Girls' Night Is For The Girls, So Check Your Boyfriend Drama At The Door

Girls' Night Is For The Girls, So Check Your Boyfriend Drama At The Door

If I hear you talk about your man one more time, don't expect to be invited back.

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Coming from someone who relies on girl time to get through the week, every week, I literally use it as an open forum to talk about anything and everything. One of us rants about a crappy grade, while another complains about a snooty girl who sits behind her in class.

Then it reaches another gal in the group, and everyone groans a little.

She's the one girl who CONSTANTLY talks about her man. My boyfriend did this and that and I haven't seen him in 20 minutes I miss him so much!! Everyone tuned her out at the first sound of my boyf-. It's really hard to stay in the same room as someone when you can't stand to listen to a word they say. We set aside time for letting our hair down, to decompress, to just enjoy the silence in some cases.

We are not here to listen to you talk about Chad, Brad or Chase.

None of us care anymore, and I'm not ashamed to say it. Every girl has her breaking point, and I'm dangerously close to reaching mine. I'm a little salty since I am single, but it's not really about that. It's about learning to talk about other things besides your boyfriend, or girlfriend, or whoever you're seeing. Talk about politics, or religion, or about the worst thing you've ever eaten in the dining hall. Talk about deep things. Talk about how much you miss your grandfather who passed, or how much you hope that your future children never have to go through some of the things you have. You and your boyfriend can go spend time together in your own little bubble, which I assume you already do most of the time anyway.

Newsflash: your girls will not stick around while you figure your priorities out.

They probably won't want to be your girls anymore. Yes, they know how happy you are, but there comes a time when your happiness doesn't matter anymore. They need to look out for themselves, and a friendship with you clearly isn't benefiting anyone.

Many girls can handle a relationship with her friends and her boyfriend perfectly well. Sometimes you forget she even has a boyfriend because she knows how to talk about other things. She knows how essential it is to have Wine Wednesdays or Friday's in her PJs with a bag of popcorn watching a horror movie with her girl squad. Yes, you can do these things with your boyfriend, but your girls won't want to join in. Yeah, you offer to be polite, but your offer is a waste of your breath.

Maybe, when I finally find my person, I'll get to see from the other side how it is. But I know myself well enough to know that no guy will ever get in the way of girl time. I've been there and done that, and I would not be who I am today without my girls both at home and at school. Friends are for life. We don't know if the guy were with now will be there in ten years, but your friends definitely will be.

Yes, be a good partner, but be a good friend to your friends. I'm not calling anyone out, so please do not take this personally, and if you do, sorry you feel that way. I'm just giving a PSA that girl time does not mean being with the girls and talking about your man. It means being present in that moment, because memories like that will last a lifetime, and you don't want to lose out due to someone who will likely be temporary in your life.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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