What Happens When Your Favorite Actor Gets Accused Of Sexual Assault

What Happens When Your Favorite Actor Gets Accused Of Sexual Assault

It's hard to admit when your problematic fave messes up.
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On Thursday, the Los Angeles Times published a piece detailing multiple women’s accusations of inappropriate, sexual misconduct against recent Golden Globe winner James Franco. After he received the award last Sunday, the women in the piece spoke up about the hypocrisy surrounding the “Time’s Up” pin on Franco’s suit.

A man accused of such vile behavior really shouldn’t be “advocating” for a legal defense fund that protects against sexual assault. That would be like Louis CK retweeting a thread of MeToo moments that swept over Hollywood the past year.

When I saw the CNN notification on my phone about Franco, my heart dropped. I imagine I felt the same way that middle-aged white women felt when they realized Kevin Spacey was gay. I tried to be surprised that one of the few male actors I looked up to had stooped so low to act this way toward women, but I couldn’t. This past year only taught me that, sadly, anybody can be that evil, ill-intentioned boogeyman your parents taught you to stay away from.

I can’t count how many times I’ve watched "Freaks and Geeks" on Netflix. I still remember watching "Pineapple Express" many years ago when I probably wasn’t supposed to. I just watched Franco on SNL last month, completely ready to throw away money to go see his new movie. And, let’s be honest, he’s an attractive guy.

It’s hard to admit when someone you like, someone you admire, someone you enjoy watching be successful has messed up. But Franco, and the many other men recently under fire for similar allegations, did just that. The only thing they can do now is own up to their actions, which still won’t make up for the pain, fear and doubt they caused vulnerable men and women to feel.

It’s also difficult to say whether or not this trend of allowing victims to stand up and expose their assaulters will last. Since the Weinstein news broke all the way back in October, more than 50 other high-profile Hollywood faces were also accused of the same misconduct.

Right now, the #MeToo movement has reached unheard of heights but is it just another fad? Does such a thing have any lasting power when punishments for the accused are so infrequent?

Wearing all black at the Golden Globes was a perfect unifier, but will that still be the dress code for the more upbeat Grammys? Will it even reach the Oscars in less than a month or will the world have moved on by then?

Will the Weinstein Company give Harvey his job back once MeToo blows over? Probably. Will Woody Allen make subpar movies until the day he dies without any repercussions toward everything he’s done? Seems likely. Will Matt Later return to reporting after everyone forgets about his secret button? Hard to say, but Fox News will always hire him. Will these accusations toward James Franco affect my thoughts about him?

Yes. They have to. We, as a society, can not keep supporting such influential men even when we find out how awful they are. The only way to stop men in Hollywood from abusing their power is to not give them any power in the first place.

Cover Image Credit: Bridget Laudien

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Hello, I'm 24, And Yes, I'm A Virgin — And Yes, I'll Answer All Of Your Redundant Questions At Once

You read that correctly.

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"What? Are you serious?"

"Wait a minute, there is no way you are telling me the truth."

"How are you still a virgin? Are you religious? Are you waiting for marriage? Why haven't you had sex yet? That's just so crazy..."

Welcome to my world.

First, let me introduce myself again. Hi there, my name is Reanna, I'm a 24-year-old writer and also a virgin, how do you do? The first thing in that sentence is the V word, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Now that isn't something I start going and telling people, trust me it's the last thing I want to do. I get bombarded with almost every single question up above and I hate answering it every time. The only time I decide to share it is if someone asks me something along the lines of sex or when I can't offer my opinion.

It's a little-known fact that I tend to hide from people but not anymore. Let the world know, is it's any of their business but guess what? I'm not the only one out there. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I'm certainly not. What bothers me most is when people start questioning it and looking at me like I'm crazy.

Fine, I'll answer your simple questions above.

Yes, I said I was a virgin. Yes, again, I'm dead serious. I'm telling you the truth, why lie? I'm still a virgin because I choose to be. No, I'm not religious. I don't want to ever get married so I'm not waiting for marriage. Again, I just haven't found the guy to have sex with and it is still my choice. Think it's crazy, just don't judge me.

Sex is sex, what's the big problem here?

If I choose not to sleep with a guy, I have the right to it. I have the right to be a virgin until I decide it is the best time not to be anymore. I already know I shocked you by the title but why should you be so shocked? Is it because most people lose their virginity in high school? Is it usually to their first boyfriend?

Nothing separates me from you.

You don't need to laugh or really comment on the sentence. If I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin. If you are not, then you're not. If you are, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's a strange situation to be in when people look at you like you are an alien from a different planet. People get so surprised as if you just said you came from Mars.

Maybe this is my experience but I'm in no rush to have sex.

There comes a day when it may happen but I'm not rushing to find the one so to speak. Until then, I'm glad this is off my chest and I'm glad for you to know that. You know why? Because any guy you tell that to is desperate to change your mind, trust me. If you can't respect it, why should I be the one you sleep with?

So guys here is a complete tip: If a girl tells you she is a virgin, don't act so shocked, don't act so surprised.

Nod your head, respect the choice and move on. It's as simple as that.

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What It's Like Being A 20-Year-Old Virgin In The 21st Century

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.
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Sex. The topic we only spoke of in hushed tones in the past has quickly become a part of our everyday interactions. It seems to be the center of our motivations, thoughts, actions, and feelings. This is the reason I don't feel uncomfortable dedicating this week's article to the subject. Now, mom and dad, if you're reading this, I won't be offended if you stop. I'd actually be quite happy. Everybody else, do me a favor and ask yourself this:

What does it mean to be a virgin in today's society?

There is a social stigma associated with being a virgin. We're all prudes, are mega-religious, and have never even thought about what it would be like to share a night with Ryan Gosling. Right? Wrong. I promise you the majority of virgins you'll meet are virgins by choice - not because their moms have them chained to a metal post with their legs strapped shut. I've been racking my brain about questions and concerns and the million-dollar-question I have for y'all is: If it's no big deal to have sex, then why is it a big deal not to have sex? I mean really, whose business is it anyway?

I feel the criticism from my own doctor at times. She'd ask, "Are you sexually active?" I'd respond with a lightening fast "No", which she'd follow with a quick sigh and an even quicker response, "Have you ever been sexually active?" Unreal.

In a culture so consumed by "Netflix and chill" and the infamous right swipe, it's hard not to constantly wonder when (and with who) my time will come. It's almost like we're racing against the clock of chastity. I wonder if Marie Curie, Rosa Parks, or Amelia Earhart worried about who'd swipe their V-card as much as I do? Probably not, they were too busy making the world a better place.

I can't go a day without hearing about sex, talking about sex, or honestly... thinking about sex (sorry, dad). I remember a time when it was "shocking" to discover anybody was having sex and now it's "shocking" to discover anybody isn't. The reactions I get when people discover I still hold the key to my innocence aren't only mildly insulting but sad. When did it become shameful to be a virgin? I'm only 20 years old. I've only lived 1/4 of my life and in no means do I feel rushed to get down and dirty.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't plan for my life to go this way. Shocker, but my Magic 8-Ball didn't prepare me for this. I am a huge supporter of doing what you want, when you want, and with whom you want to do it with. Hell, half of my friends aren't virgins and I'm happy for them. They were with someone they loved (or at least liked) and made a choice. I've made a choice too. I am evolving with the world around me and taking life one wine bottle at a time. I don't want to settle for less than I deserve. I want somebody who loves me, respects me, and understands where I'm coming from.

I'm prepared to deal with the douchebags and the nobody losers who can't deal with the decision I've made equally as much as I'm prepared to meet the guy who can.

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

Cover Image Credit: Bustle

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