When it comes to my relationships, I am a private person.
Well—only when it comes to the internet. You'll never find a post about my recent boo on any of my social media. It's just not my style.
IRL I will tell my friends all the hot gossip about my love life. But, online it seems impersonal and inappropriate. I guess that all of those years of internet security speeches from my teachers paid off.
Here are 8 reasons why I keep relationships off Facebook...
1. I value my privacy.
My father once told me that he's never want to be famous. He saw fame as a lack of privacy and autonomy. From that point on, I found that I did not want to be famous either. I wanted to keep the things most important to me to myself.
2. The title 'Facebook official' does not legitimize my relationship.
It just doesn't. Facebook does not make my relationship real. I have lots of friendships that I don't declare on Facebook and they are still legit.
I don't need external validation about my relationship from people I haven't seen in years.
3. If we break up, I want time to morn alone.
The recent breakup of YouTube celebrities David and Liz is a great example of what sharing your relationship on the internet can look like. They choose to wait six months before telling their viewers that they had ended things.
I don't want part of our breakup to be negotiating when we're going to tell the internet.
4. Random people don't ask about my exes.
I HATE this.
Obviously, if I have personally shared my relationship with someone then those people can ask about EXs all they want.
But, I definitely don't want to be asked about my former relationship at a friend's Christmas party.
"No Carol, I'm not still seeing them."
5. I don't want people judging my relationship.
I'm not ashamed to say that I've made comments about people's relationships from what I see online. People can't talk about what they don't know about. I want to protect that thing that's most important to me. Making it Facebook official puts that into the world.
6. I want the romantic things they do to be just between us.
You won't find me posting pictures of romantic dinners and gifts. Why would I? They can be perceived as "bragging" and I'd rather just keep those things private.
7. Anyone who needs to know about my relationship already knows.
It's not like I'm hiding my relationship from my family or from close friends. It's just the 1,000 Facebook friends and random people I've met in my life that way that don't need to know about my current fling.
8. An engagement is the perfect time to share our relationship with the world.
Think of the debut—beautiful engagement photos to share with the world.
But most importantly, at that point we've made a commitment to each other and I don't care who knows it. If the IRS is going to be told, so should the rest of the world.