9 Things Girls Do When They Start Dating Someone New, Don't Even Deny It

9 Things Girls Do When They Start Dating Someone New, Don't Even Deny It

You just got a new boo — and suddenly you start realizing how often they pop up in your head.

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So that guy you met at the bar, that nice partner in your chem class, or my personal favorite, the cute boy from work, turns out to be something more than just a friend—great! You start dating, and somehow you realize that there are a few things you do that differentiate your boy (or girl) from everyone else. Here are the nine ways you know they're on your mind:

1. Every song on the radio is about them.

From "Boo'd Up" to "no tears left to cry," every song you hear somehow rings true to your boo. You're singing along and picturing them in your head, and you can't help but to smile or text them that you're thinking about them. Sometimes even certain songs that you two listened to together can bring back memories as well.

2. You add their last name to your name.

This one is something that really doesn't make a lot of sense... it's not like you're getting married tomorrow, right?! For some reason, adding their last name to your name is kind of like trying on a pair of shoes; you're just putting them on for size. It's also just fun to hear your name with someone else's and laugh.

3. You imagine what your kids would look like.

While this one is a little weird, you make up an imaginary family in your head. Not necessarily always thinking it'll ACTUALLY happen, it's just fun to toss the idea around in your head.

4. You leave anchors at their place.

From your earrings to your jacket, you're constantly leaving little reminders that you were there and that he's yours. Back off, ladies! It also gives you an excuse to see them again and, well, obviously that's what the end goal always is, right?

5. You come up with any reason to see them.

You notice they get to the office 15 minutes before you usually do? Well, now you know to get there 20 minutes early. You go out of your way to "accidentally" run into them places... it's not a coincidence, boys, that we were just at the grocery store when you were and just happened to get gas as well. But hey, while we're here, wanna grab coffee?

6. You take hella pictures because you want to use them on social media.

Trust me, there's already an album with his name on it, and he's already popping up on your VSCO. Boys, if you get on the Insta, KNOW that she's serious about you. We don't just put every guy we've talked to on our Insta, don't you know. We also love seeing your cute face, so we want to capture it and use it as our wallpaper on our phone, laptop and every device under the sun.

7. You'll jump at any opportunity to "borrow" their clothes.

My boyfriend always smells amazing, and if you're anything like me, you'll do whatever you can to sneak a sweatshirt or a t-shirt here and there. There's no way he NEEDS 27 sweatshirts of his favorite football team, and he most likely won't mind that you want to wear one.

8. You'll stalk all their exes.

You want to know who he's been with and what they look like. It's not really so much of a competition because he's with you now and not her, but secretly you're curious. Is he into blondes? Brunettes? Tall girls? Short girls? Who's that girl in that picture from 2015?

9. Come up with nicknames that are unique to them.

Babe, baby, etc. are all fine pet names, but why not be a little creative? You'll start making up nicknames for him based on his style, personality, inside jokes or anything else that reminds you of him. Just don't start calling him things like "babyface" around his friends, or he might get a little mad.

What other crazy things can you think of that girls do when first talking to or dating someone? Comment below!

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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