One Of The Worst Things You Can Do To Someone Who Likes You Is Ghost Them

One Of The Worst Things You Can Do To Someone Who Likes You Is Ghost Them

"All these ghosts and I still got no boo."

I'm tired of meeting "men", hitting it off, thinking it's going to go somewhere and then they decide that they're just going to ignore me until I get the idea. This is called ghosting. And you know what? It's not okay. I know we are all guilty of committing this dating crime. Trust me, I've been there, but that's not something I do anymore. I realized it was childish and wrong and hurtful. If I'm not interested or I just don't think we're compatible, I'll tell the person, nicely. I never like to make anyone feel bad since I've been on the other end of it.

I'm a grown woman. I don't have time to play these mind games in the dating scene. Are you interested in me? Ok, great. Prove it. Put in the effort. Show me consistency. Show me that you're going to stick around and that you want to be with me.

I am no way saying that it should all be left on the guy to do these things because it's an equal effort. I'm just talking from past experience that I'm usually the one to put in 90% and they're doing the bare minimum. You know what's a pet peeve? When they use excuses. We all get busy, but if we like someone we make time for them, no matter what. I've seen way too many of my friends get upset because the guy they liked hasn't talked to them in a few days because they are busy. We are the generation that's always on our phones. If you can't take two seconds out of your day to text someone and say, "Sorry, I've been caught up. Hope you're having a good day/week," I don't buy it. A simple text is just that, it's simple. It shows that you're still thinking of them.

Here is a piece of advice if you're going to take anything from this: If you're not interested in someone, maybe you have mixed feelings, at least take them on a date first just to make sure. Hanging out with someone in a group setting all the time isn't enough and neither is judging their character by the way they text. You'll be glad that you did this.

Honesty is really important and so is communication. Be upfront with the person if you no longer have feelings, not interested, etc. Yes, they will feel a little hurt, upset, maybe they'll be a bit disappointed, but I can tell you they will appreciate your honesty more than you disappearing from their life and left with no answer. That closure will mean a lot.

Next time, if you're going to ghost someone, put yourself in their shoes. Think about how they will feel.

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10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.


Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.


For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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