There Is More To Love Than Saying ‘I Love You’

There Is More To Love Than Saying ‘I Love You’

Small little details, that when in love, can be justified because you love them.

Falling in love, it’s what causes you to throw all forms of common sense out the window because the overwhelming feeling in your gut makes no sense. It is a guilty pleasure in the form of a human, and you can’t get enough of them.

The time you used to spend doing homework is now full of fiddling fingers over a screen and a goofy little smile on your face. Plans with your friends don’t happen as often anymore because they aren’t half as interested in you as your boyfriend/girlfriend is.

We need to stop letting love get the best of us; our generation has created what was a fine line between healthy and toxic into a tiny strand that’s far too easy to cross.

What spurred this thought was that I have seen far too many friendships lost and hearts broken for all the wrong reasons. We shouldn’t give so much power to our relationship that it blinds us from seeing when it's all going wrong.

The truth is seeing someone requires just as much space as it requires quality time. People who spend every second of every day with the other forget that time should be put towards themselves, friends and family also.

I remember my first relationship was pure infatuation. After it all ended, I recognized what I had become.

I no longer had a boyfriend, friends or a real connection with my family.

It took many months of reconciliation to gain my friends back, and I saw how much I really needed them. They were the ones that I needed there to tell me when things became unhealthy.

Friends are there to let you know that maybe your boyfriend/girlfriend should not be saying certain things to you, such as telling you what to wear. Small little details, that when in love, can be justified because you love them.

After gaining my friends back, I seemed to find myself, which I never actually knew I lost. Decisions weren’t being made for me anymore, and I had time for things I loved to do with the people I needed.

I put time towards my hobbies, school and the people around me. My family was happy to see my devotion to things for myself.

I was happy and found love for myself.

I now see my friends making the same mistakes allowing their boyfriend/girlfriend to be a little too controlling, and it becomes a habit. Some spend too much time with each other--forgetting that the world doesn’t just revolve around their love.

Others lack love for themselves and let insecurities get the best of them with jealousy targeting even their closest friends.

It’s sad to see the people around me not allowing themselves to grow or really think about their situations. Love is beautiful, but love can also be dangerous.

We need to let go of the poison that is our idea of it and look past the heart eye emojis.

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What Your Hand-Holding Habits Say About Your Relationship

To have and to hold for as long as you both shall date


Most people can agree that one of the sweetest perks of being in a relationship is being able to freely hold hands with the one you love and care about. It's a simple, yet cherished gesture of affection that isn't too extreme for the public eye, but still expresses the depth of your feelings for one another. And just how you and your lover hold hands surprisingly says a LOT about your relationship. Check out the common hand-holding habits below and see where you and your sweetheart match up:

No matter how you and your lover express your affection for one another, know that these simple gestures say a lot more about the feelings you have for each other than you'd think.

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5 ways to be more like Jim and Pam in your next relationship

Whether it's "The Office" receptionist or the girl next door


"The Office" is a quirky comedic tv series with such a large following that it had a successful run of nine seasons. Today it continues to be the favorite show among many Netflix enthusiasts and nostalgiac groupies alike. While the bizarre dry humor is what draws fans in, the dynamic relationships between characters are what keep them coming.

Jim Halpert and Pam Beasley are one of the most iconic popular couples today for not only their dorky relatability but also their truly strong loving bond. While this relationship may be fictitious outside of these roles, passion and loyalty are as real as can be.

Here's how you can avoid a three-year engagement with the wrong guy and skip straight to working on achieving Jim/Pam relationship goals:

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