They Say Guys Love The Chase But I'm A Girl And I LOVE It

According to Urban Dictionary, "the chase: one person's romantic pursuit of another, oftentimes not fueled by an actual desire for a relationship." But in reality, can be fueled for an actual desire of a relationship. I've been on both ends of the spectrum for wanting to have fun or actually settling down for a relationship.

The chase is seriously just a thrilling and fun (sometimes) experience which is why I feel like so many guys like it.

I was in a two-year relationship during my sophomore year to senior year in high school. I was young and never really experienced chasing. We broke up and it was like a whole new world for me. Being single was weird and I was thinking that I wasn't quite sure how to do it again. I put myself out into the world of singles eventually and everything was feeling normal again.

Men are known for the infamous chase. I've heard countless stories from my girlfriends about how they thought this guy was really into them and then when it actually started to get somewhat serious, he cut things off. I have also had similar experiences back when I was a freshman in high school, I'm pretty sure almost every girl has.

I started talking to some guys here and there, nothing too serious since I wasn't quite ready for a relationship but I was ready to get out there. I know how guys work, I was in the sport of wrestling for eight years of my life, which was an all boy team and have some amazing guy friends. They would tell me their problems or tell me stories about their lives with girls. Either they were trying to win her over to end up being in a relationship or they were simply just looking for a hookup. When my time came, I wasn't directly looking for anything and if things worked out with one guy and a relationship happens, then it happens. I was just riding along.

When I was getting to know some boys, I was keeping my mind open. I wasn't trying super hard to impress them or anything like that but I always wanted to keep them interested just in case I could see anything happening with them in the future. I started realizing that I was pretty much chasing these guys. There was a challenge of trying to keep them interested in talking to me because you know, girls love attention. I realized that I was chasing these guys... and I loved the thrill of it.

Once I started seeing that some of these guys really didn't care, I started acting like I didn't care and then it really hit them. I still wasn't really looking to settle down quite yet, so once a guy would seem like he wanted something more with me, I'd cut him out (which was probably a fuckboy move on my part... oops). The more and more I kept chasing, I became aware of why guys love to chase.

The adrenaline rush and the challenge was perfect because of how competitive I am as a person... until I met my now boyfriend.

He was definitely the biggest chase I've experienced. He was hot, funny and well liked. I felt like I couldn't even have a chance with him but I shot my shot anyway. As time passed, I pretty much noticed he was doing "the chase" with me as well. I got to know him more and more and I ended up falling for him and wanted more than just talking or a hookup. As two months passed of talking, hanging out and really getting to know each other, I knew I really wanted him. He was keeping his distance, making it seem like he was busy and whatever. The thrill of chasing ended up getting frustrating for me at this point, but I still loved the challenge and picked up my game. I started talking to him less and less which was basically letting him think that "I was losing interest in him."

We have been talking for about four months at this spot. He noticed it and I kept going on with it for about another week or two, soon enough he told me he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. The chase worked out in my favor!

Long story short ladies, guys aren't the only ones who can do "the chase." I did it, found out I love doing it because it was such a thrill and it ended up working out for me and I scored myself my current boyfriend.

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I Asked 11 Strong Independent College Girls Why They Plan On Staying Single Alllllll 2019

We don't all need a man to be happy.


Listen. Not every college girl wants a ring by spring or really even cares about finding a man. With the popularity of going to college just to walk out with a Mrs. Degree, all the confident and single ladies tend to get overlooked.

Well, ladies, in case you haven't caught on to 2019's biggest dating trend, I'll share it with you—it's loving yourself and staying single. Here what these 11 strong, independent, college girls say about their plans to stay single alllll 2019.

1. Boys are dumb. Simple as that.

"The male species literally is incapable of using their brain at 20-years-old, I'm going to wait until 30s so maybe they will know how to use their common sense. Sorry boys." - Shelby, 20

2. I want to grow on my own.

"I want to focus on learning more about myself and challenging myself. Also, relationships are complicated so I'd rather spend that time worrying about or focusing on school." - Molly, 18

3. Self-love is the best love.

"I need to learn to love myself more than I have been the past two years. I just got out of a two-year relationship (which I am still severely heartbroken over) but I am actually excited to be living life for me." - Caitlin, 20

4. The time spent on focusing on gaining someone else's love will now be spent on finding love within myself.

"It's not that I plan on staying single, I'm just not going to actively put myself out there and fine tune myself. I have spent the past couple of years doing everything I could to find a guy, dating apps, blind dates, letting my friends run my dating apps, socializing a little extra and it just makes me so tired. I want to focus more on myself and what I like to do. Take myself out for a nice dinner and spend time with me. Not watching Netflix but actually getting to know who I am and love myself again, because how you can expect somebody to love you and know you if you don't even know or love yourself?" - Leah, 23

5. Time for some power moves, sister.

"I'm achieving my career dreams without any man holding me back or making me second guess myself or my decisions!" - Jenny, 21

6. Someone print this on a damn t-shirt or something.

"I'm trying to get A's, not Baes." - Holly, 20

7. Well, to put it simply...

"Men are trash." - Bobette, 22

8. Your potential should not be defined by a relationship.

"I've found there's more to life then having a boyfriend. Right now, I'm transitioning from being a college student to my career and I think the last thing I need is to worry about starting a relationship. I'm going to focus on loving myself this year." - Sarah, 21

9. So much time has already been wasted...

"I plan on staying single because boys have been too much of a waste of my time already." - Erin, 21

10. What's the move in 2019? Self love. That's the move in 2019.

"For myself, honestly. I just want to focus on me." - Lex, 19

11. I'm the best me when I'm single.

"I just function better when I'm by myself. There's no extra stress and no need to please or impress anyone." - Jordyn, 20

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11 Thoughts Single College Girls Experience On Valentine's Day

All the mixed emotions single girls feel on Valentine's Day

Dr King
Dr King

Other than my junior year, any Valentine's Day that came across during my college years were filled with a wide range of emotions. Part of me was salty because I wanted the gifts and attention others were getting. Part of me was relieved that I didn't have to plan anything and could focus on classes the next day. Most of the time though Valentines Days were filled with anticipation for the "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy.

I've always wondered how my personal mixed emotions seemed to line up with the general population and research shows that it's complicated for many. Although singles aren't necessarily devastated by it, our thoughts about Valentines Day depend on many situational factors.

And if you're a single college girl, you may be thinking these 11 things on Valentine's Day:

1. “I wish I had a boyfriend just for the day.”

This is what some girls are thinking if they’ve been single for a while and they don’t necessarily miss being in a long-term relationship, but they just want completely undivided attention for the day and a romantic candlelight dinner.

2. “I’m glad I don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t need a man.”

This is what usually goes on through girl's heads if they're the independent type who don't place that much value on relationships. They might still scroll through Instagram out of pure nosiness, but if anything, they're probably thinking about how happy they are in the relationship they have with themselves.

3. “I wonder if he’ll send me a happy Valentine’s Day text...or maybe it’s too early for that.”

Valentines Day is already hyped up enough when you’re in a relationship and it’s to be expected that you probably won’t be doing anything romantic if you’re single on that day. But what about those who are in a situationship? Yes, it’s that awkward phase when an official title isn’t there, but that doesn’t mean Valentines Day can’t be brought up at all. Don’t you secretly hope that the person you’re involved with will at least send you a “Happy Valentines” text or stop by and give you a rose?

4. “Wait, they’re actually together?”

On Valentine's Day, the timeline on Instagram is similar to the Oprah Winfrey meme “You get a car! You get a car!" except it's with boyfriends instead. This girl has a boyfriend! *gasp* and this girl has a boyfriend too! *gasp*

5. “Wait...didn’t she just key his car and slash his tires after he hooked up with her best friend last week?”

This exact thought might be a tad bit of an overexaggeration, but it's still the most awkward thing when you see a picture of a couple looking as happy as can be, but deep down everyone knows that their relationship is nothing but drama behind closed doors.

6. “I’ll just hang out with my girl friends, eat pizza, and gossip.”

Girls who enjoy the company of their closest friends more than anyone else will most likely be thinking of hosting a Galentine's Day party rather than a Valentine's Day party. Besides, romantic love isn't the only love that exists.

7. “I’ll treat myself with chocolate.”

Let's be real. Valentine's Day is the perfect time to take a break from the diet and splurge on candy and chocolate.

8. “I’ll treat myself with wine.”

Other than candy and chocolate, wine would be the third option as a substitute for having someone special for Valentine’s Day.

9. “I can’t believe I got dumped.”

Believe it or not, the time of February is peak breakup time. A Facebook study showed that around the time of Valentine’s Day is usually when you’ll notice breakups start to happen in a more recurring manner.

10. “It’s literally no different than any other day.”

Then finally, there are the people who really don't give a damn about Valentine's Day at all because ultimately, it's just another day.

11. “Maybe this wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't dick deprived.”

Sometimes Valentine's Day doesn't have people thinking about intimacy and romance. Sometimes it's just a reminder of the sexual drought you've been going through for a while.

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