm in our society. That being said, it has started a wave of people dropping the dead weight of a partner they dated and learning to love themselves instead. This is exactly what happened to me this year.

Last Christmas, I ended a relationship with a guy I'd been dating for over a year. Things moved quickly, we spent nearly every day with each other before moving in together. When we'd been dating for about 7 months, I moved into his new apartment with him and some of his friends. We had our moments, and I knew that we weren't really happy, but I thought we were moving in the right direction. Things continued to get worse with every day. The comments continued to happen, and hearing, "What are you wearing?!" and "You really want to do your makeup like that? Can't you just be normal?" along with being compared to other girls constantly, can weigh on you much more than you realize at the time.

Along with the physical comments, there were also many comparisons to other people who 'had their life more together' or, my favorite was the comparisons to his friends and exes making it seem like they had a better personality or were just overall a more deserving of air human. After months of being treated like a child, told I had no right to feel or process the emotions I had in pretty much any situation, and finding out that people who he talked to every day had no idea I even existed; that certainly makes someone feel special; I knew it had to be over. At the end of it all, it wouldn't have mattered if he'd taken everything back because the damage was done and I knew only I could build myself back up.

Since then, in the past six months, I have not only learned to love myself, I've learned to love my body, too. I have gained 15 pounds of pure happiness. I have taken my life back, and I never second guess an outfit choice, or bold makeup look. I walk into every day proudly, confidently, and truly; honestly the most me I can be. I guess I could say I'm grateful for what I have been through because it has helped me become the woman I am now, and I've even gained people I will forever be grateful for in my life. But, to my asshole ex, fuck off; I'm a damn queen that you hid in a dusty busted box in the back of the garage when I should've been on a throne for the whole kingdom to see.

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According To Astrology, Here’s What Each Zodiac Sign Is Like In Bed

My beginner’s guide to sextrology

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“What's your zodiac sign?" will probably be one of the most common follow up questions when getting to know someone and while astrological analysis tells us about some of the core parts of our personality, it also shows us how those personality traits correlate to what we're like between the sheets.

If you're looking for a unique approach to sex then astrology can help you map out what distinguishes you and others in the bedroom, so scroll through and discover what each zodiac sign says their bedroom vibe.


Capricorns are ruled by the planet Saturn so many of them are naturally cautious about decision making and reserved when it comes to meeting new people.

So it's important that when sleeping with a Capricorn, they will feel their best about the sexual encounter when there's some sort of intimate connection involved.

This earth sign appreciates honesty and boundaries so they'll most likely want to know both of you stand in a relationship or else they may not see things going much further. But fear not. Just because they tend to be more traditional and conservative doesn't mean that the sex will be boring.

They're just romantics at heart and prefer something classic to set the mood. A bottle of red wine and sensual R&B or jazz music in the background would be their go-to.


Ruled by the planet Uranus, those born under this water-bearing sign are natural-born creatives and intellectuals.

This sign thrives off meaningful conversation and mental stimulation before getting intimate. However, don't necessarily take the conversation and shared time as the key to their heart for a potential relationship.

Aquarius people value their independence and freedom so they may be more inclined to look for a "friends with benefits" situationship rather than a full-blown committed partner or at least at the beginning stages of becoming intimate with them anyway.

Sex with an Aquarius may not be the most conventional, but their creativity and free-spirited aura make for a captivating and unforgettable experience.


Ruled by Neptune, those born under the sign of Pisces are spiritual and wise.

Pisces genuinely like to be in tune with their surroundings and thrive when every part of their environment fits into place. They are empathetic to others' feelings and desires, so this is a great thing in the bedroom considering that they're willing to go above and beyond to please their partners.

Also, their dreams are nearly psychic and vivid as can be and this transcends to their imagination in the bedroom as well. For example, a sex playlist is crucial for a Pisces because it especially taps into their sexual aura, curating their endless imagination through the sounds they hear and lyrics they listen to.


Aries are ruled by the planet Mars which is commonly known as the planet of passion and desire.

This fiery persona will definitely make its way into the bedroom. Aries is also the sign of the ram which means that those born under it are blessed with endurance and stamina to last for rounds. People born of the sign of Aries tend to have an aggressive or warlike personality so they prefer a fast-paced and highly intense sexual experience that centers them as the dominant one who calls all the shots.

They enjoy teasing and being able to adequately chase their desired person as if it's a game of love. This doesn't mean that they don't want to be courted, but fawning over them like you're competing to get a rose on their reality love show won't do you any favors either.


Contrary to the fiery personality of Aries, people born under the sign of Taurus are gentle and prefer to savor every moment of a sexual experience.

Ruled by the planet Venus, known as the goddess of love and beauty, those born under the sign of the bull-like to make every moment count to appreciate its essence.

However, don't be fooled by their calm exterior. What a Taurus wants, a Taurus will stop at nothing to get. They are incredibly stubborn and strong-willed. But, they are sensual so they crave exploration of the universal and sexual realm with all five senses.

When having sex with a Taurus, expect some of the most affectionate lovemaking you'll ever experience with special attention on foreplay.


Geminis are ruled by Mercury, known as the messenger of the gods.

Similar to Aquarius, those born under this sign need intellectual and mental stimulation to turn them on. When it's time to get physical, their mercurial minds make for a fun experience because they can easily adopt multiple personas in bed.

Don't be surprised if a Gemini will come up with different ways to explore the moment whether it be through many positions you've never even thought of or the most interesting scenarios for role play.

In the bedroom, their most cherished value is experimentation so the romance and sex is more playful than serious, but their seduction powers are through the roof!


Cancers are ruled by the moon.

This water sign expresses a tendency to be guarded, but when they feel safe and comfortable, the intimacy and loyalty is off the charts. Those born under the sign of the crab are governed by their emotions which naturally makes them inquisitive people who are okay with being in tune with the depths of their feelings.

For Cancer, they value being in love rather than embarking in casual flings so their high level of commitment and emotional intimacy creates a sexual experience that'll appear to be sacred and deeper than just a physical act.

When it gets to the point that a Cancer is secure in the relationship, their walls will crumble and their erotic side will emerge.


Similar to their sister sign Aries, Leo is highly passionate.

They are ruled by the sun so they're blessed with an enigmatic presence that can fill up an entire room. These felines take pride in being the kings and queens of the jungle and their declarative nature translates to the bedroom as well.

The biggest sexual turn-on for any Leo is to not only feel wanted on a surface type of level, but the be desired, ravished and worshipped in bed. They are keen on giving and receiving the utmost seduction and appreciate that seduction in ways that aren't necessarily sex, but very well can be a prelude to it such as romantic dates, tempting gestures and expressions of adoration.

The mere thought of their desired person giving them their undivided attention is what gets them going which will then lead to passionate, dramatic lovemaking.


In traditional astrology, the Virgo constellation represents a virgin, which leads to the false assumption that Virgos are innocent or prudish by nature.

Ruled by Mercury, this sign aroused by clear communication whether that be through humor, stimulating conversation, or wit. They will most likely be interested in some form of romantic writing as well, sexting included.

While they enjoy back and forth discourse, when they finally feel comfortable enough, they will match their actions with their words prior to the act.

Virgos enjoy a fixed schedule so they do prefer to have sex regularly explore kinks within a safe environment that they are used to being in.

Overall, they are precise and calculated in bed, but their willingness to devote enough attention to detail can be a great thing.


Libra is often visually represented by scales, and this is symbolic of the air sign's value of balance in their life.

The same can be said when it comes to their attitude regarding sex. Libra lovers appreciate reciprocity so they do want to give, but they definitely want to receive as well. Libra is ruled by the planet Venus which is the planet of aestheticism.

This is not surprising considering that Libras tend to treat their partners like a muse, adorning their bodies as if they were a work of art.

However, be mindful of the fact that getting a libra to fall in love with you is much harder than it is for you to fall in love with them so it's best that you let them do the chasing if you're interested in them because they long for legitimate fulfillment rather than just being content.


No other zodiac sign is as closely associated with sex than the Scorpio.

These water signs are known for their magnetic charm, seductive prowess, and an insatiable appetite for desire.

There are a few astrological signs that garner potentially false misconceptions (i.e, Geminis being two-faced and Virgos being prudish), but the sexual aura of a Scorpio is a rare case in which the rumors are typically true seeing as their associated physical domain is their pelvic region and genitals.

Sex with them is more than just an act, but includes intimacy that penetrates the mind, body and spirit. Scorpios are no strangers to pleasure and never hold back with experimentation and exploration of any sexual aspect.


Ruled by Jupiter, they are the most adventurous and thrill-seeking sign in the zodiac.

Sagittarius is represented by the sign of the archer so they have a tendency to be more open when trying new things in bed.

As a bonus, they are transparent about their needs so you won't have a hard time trying to figure out what to do with them or how you should do it. They'll tell you plainly whether it's turning them on or not.

All in all, they are naturally spontaneous and take every sexual experience as a chance to go on a brand new and carefree adventure.

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10 Weird Things That Are Only Normal When You’re In A Long-Term Relationship

The longer you two are together, the more strange your bond will become.

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Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship may start to see that after at least a year, you get extremely comfortable with each other to the point where common decency is thrown out the window. The longer you two are together, the more weird your bond will become, but it'll be so automatic that neither of you question it.

There's been a point in my life where I felt so comfortable with a boyfriend that I texted him saying “I honestly can't remember the last time I pooped and now I'm freaking out. Is that normal? Should I be worried?" in which he responded, “Girls poop?"

Whether it be discussing bowel movements, plucking each other's pimples or giving each other pet names, there are many weird things that couples do that are only normal when they've been together for a long time.

These are the 10 weirdest habits of long-term couples:

1. Having secret photoshoots

If you're in a long-term relationship at the moment, take a look through the camera roll in your phone right now. There's a good chance you have at least five pictures of your significant other doing something random without even noticing that you were taking off-guard pictures of them.

2. Staring at them in their sleep

As creepy as this sounds, sometimes you like to observe your partner as they doze off peacefully in their sleep. Maybe it’s the way the light from the window that makes them appear angelic that amuses you or maybe it’s the only time when they aren’t talking your head off and you enjoy their silence. Either way it’s still entertaining.

3. Giving each other pet names

I personally have never been a fan of this, but I notice that many couples who have been together for a long time give each other pet names like “honey," “dear," “babe," etc. and only refer to each other with those names instead of their actual names given at birth.

4. Grooming each other

Who knew your significant other would end up being your handy man when it comes to grooming? Do you have that tiny, annoying pimple you need to get rid of before an event or party? Ask your boyfriend to pop it for you. Are you about to leave for a job interview and you need to make a quick booger check? Life up your nose and ask your girlfriend if you have any bats in the cave.

5. Smelling each other 

Aside from grooming purposes, sometimes you’ll have this sudden urge to smell your partner for no apparent reason at all even if it’s after an hour long, sweaty workout session.

6. Burping contests

Usually in a setting where I’m not as comfortable with people, I’ll be polite and apologize or excuse myself if I burp in front of them. This is far from the case when I’m in a long-term relationship though. I feel free to burp any time I want and sometimes I’ll go to the extent of trying to out-burp my man. I lose every time.

7. Using the bathroom with the door open

Some duos don’t mind doing their business on the toilet with the door wide open. Sometimes it can save time during both of their morning routines if they’ve overslept a bit and have to be in the bathroom at the same time.

8. Annoying each other for no reason

No matter how much you love them, purposely getting on their nerves will be hilarious to you sometimes whether it’s tickling them to death in certain body parts, stealing food from their plate, or biting them for the hell of it.

9. Sharing a joint social media account

I usually see this with older, married couples on Facebook and the first question I ask is “I wonder which one cheated?" but in reality there could be many reasons behind why people do this. One of them may not use social media that much and still want to stay in the loop. Others may do it to display a sense of unity.

10.  Sharing a room together

Usually when couples move in together, they share the same bedroom. This may not seem weird on the surface until you realize that the only time you’ve ever shared a room (apart from college) was with a sibling when you were 5 years old. You grow up wanting personal space and individuality and then when you and your partner have a home or apartment together, the idea of living in separate rooms goes out the window.

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