13 Gestures, Big And Small That Can Be More Intimate Than Sex

13 Gestures, Big And Small That Can Be More Intimate Than Sex

These gestures can go a long way in romance. You don't have to take your clothes off to connect with someone or make their heart race.

There are so many different elements to dating, and sex is always cast as the highlight. While sex can for sure be an intimate experience, there are many other ways to get your heart racing!

The parts that connect you to your partner the most are often simple gestures that you don't even consider until you start missing them after a breakup. Here are some extremely intimate gestures that are sure to make you weak in the knees!

1. Kisses on the cheek, shoulder or forehead

I don’t know what it is about a simple chaste kiss, but the gesture is just so beautiful that you’re sure to have butterflies for a moment. Non-sexual kisses are the way to my heart.

2. Sharing food

You don’t have to go all "Lady and the Tramp" style or actually feed one another, but splitting a dessert and being close to one another is sure to be an intimate moment.

3. Watching shows together

There’s nothing more exciting than watching TV with your bestie and getting to “ooh" and "ah” over your favorite parts or get dramatic over things you hated. Having “couple” shows gives you something to experience together and talk about on a regular basis...just as long as they don’t cheat and watch an episode without you!!

4. Holding hands

Locking hands seems simple, but when you’re in public, it’s a beautiful sign that can’t be missed. Sometimes it’s really nice to feel that sense of belonging to another person.

5. Meeting your partner’s friends

Being introduced to everyone your partner spends time with is a symbol of someone being proud to have you. They’re bringing you into their world, which can be very exciting and make you feel important.

6. Cuddling

There’s nothing more relaxing than curling up with someone to unwind from your day. It provides an instant solace and connection as you let their heartbeat sync with yours and let the worries melt away.

7. Talking about what scares you

It’s so hard to be vulnerable, but when someone trusts you enough to open up and share those fears, it really gives you a glimpse into their soul and connects you in a whole new way. It also makes you want to open up to them more and provides that mutual trust that brings you closer together.

8. Giving each other nicknames

It’s not just giving each other pet names like “baby;” it’s having inside jokes and assigning each other a cute name that is just between the two of you. It’s special to your relationship and brings you a smile every time they say it.

9. Slow dancing

You don’t always have the opportunity to slow dance with your partner but when you do, it can be incredibly intimate. You get to share a soft moment with them and hold each other close which is sure to warm your heart.

10. Meeting your partner’s family

Even more intimate than meeting their friends, meeting your significant other’s parents is a sign that they are absolutely serious about you. The sense of comfort it brings is so exciting, breath-taking and so beautifully intimate.

11. Sharing comfortable silence

When you’re truly comfortable with someone, words don’t always have to be exchanged. Sometimes sitting in silence with someone is all you need. You can stare into each other’s eyes, feel your heartbeat start to slow and your body relaxes and it brings you to a sense of serenity without ever having to open your mouth. Your partner becomes your solace.

12. Wearing something of your partner’s

Whether it’s a hoodie or a bracelet you’ve snatched, having something of your partner’s is incredibly comforting. It’s like having them around even when they’re not there.

13. Making out

It doesn’t always have to result in sex. Sometimes having a good, old-fashioned make-out session with your partner on the couch is exactly what you need. It clears your head, makes the anxiety slip away and reminds you how much you absolutely adore your partner.

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Hello, I'm 24, And Yes, I'm A Virgin — And Yes, I'll Answer All Of Your Redundant Questions At Once

You read that correctly.


"What? Are you serious?"

"Wait a minute, there is no way you are telling me the truth."

"How are you still a virgin? Are you religious? Are you waiting for marriage? Why haven't you had sex yet? That's just so crazy..."

Welcome to my world.

First, let me introduce myself again. Hi there, my name is Reanna, I'm a 24-year-old writer and also a virgin, how do you do? The first thing in that sentence is the V word, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Now that isn't something I start going and telling people, trust me it's the last thing I want to do. I get bombarded with almost every single question up above and I hate answering it every time. The only time I decide to share it is if someone asks me something along the lines of sex or when I can't offer my opinion.

It's a little-known fact that I tend to hide from people but not anymore. Let the world know, is it's any of their business but guess what? I'm not the only one out there. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I'm certainly not. What bothers me most is when people start questioning it and looking at me like I'm crazy.

Fine, I'll answer your simple questions above.

Yes, I said I was a virgin. Yes, again, I'm dead serious. I'm telling you the truth, why lie? I'm still a virgin because I choose to be. No, I'm not religious. I don't want to ever get married so I'm not waiting for marriage. Again, I just haven't found the guy to have sex with and it is still my choice. Think it's crazy, just don't judge me.

Sex is sex, what's the big problem here?

If I choose not to sleep with a guy, I have the right to it. I have the right to be a virgin until I decide it is the best time not to be anymore. I already know I shocked you by the title but why should you be so shocked? Is it because most people lose their virginity in high school? Is it usually to their first boyfriend?

Nothing separates me from you.

You don't need to laugh or really comment on the sentence. If I'm a virgin, I'm a virgin. If you are not, then you're not. If you are, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's a strange situation to be in when people look at you like you are an alien from a different planet. People get so surprised as if you just said you came from Mars.

Maybe this is my experience but I'm in no rush to have sex.

There comes a day when it may happen but I'm not rushing to find the one so to speak. Until then, I'm glad this is off my chest and I'm glad for you to know that. You know why? Because any guy you tell that to is desperate to change your mind, trust me. If you can't respect it, why should I be the one you sleep with?

So guys here is a complete tip: If a girl tells you she is a virgin, don't act so shocked, don't act so surprised.

Nod your head, respect the choice and move on. It's as simple as that.

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What It's Like Being A 20-Year-Old Virgin In The 21st Century

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

Sex. The topic we only spoke of in hushed tones in the past has quickly become a part of our everyday interactions. It seems to be the center of our motivations, thoughts, actions, and feelings. This is the reason I don't feel uncomfortable dedicating this week's article to the subject. Now, mom and dad, if you're reading this, I won't be offended if you stop. I'd actually be quite happy. Everybody else, do me a favor and ask yourself this:

What does it mean to be a virgin in today's society?

There is a social stigma associated with being a virgin. We're all prudes, are mega-religious, and have never even thought about what it would be like to share a night with Ryan Gosling. Right? Wrong. I promise you the majority of virgins you'll meet are virgins by choice - not because their moms have them chained to a metal post with their legs strapped shut. I've been racking my brain about questions and concerns and the million-dollar-question I have for y'all is: If it's no big deal to have sex, then why is it a big deal not to have sex? I mean really, whose business is it anyway?

I feel the criticism from my own doctor at times. She'd ask, "Are you sexually active?" I'd respond with a lightening fast "No", which she'd follow with a quick sigh and an even quicker response, "Have you ever been sexually active?" Unreal.

In a culture so consumed by "Netflix and chill" and the infamous right swipe, it's hard not to constantly wonder when (and with who) my time will come. It's almost like we're racing against the clock of chastity. I wonder if Marie Curie, Rosa Parks, or Amelia Earhart worried about who'd swipe their V-card as much as I do? Probably not, they were too busy making the world a better place.

I can't go a day without hearing about sex, talking about sex, or honestly... thinking about sex (sorry, dad). I remember a time when it was "shocking" to discover anybody was having sex and now it's "shocking" to discover anybody isn't. The reactions I get when people discover I still hold the key to my innocence aren't only mildly insulting but sad. When did it become shameful to be a virgin? I'm only 20 years old. I've only lived 1/4 of my life and in no means do I feel rushed to get down and dirty.

Don't get me wrong, I didn't plan for my life to go this way. Shocker, but my Magic 8-Ball didn't prepare me for this. I am a huge supporter of doing what you want, when you want, and with whom you want to do it with. Hell, half of my friends aren't virgins and I'm happy for them. They were with someone they loved (or at least liked) and made a choice. I've made a choice too. I am evolving with the world around me and taking life one wine bottle at a time. I don't want to settle for less than I deserve. I want somebody who loves me, respects me, and understands where I'm coming from.

I'm prepared to deal with the douchebags and the nobody losers who can't deal with the decision I've made equally as much as I'm prepared to meet the guy who can.

For now, I wait. And that is perfectly okay.

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