They Say Guys Love The Chase But I'm A Girl And I LOVE It

According to Urban Dictionary, "the chase: one person's romantic pursuit of another, oftentimes not fueled by an actual desire for a relationship." But in reality, can be fueled for an actual desire of a relationship. I've been on both ends of the spectrum for wanting to have fun or actually settling down for a relationship.

The chase is seriously just a thrilling and fun (sometimes) experience which is why I feel like so many guys like it.

I was in a two-year relationship during my sophomore year to senior year in high school. I was young and never really experienced chasing. We broke up and it was like a whole new world for me. Being single was weird and I was thinking that I wasn't quite sure how to do it again. I put myself out into the world of singles eventually and everything was feeling normal again.

Men are known for the infamous chase. I've heard countless stories from my girlfriends about how they thought this guy was really into them and then when it actually started to get somewhat serious, he cut things off. I have also had similar experiences back when I was a freshman in high school, I'm pretty sure almost every girl has.

I started talking to some guys here and there, nothing too serious since I wasn't quite ready for a relationship but I was ready to get out there. I know how guys work, I was in the sport of wrestling for eight years of my life, which was an all boy team and have some amazing guy friends. They would tell me their problems or tell me stories about their lives with girls. Either they were trying to win her over to end up being in a relationship or they were simply just looking for a hookup. When my time came, I wasn't directly looking for anything and if things worked out with one guy and a relationship happens, then it happens. I was just riding along.

When I was getting to know some boys, I was keeping my mind open. I wasn't trying super hard to impress them or anything like that but I always wanted to keep them interested just in case I could see anything happening with them in the future. I started realizing that I was pretty much chasing these guys. There was a challenge of trying to keep them interested in talking to me because you know, girls love attention. I realized that I was chasing these guys... and I loved the thrill of it.

Once I started seeing that some of these guys really didn't care, I started acting like I didn't care and then it really hit them. I still wasn't really looking to settle down quite yet, so once a guy would seem like he wanted something more with me, I'd cut him out (which was probably a fuckboy move on my part... oops). The more and more I kept chasing, I became aware of why guys love to chase.

The adrenaline rush and the challenge was perfect because of how competitive I am as a person... until I met my now boyfriend.

He was definitely the biggest chase I've experienced. He was hot, funny and well liked. I felt like I couldn't even have a chance with him but I shot my shot anyway. As time passed, I pretty much noticed he was doing "the chase" with me as well. I got to know him more and more and I ended up falling for him and wanted more than just talking or a hookup. As two months passed of talking, hanging out and really getting to know each other, I knew I really wanted him. He was keeping his distance, making it seem like he was busy and whatever. The thrill of chasing ended up getting frustrating for me at this point, but I still loved the challenge and picked up my game. I started talking to him less and less which was basically letting him think that "I was losing interest in him."

We have been talking for about four months at this spot. He noticed it and I kept going on with it for about another week or two, soon enough he told me he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. The chase worked out in my favor!

Long story short ladies, guys aren't the only ones who can do "the chase." I did it, found out I love doing it because it was such a thrill and it ended up working out for me and I scored myself my current boyfriend.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Sorry Boys, But I Won’t Be That Girl Who Waits Around For You Anymore

Just because I know my worth doesn't mean I should have to wait around for you to realize it too.


I'm like most girls. I am such a hopeless romantic when it comes to dating and all that jazz. With that being said, I have also been the type of girl who has waited around for that guy once or twice (OK let's be real, one too many times).

I am a nice person and a lot of my friends know that I have a kind heart. You can do me dirty and I will forgive you. When it came to guys they could have led me on or ghosted me and later on came back out of nowhere and apologized, more than likely I would have given them a second chance at redemption.

I waited around for that guy to either realize how great we would be together or realize how great of a girl I was. All of my friends would tell me how great I was and how worthy I was but in the end, they weren't the ones I wanted to hear that from. Which was why I waited around and thought up of an excuse to defend the guy I was waiting around for.

The older I got the more I realized how silly I was for waiting around for a guy who probably did not appreciate me the way I should have been appreciated. I realized that I was much better than that and I made a promise that I would stop waiting around. Of course, I did slip up here and there (I mean, I am only human after all).

It wasn't until I was beyond over the male species that I realize how ridiculous I was being for crying over someone who stopped talking to me without rhyme or reason. That was the moment that I realized how worthy I was of a great relationship. A relationship that you see in movies or see in old couples who have been married for 65 years.

I decided I was no longer going to be THAT girl who waited around for a guy. I was no longer going to defend him when my friends asked me why I was still talking to him. I was no longer going to wait around for him to realize how worthy I was. Ever since I promised myself that I was going to live MY best life I have been beyond happy.

Yeah sometimes I say to myself "he was different" but then I remind myself that if he truly cared for me the way I cared for him then I would not have to wait around. He would not only pursue me but also my heart.

So ladies, realize your worth. Stop waiting around for that guy to come to the conclusion how amazing you are. You are a queen and if he can't see that right off the bat, he is NOT worth your time. Wear your crown with your head held high, live your best life, and slay the day away, queen.


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You’re Not Going To Meet Someone On Your Couch Watching Netflix, So Get Your Ass Up

Dating isn't easy, but getting off the couch shouldn't be too hard.


I don't mean to come off as harsh.

The words are directed at me just as much as they are anyone else. Dating isn't easy, especially when most of us have been out of practice. Even as an extroverted person, the idea of striking up a conversation with an attractive guy makes me anxious. If you are fine with being single then this article isn't for you but for the rest of us who want to change our stagnant relationship status, keep on reading.

Dating has changed drastically since our parents' days. In-person conversations have shifted to words on screens, while dinners and drive-in movie theaters have turned into "Netflix and chill." While some of us might be OK with these casual meetings, others want to be wooed. No matter what kind of relationship you're looking for, I can tell you that you aren't going to find it while laying on your couch. Starting something new is stressful and nerve-wracking, but you have to start somewhere. Sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zones in order to put ourselves in a situation to meet someone new. Whether it's a house party, a nice night out with your girls, or maybe even an invite to study with a new group of friends, these all have the possibility of you putting yourself out there.

There is the potential to meet someone new anywhere: the library, the grocery store, or even in class. While it's important to put yourself out there, don't put so much pressure on everyone you meet. Some people are meant to just be friends, while others have the possibility to be so much more. If you try and it doesn't work out with one person, don't beat yourself up — maybe it wasn't meant to be, or the timing just wasn't right. All I'm trying to say is that you will never know what's out there if you don't get off the couch. I've had a lot of heartbreak in my life and sometimes I think that stops me from trying something new. It's hard to come to terms with that you might be what's stopping you from having a relationship with somebody. We need to remind ourselves that we deserve to be loved and be happy, and a healthy romantic relationship can give us that, we just have to be willing to try.

So strike up a conversation with the cute guy in your English class. Text the boy who you've always wondered "what if." Flirt with the guy who you make eye contact with across the bar. Or don't. The choice is yours. Sitting on the couch hasn't been working for you though, so you might as well try something new.

If you're truly content with being single, I'm happy for you. Keep watching Netflix on your couch, don't let me stop you. But for everyone else who wants to change their relationship status, pause the show, close the laptop or turn off the TV. Try something new, even though it's scary. I'm not saying a boyfriend will just fall into your lap, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try.

Someone could be out there waiting for you, all you have to do is get off the damn couch.

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