Can You Really Be Mature Enough To Get Married In College?

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During the month of May, where many college undergraduates hope to achieve "ring by spring," we will be featuring perspectives from different Odyssey Creators about getting married young. You can explore the perspectives on the topic of getting married young here.

We have arranged their stances on the issue in a conversation between people who feel they are mature enough to get married in college (pink) and those who do not believe they are mature enough (gray).

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To My Future Fiance, If You’re Proposing To Me For The Instagram Content, Have Fun Posting A Video Of Me Saying ‘No’

Whoever you are, take notes for future reference.


OK, OK, he can propose to me in public, but if it's a grand event that has nothing to do with my character, then 100% I'm saying, "No, try again."

I hope that one day someone special has my heart and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. But I want them to really know who I am. Inside and out and all around. I'm not a showy person, I'm not into social media, and I don't want a 20-carat ring. There's nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's never been for me. It's just not me.

I'm never going to do anything because someone else or the general society thinks or says I should do it. I like to defy society and do what's best for me. Even if I do something that is acceptable by society's standards, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I always say, "If someone wants to get to know me then they shouldn't judge what they see, read, or hear, they should just say, 'Hi,' and we can go from there." I don't post something for others to see, I post it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. Because I impulsively want to.

So, I want my fiancé's initial feeling of complete and absolute love to be blurted out to me ASAP. You don't have to keep your passions hidden while you plan a huge fiasco with balloons and confetti and "Will you marry me?" clouds in the sky. I don't need that for you to tell me you love me.

My dream proposal would be us cooking and taste tasting dinner, dancing, and singing to our favorite song when you just pause to look at me and ask, "You wanna get married?"

Of course, I'd question if you're being serious or not, but if we've already discussed the future and our hearts are in the right place, I'd melt in your arms.

You're not proposing to me to show off our love to your Facebook friends. You're proposing to me because you want nothing else but me. If you want to plan something special afterward, go ahead. Thoughtful surprises make me feel so special, but make sure that it's planned for me.

My long-distance boyfriend recently surprised me with a visit by calling my parents to figure out just how to leave me open-mouthed. I realized how much I appreciated the planning and arrangement. No one has ever done that for me before and I won't lie, I loved it. I wouldn't mind a fun proposal. I would be eternally grateful for the thought behind it, but I want the initial question to be intimate, personal, and tailored for me.

At the end of the day, sure, the proposal can be out and about in public, but I want the focus to be us. Not just me or you, but our relationship and our future. I don't care if other people don't think you love me enough because the proposal wasn't a showstopper. I know how you feel about me and that's all that matters.

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It's 2019 — You Should Live With Them BEFORE You Marry Them

Do you really know this person?


Some people frown upon two unwed people living together because it is against their religious beliefs or other traditions.

My argument is: how do you really know that person?

I feel like you don't know who a person is until you live with them. Seeing how this person is day in and day out and how they actually live, is different than when out in public or hanging out at someone else's place.

Before heading to college, I needed to find a roommate to live with on campus. I turned to my best friend since the 5th grade. We knew each other so well, heck, we even grew up together. We decided to live together on campus and have a blast! But did we know everything about one another?

Ehhh, not exactly.

We decided that living together wasn't working out for us. Long story short, we didn't work well living in the dorms. We are still friends to this day, and get along like nothing ever happened.

But something like this makes me think about the future. I would never want to marry someone without having lived with them beforehand. No, it isn't traditional, but it is who I am. I knew my best friend at the time for about seven years when we decided to room together at college. Now applying this friendship situation to a relationship situation... people in a relationship typically don't date for seven years before tying the knot.

My point is, I am not signing a legally binding document if I don't even know who that person is.

While moving isn't particularly easy, divorce is much more cumbersome.

This isn't the case for everyone, please do what suits you best. I just know this is what I want in a future relationship.

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