From The Girl Ready To Settle Down At 20

From The Girl Ready To Settle Down At 20

I am not trying to grow up too fast, but I had my run at living it up, and now I'm ready to settle down.
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At my age, 20 years old, many people are just beginning the "live life to the fullest" phase. Many of the people I know my age are going to bars and parties, drinking, living the single life, having fun in college, joining sororities/fraternities, meeting new people, changing their style and getting a tattoo for the heck of it. This is when they are trying new things, "finding themselves," and don't want to be "tied down." There is nothing wrong with any of this. The older people in my life, such as parents and their friends, repeatedly tell me to stay young and enjoy life. I know most people think I should be living like the majority of the people my age, but lately, it just isn't me. I don't know if I just got an early start to the parties, being single, and venturing out lifestyle or what, but suddenly, this 20-year-old is perfectly happy with settling down.

At the age of 17, I had a pretty rough start with the whole relationship thing. My first serious relationship was enough to make anyone want to be single for a very long while. After that, I rebelled a little, like any teenager does at some point, and began to find myself. Of course, some bad decisions were made along the way, but how else are you supposed to mature and learn?

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Two years after the initial heartbreak that caused my slight rebellion, I met the man of my dreams. We have been dating for almost a year now, and I look back now and see how much I have changed in just three short years.

Thinking of going to the bar doesn't seem half as fun as it used to. I would rather have a glass of wine in a bubble bath than go drink with friends. I wonder how I ever thought being single was so great when now I have someone to share everything with. Joining a sorority no longer interests me. Parties aren't my scene. Everything that seemed so important back then no longer matters to me now.

My idea of fun is a movie night with my boyfriend, dinner with the girls, traveling and making memories. I stay busy with a job, school and barrel racing. I have a renewed interest in my relationship with God, and my bible is something I try to look at more than social media.

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Sure, I've lost some friends because of this. Some just don't understand why I would rather go on a date with my boyfriend than go to the bars with them. I've accepted the fact that not everyone is going to agree with me "growing up too fast." Then again, everyone has their time when they get tired of the bars and being single, and everyone grows up eventually. As far as regrets, I don't see myself having any because this is the first time in a very long time that I can say I am truly happy.

So here's to all you people my age that are told on a regular basis that you act too old, or that you to need stay young and live a little. I feel ya. What they don't know is you can still have fun, and be in the bed by 9 o'clock. 😉

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I Respect Hailey And Justin Bieber For Waiting To Have Sex, Considering How Messed Up Dating Culture Is In 2019

In a world where we swipe right for the next best thing and move along from hookup to hookup, I have a huge amount of respect for Hailey and Justin.

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Unless you live under a rock, you've probably seen Vogue's March issue featuring newlyweds Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber. The pictures are as stunning as you'd imagine considering the team of people involved beautifying an already beautiful couple.

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Perhaps the biggest takeaway from the couple's interview was their sex life, or lack thereof. Justin Bieber opened up about how he was celibate for a year—which has taken the world by surprise—and that Hailey and Justin saved themselves for their wedding day after rekindling their romance back in June. Bieber told Vogue that he struggled with sex addiction and he attributes this decision to his desire to become closer to God.

"He [God] doesn't ask us not to have sex for him because he wants rules and stuff," said Bieber. "He's like 'I'm trying to protect you from hurt and pain.' I think sex can cause a lot of pain. Sometimes people have sex because they don't feel good enough. Because they lack self-worth. Women do that, and guys do that."

In a world where we swipe right for the next best thing and move along from hookup to hookup, I have a huge amount of respect for Hailey and Justin.

I think people forget that love isn't just a feeling. It's not lust, the honeymoon phase or chemistry. Love is a decision. It's a commitment. It's a promise.

People and fans all over the nation had something to say about the fact that Justin and Hailey sped to the courthouse to be married, and most comments were negative.

Since when is making a lifetime commitment a bad thing?

I'm sorry but if Justin Bieber can abstain from sex from a SUPERMODEL, I am pretty positive he has what it takes to stay married.

This generation is so obsessed with everything shallow. We are COMMITTED to being shallow. That's our commitment. How sad is that? We run from commitment, we run from emotions and we run from anything with any type of substance. Yet Hailey and Justin Bieber have committed themselves to God and each other, and people still find something negative to say.

It's not like Hailey and Justin thought it would be easy. They knew exactly what they were getting themselves into. Hailey said it herself, "it [marriage] is really effing hard."

"I'm not going to sit here and lie and say it's all a magical fantasy," Hailey said. "It's always going to be hard. It's a choice. You don't feel it every single day. You don't wake up every day saying, 'I'm absolutely so in love and you are perfect.' That's not what being married is. But there's something beautiful about it anyway—about wanting to fight for something, commit to building with someone."

So instead of being negative, we should applaud them, root for them, cheer them on because instead of going on the never-ending search for something better, they've committed to a never-ending journey of bettering each other with God as their No. 1.

Call me crazy, but I think that's beautiful.

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To The Engaged Girls Prepping For A Wedding, Just Breathe

And just let God take the reigns.

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I've been engaged for a little over two weeks and I'm ALREADY overwhelmed with all of the "when's the date?" "where's it going to be?" questions. Am I supposed to have everything planned already? This was literally the last thing I wanted to stress about before my last semester of college.

So instead of stressing, I chose to give it to God. The planning, the deciding, the scheduling, everything. I set it all down for the next week and chose prayer instead. I refuse to go into depth talking about it with friends and family. I let them know very nonchalantly, that my fiancé and I chose to trade all the wedding planning for a week of prayer instead. As of the past two days of prayer, I'm currently wondering why I never did this with anything else that was big and stressful in my life. Anytime I have the urge to look up dresses, get in contact with vendors, etc, I breathe and let it go. I drop it and seek out prayer and only then do I find complete peace and happiness.

It's allowed me to focus on getting back into the swing of things with the school as well as focus on my college friendships which will soon in just a couple months never be the same as they are right now. Prayer and surrender are giving me an appreciation for the college life I've created over the years and reminding me to not take a single ounce of it for granted.

Lastly, making prayer our go to before any wedding planning sets my fiancé and me on the right path. Instead of tackling unknowns and big financial decisions on our own, we're dropping the reigns and going to our Lord first; together. So if you're an anxious ball of stress because of wedding planning, maybe try putting it on pause for a week or so and spend that time elsewhere, in prayer, with our Lord. Put your marriage in the hands of the Creator before you're even married.

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