13 Tips To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You On The First Date

13 Tips To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You On The First Date

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This one is for the men who have so much potential but end up doing or saying something stupid on a first date.The truth is, women take first their impressions of a man very seriously. On a first date, there isn't very much room for error on the man's part. So, if you're looking to charm the hell out of a sista on the first date, look no further.

Here are my verified tips on how to take a woman on a successful first date.

1. Personal hygiene!

Sounds redundant to most, but this is for the few that really don't know. Shower, brush your teeth and fix your hair before stepping out on a date. And please remember that lotion and deodorant are your friends. Back when I was in college, I went out with this guy and immediately smelled his B.O. He had a huge sweat stains on the front and back of his shirt. Part way through the date pulled me into a hug and all I can remember are his sweat beads touching my forehead. I ended the date early and never responded to another text.

2. A gift.

A gift is not required, but going the extra mile earns you points. If you already know a few details about homegirl, make sure the gift is creative and personalized. While a single rose is sweet, it is also very old school. For example, if you met her in Barnes and Noble, maybe bring her a copy of your favorite book. If you were set up by a mutual friend, find out what her favorite candy is and surprise her with that. When done right, corny is very cute.

3. Don't take her anywhere noisy.

The whole point of a date is to be able to talk to each other and get to know if the two of you have basic things in common. That being said, movies and concerts are not good first date locations. Save those for a couple months in. What is a good first date, you ask? Well, anything that involves food or drinks is always a winner. You could also try going to the park or for a hike.

4. Don't make her meet you there.

If you have a car, pick her up. Let her know when you are on your way and how close you are. When you get there, actually walk up to her front door. Don't text her from the car. While she is in your car, be respectful. Don't blast music or speed. There is no reason as to why you should feel that blowing out her eardrums or swerving in and out of traffic will make her think you're cool. And tone it all the way down on the road rage. Those things are a MAJOR turn off! Women like to feel safe in your presence, if you didn't know.

*Pro-Tip: Give her the aux cord.

5. Be a gentleman.

Open doors and pull out seats! And at the end of the date, take her home. Do not ask her to come back to your place, and don't put her in a taxi or Uber if you have the means to drop her off. If y'all are walking down a sidewalk, make sure she is in the inside and if y'all are crossing the street, do it TOGETHER and make sure she is not on the side with the cars.

Pro-Tip: Lend her your arm as y'all are walking up stairs or through crowds.

6. Be a good conversationalist.

Stay away from politics or religion on a first date, unless one of those are a deal breaker for you. If one of these does get brought up, be respectful of her point of views and don't belittle her beliefs. Keep the conversation polite.

Some women can be shy (and a bit intimidated) on a first date, so take charge of the conversation if it isn't flowing easily. Ask her about herself and LISTEN to her response before talking about yourself. No more than 50% of the conversation should be about you. Also, stay away from bragging or putting down others.

Pro-Tip: Do not ask sis about sex! On a first date, her sex life, what she likes or doesn't like or how "freaky" she is, is none of your DAMN business. Asking about past relationships is okay, but keep the conversation positive. Also don't EVER bad-mouth your ex or the mother of your children. If she asks why the two of you broke up, be truthful, but find a way to answer that doesn't make you seem like a complete troll.

7. Stay off of your phone.

If you're at a restaurant, push your phone and keys to the side and let them stay there. If you're somewhere else, keep them in your pocket. Dates are all about being PRESENT AND ATTENTIVE. If you don't like giving women your undivided attention or don't think you can't manage it for two whole hours, don't even attempt to date in the first place. No texting, no answering phone calls, and no social media!

8. Etiquette, etiquette, etiquette!

Sis is 100% watching for the things you are doing and aren't doing right. So remember your basic home training. Don't talk with your mouth full. Wash your hands before you eat. Pull your pants up. Tip the waiter the correct amount....etc. Personally, I've known a man that always just left $5 no matter what the bill was. $5 on a $45 tab is only 11%. Not only am I going to think you are hella rude, but I'm also going to wonder if you know basic math.

9. Be polite!

Not just to her, but to everyone around. Don't get snappy with waiters and don't be rude others around you. Women peep how you treat other people because we are taught that this is how you will treat us behind closed doors.

10. Don't be cheap.

You have the option of taking her someone casual vs. somewhere fancy. Either way, sis should have a good time and not walk away from the date knowing you're on a tight budget.

If you're taking her out to eat, let her know that she is free to order whatever she wants. For women, going out to eat with a man for the first time can sometimes be awkward. We may be hesitant on what to order because we don't know your budget. We don't want to leave the date "starving like Marvin," but we also don't want to come off like a food digger, either.

Pro-tip: If you're too broke to take a woman out on a date and pay for it, you're too broke to be in the dating game.

11. Complement her!

Stick to three complements throughout the date. ONE on how she looks, ONE on her personality and ONE on her interests.

"You look really nice. I like your hair." "..a degree in psychology? Intelligence like that is hard to find." "You still listen to old school rap and neo-soul. I really like your taste in music.

12. Keep your hands to yourself.

Do not get grabby! A hug at the beginning and end of the date is fine, It is also okay (and proper etiquette) to lend her your arm if your going up a flight of stairs (especially if she is in heels) or somewhere with a large crowd.

Pro Tip: Don't make perv-y or awkward comments about how she looks or her body.

13. Drop her home.

At the end of the date, do not ask if she wants to go back to your place or if she wants to come with you to meet up with friends. Take her home, walk her to her door, and make sure to mention that you had a good time and thank her for taking you up on the offer. (She's going to think you are mad sweet, I promise.)

Pro Tip: Only kiss her if she leans in first.


You can do all of this and still feel at the end of the date that this woman is not the right person for YOU and that is perfectly fine, but all of these things still apply. Reach out to her the next day, whether by text or phone call and let her know that you had a good time. If you really did have a good time, let her know that you would like to go out with her again sometime. If you didn't have a good time, just thank her for going out with you and simply leave it at that.

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My Boyfriend Is Deaf, But He's Still A Great Listener

This is what dating my deaf boyfriend has taught me.

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I have heard countless complaints over the years resembling the statement, "My boyfriend is a terrible listener."

Women say this simply to describe how irritating it is when their boyfriends zone out as they are talking about their day or when they simply stare off into space as they try and ask whether they wanna order pizza or Chinese. They may use phrases such as "selective hearing" or compare the likeness of talking to their boyfriend to "talking to a wall."

I must say that I can relate to these women but in a much different way.

My boyfriend is deaf.

I have to say that my boyfriend's deafness has never once been a roadblock for me. If anything, it made me more interested in him. I had zero experience when it came to his deafness. I had many misconceptions of his hearing ability in the beginning. But, overall, it was something that just increased my interest in this kind-hearted, goofy guy. As I started to date this person that sometimes can't help but not listen to me, I realized that his deafness had zero effect on how much I cared for him and how well we worked together.

Unlike some other members of the deaf community, my boyfriend has two cochlear implants. Fun fact: cochlear implants are actually frowned upon throughout the deaf community a lot of times. They are said to remove the individuality that comes with the deaf community and its members. However, and I will admit I am biased, I do not agree and neither does my boyfriend. Cochlear implants assist him in living his life, but that does not mean that every deaf person needs or wants them to live theirs—which is OK. They benefit this person that is very important to me, and that is all that matters in my mind.

While all cases of deafness and implant-users are unique to the individual, my boyfriend had his first implant surgery when he was just 2-years-old. Then, his second when he was 10. I knew cochlear implants existed before I met him, but I had no idea how they worked, which was soon very apparent to myself and him.

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So, basically in the simplest terms possible, there are two magnetic receivers implanted in his skull. Then, there is the outer part that holds a circular magnet, a transmitter, and a microphone that magnetizes through his skull and to his actual implant. This, somehow, gives him the ability to hear, and to be fully honest I do not understand how they work. I probably never will. All I know is that he can hear me, which I did not know would necessarily be the case when we first met...

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When we first started going out with each other, I definitely had many misconceptions about my boyfriend's hearing, misconceptions that he will tease me about to this day. For example, I thought that I had to look directly at him whenever I spoke. My mistaken logic was that he would have to read my lips in order to understand me. False. Wrong. His implants allow him to hear exactly what I am saying the majority of the time, depending on if he actually is paying attention and how loud I am talking. He can, however, read lips though, which he has to do any time he is not wearing his implants, or like when I knock them out of his head on accident... Woops.

I also, at first, had this hilarious belief that he wouldn't be able to talk to me on the phone. I thought this even after I knew he could hear me in person with practically zero difficulties. It wasn't until he was over at my place visiting me, and I came out of my room to see that he was talking to his mom. On the phone. Because he can, perfectly well. To this day, I cannot explain why I thought he wouldn't be able to speak on the phone. It was my stupid, stupid mistake, and my boyfriend still finds my naivete when it came to his hearing oh so amusing.

All of this comes to show that I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I have confessed to my boyfriend that I was self-conscious at times, simply because I didn't understand. I was terrified to ask the wrong questions and upset him, but then I came to find out that he makes deaf jokes that make me cringe, not him. I was afraid of yanking one of his implants out of his head on accident. I have multiple times now, and it has never once been a big deal. I was self-conscious about hitting a nerve, about something that not only impairs his hearing but his life as a whole.

There was one night, at the beginning of our relationship, where we just sat asking each other questions as new couples commonly do. The question was, "What is your biggest insecurity?"

His answer was his hearing. My answer was my body.

I discovered that there are always times where he will feel insecure because he isn't able to hear like everyone else. However, I love the fact that he isn't like everyone else. I sincerely hope that he realizes that.

But no, I will never be able to truly understand what it is like to be deaf, to have this life-changing impairment, and that's OK.

What I do know is that by dating my boyfriend I have learned this—everybody is insecure about something. Some are insecure about something as superficial as their looks like I am. Then some are insecure about something that affects their entire life, such as my boyfriend with his hearing. It has occurred to me that if my boyfriend can overcome something as life-altering as his deafness then I can overcome body insecurity and many other obstacles in my life now, thanks to him.

I have never met a guy as willing to listen to me and my minuscule problems as my boyfriend. I have never experienced problems in my life as severe as his deafness, but he always makes my problems, thoughts, insecurities, etc. feel validated. He is understanding and considerate. He is reassuring and has a heart of gold, and I continue to be amazed by him each day that we spend together.

So, yes, my boyfriend is deaf, but he most definitely is not a terrible listener. Not at all.

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The 7 Best Restaurants For Valentine's Day Dates In Springfield, Missouri

No matter what you and your date are feeling, the Queen City has something for you.

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Love may be in the air, but so are the smells of some delicious restaurants. Springfield, Missouri is a place I have been lucky to call home for the past three years. And it's full of restaurants of all varieties, perfect for any Valentine—even the pickiest of eaters.

From casual dining to the finer side, Springfield has what you're looking for. By knowing some options besides Olive Garden, you can add a little variety to your dining experience and ensure a happy and romantic evening.

Take a look, build your appetite, and make your reservations early (if you can) so you can treat your date to the evening they deserve.

1. Aviary Cafe & Creperie

The Aviary Cafe is a Springfield favorite. This restaurant is open late, has a full bar, and serves sweet and savory crepes along with other traditional bistro items. The Aviary allows you to make reservations for Valentine's Day and even has a unique menu specifically for the holiday, which includes a pan-seared pork chop, pommes frites, and New York cheesecake made fresh in the bakery.

2. Flame Steakhouse

Flame is a great place to go for a more upscale and expensive Valentine's Day dinner if you're in the mood to wine and dine your date. Rated three dollar signs our of four on Yelp, this steakhouse and wine bar has everything from Alaskan King Crab legs to fresh flash-fried calamari to a dry aged 24 oz Porterhouse steak. This restaurant will no doubt be packed on Valentine's Day, so be sure to make your reservation as soon as possible.

3. Bambinos Italian Cafe

Bambinos Italian Cafe has some of the best Italian food in the Springfield area. Rated "Best Date-Night Dinner" by Missouri State University's newspaper The Standard in 2017 and Best Italian Dining in 2018 by 417 Magazine, this cafe proves it can back up that claim, too. This quaint Italian restaurant has some of the best food the city has to offer from crab cakes and pasta to tiramisu to some house pastas that are to die for. With vegan options, Bambinos is the place for everyone.

4. Druff's

If you're looking for more casual of a dining experience, look no further. Druff's is known for it's incredibly tasty and different sandwiches and soups. For Valentine's Day, though, things are getting a little spiced up at this downtown hot spot. For just $45, you and your Valentine can experience the magic of Druff's with an appetizer, some sandwiches, soups, and a dessert. Make your reservation now, because it's going to be a busy night on Valentine's Day!

5. Metropolitan Grill

On the more expensive side, Metropolitan Grill is sure to make this Valentine's Day a romantic one. If you and your date come here for your evening, be sure to dress the part that this upscale restaurant expects. From pasta to steak to surf and turf, there's plenty of food to choose from. This fine dining experience is a great way to show your Valentine just how much they mean to you.

6. Nakato Japanese Restaurant

Nakato is a Japanese steakhouse and sushi bar that will leave you and your date wanting to come back again and again. With a full bar and a hibachi grill experience like no other, you can have a great evening with food cooked just the way both you and your Valentine like it. Whether you're a sushi fanatic or experiencing it for the first time, Nakato is sure to provide a fun and interactive Valentine's Day experience.

7. Black Sheep Burgers & Shakes

Who says Valentine's Day needs to be steak and wine? Known for their fun alcoholic shakes and crazy burgers, Black Sheep is also filled with some yummy food. If fine dining isn't your style, relax this Valentine's Day with a nice decadent burger and a shake or beer. You don't have to go all out for Valentine's Day to make it a great one, and Black Sheep's burgers won't disappoint.

From burgers to steaks to grilled cheese, Springfield is known for all kinds of foods. With seemingly unending options for your Valentine's Day date, it's fair to say this list is not at all the only restaurants to consider.

The most important thing to remember is that no matter where you and your Valentine go out to eat, make your date special. With the right person, it doesn't even matter if you're eating at Steak 'N Shake or Applebee's. There's a lot of pressure to make Valentine's Day special and perfect, but as long as you think the person you're with is both of those things, you're set.

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