Yes, I'm That Girl Who Is Always In A Good Mood, Hell No, My Life Isn't Easy

Yes, I'm That Girl Who Is Always In A Good Mood, Hell No, My Life Isn't Easy

If people make fun of you for getting excited about the little things, let them.

The other day, one of my co-workers came up to me and asked, “Hey, how’s your day going?” to which I replied, “It’s going really good actually! Yours?”

She paused for a moment, making me think she was about to tell me about a horrific experience she’d had with a customer earlier (or something along those lines). Instead, she goes, “I love how you’re genuinely happy whenever you answer that question. Most people just go ‘good’ like they have got nothing in life to be remotely excited about.”

I was flattered by her compliment, but also taken aback. It’s interesting how we go through most of life not seeing how we appear to those around us.

We do not realize the impact we have on people until they come up to us and utter that sentence we needed to hear.

Let’s be real: I am a busy woman, working 25-30 hours a week, managing a team of 25+ bad-ass content creators, going to school full-time, trying to become my own version of the girl bosses I truly admire. It’s exhausting. But let me tell you, it is worth it.

The reason I wake up every morning is that I know at some point during the day, I am going to get to do something I love. I find myself struggling to wake up on time for onboarding calls, rushing to meet my incredible mentor, giving advice to my friend as I try to finish a project that is worth almost half my grade, the list becomes never-ending. Other days I consider the fact that I got to eat breakfast a miracle. It’s just a matter of balance.

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I am in a good mood when things are going wrong because I know that in the end, they always work out. What a cliche, right? But it’s true. Never lose sight of the big picture and keep yourself busy with the things that you love; it’ll give you less time to focus on the things that you don’t love so much.

If people make fun of you for getting excited about the little things, let them.

There is a really good chance that they are unhappy and wish that they could share the same spirit as you.

The underlying reason people may be shocked that you are always in a “good mood” is that they are settling. They are choosing to be in a bitter mood. They are probably settling in other aspects of their life too, whether it be their relationships, their career, etc. Their dreams don’t scare them enough, and they are comfortable all the damn time.

Learn to get comfortable being uncomfortable and your whole perception of life will change.

I am positive there are some of you out there reading this thinking, “There is no way you are always in a good mood because we are all human, after all.” You may be right, I still vent to my close family and friends about my issues and have those sleepless nights where I question everything that I’ve ever done.

In order to be in a good mood, you have to get rid of this negativity that has built up in your brain. You have to recognize the problems, but you absolutely cannot lose control. Especially when those problems arise from things that are out of your control, anyway.

As far as how I present myself to the rest of the world, I try my best to be in a good mood as often as possible. I know that the person sitting next to me in class is going through a lot of shit, too, so why not just ask them how their day is going? I know that this customer is really upset about us being out of stock of a certain sweater, so why not sympathize with her? Even if things end badly, at least you tried to shine a light into someone’s life and the Universe will recognize that and reward you for it.

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No Glove, No Love—Here's What 12 Dudes Say About Condoms

"I have a few at my house. Why don't you come on over and we can test them out."

No matter your sexuality, condoms are essential for practicing safe sex as they protect you and your partner from becoming parents and from contracting a sexually transmitted disease or infection.

I've always been one to campaign for safe sex, yet, I really don’t have a preference for a condom. It’s like size—it doesn’t matter it’s what you do with it that matters. In high school, I was a part of a program that taught my peers and younger students how to put condoms on. We carried a wooden dildo, plopped it on someone's desk, carefully ripped open a condom, and began to demonstrate— yes, it was as much fun as it sounds!

With college students, the everyday conversation usually ends up landing on sex, so I chose to discuss protection to see what the general opinions on condoms are.

Hence, I asked 12 men, including straight and gay individuals, ranging from ages 18-30 about their thoughts on condoms.

Here are the responses:

1. "Better be safe than sorry. I'm not ready to be a father or mature enough to take care of an STI/STD."

Well, at least he's aware of the consequences.

2. "I really don't like them."

They're not gorgeous looking and the lube is kinda gross, but no matter how you feel about them it's just #CondomSense to use them! There are so many different kinds of condoms with a variety of textures, tastes, and smells, so there's bound to be one that's perfect for you.

Condoms are also sexy since there is less stress about the prospective dangers.

Additionally, unlike other forms of protection, condoms have no side effects.

3. "Blue box Trojans are the best. No need for Magnums because anybody can fit into the blue ones even if they pack a big load. I have never tried Lifestyle. Oh, and foreign condoms are weird so I recommend bringing some when you go on vacation, especially since it's hard to read the boxes. I also recommend trying Trojan FIRE & ICE. The ridges one makes no difference except it kind of falls off easier. And don't double bag it. Even though my uncle tells me to."

I was pleasantly surprised since he's got some good advice. I can't speak about the size dilemma, but it's definitely a smart idea to steer away from foreign condoms when you can't read the words on the box! Furthermore, never use two condoms at once! The friction can easily rip them and they become useless!

4. "I don't use condoms, I use PrEP."

Risky and not something I personally condone since you're playing with fire. Although 92 percent to 99 percent effective, PrEP only protects against HIV, excluding STIs or pregnancy, so you have to wonder "how comfortable you are with some degree of uncertainty."

If you aren't using condoms while on PrEP, assure to get tested regularly for STIs so that they can be treated quickly.

5. "When I first became sexually active, my mom bought me a box of condoms."

Love it, this is the type of mom I strive to become: super open and close-knit with her children.

6. "What's a condom? Who uses those? Skyn is the best."

See what he did there? Skyn is ultra thin so the feel is really close to the real deal.

7. "Trojan Bareskin. I don't mind condoms, but I prefer to not use them if the girl is on birth control. Lubricated is very important."

Birth control is great, but even if a girl is taking the pill, both parties must assure that they are clean of STIs/STDs before going in raw. Moreover, I concur, lubrication is a must!

8. "I have a few at my house. Why don't you come on over and we can test them out."

I'm glad to hear he uses them and knows that safe sex is great sex. Thanks for the laugh.

9. "Trojan Her Sensation is the best. I think they are a great way to practice safe sex with your partner."

Now that's what I like to hear. The woman who gets this man is one lucky lady.

10. "My favorite condom is when they don't exist!"

Okay, my best friend said this, so I know he was joking, but it's important to note that condom use is essential as protection is key!

11. "Trojan Ultra Thins. To be honest the only reason I like them is because one of my ex's said that they feel better than the usual Magnum ones."

Listen up boys, the girl is always right. Ultra Thins assures a skin-like feel as if the condom isn't even there.

12. “Make sure it’s not the numbing kind to delay ejaculation… did that my first time and it was quite an experience.”

Everyone has a first-time story, but this one has got to top them all!

If you have any questions about safe sex, feel free to check out the following websites:

Planned Parenthood

Better Health

Get The Facts

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I Spent 2 Months, 20 Phone Calls, And 6 Doctors Appointments Trying To Get An IUD, And I Still Don't Have One

I'm only 21, and it's terrifying to think that my journey with birth control is only just beginning.

I have been on and off birth control pills since the sixth grade.

I will never forget sitting in the OB/GYN's office in Seattle Children's crying because my periods were so awful.

I was having 10-day-long periods.

Three days of cramping so bad I couldn't stand followed by seven days of menstruation. My cramps were so bad that I was missing too much school. The OB/GYN recommended starting on a low dose of birth control pills to try and reduce the pain and duration of my periods.

I took them consistently for almost three years.

In my eighth grade year, I ran into unrelated medical issues and stopped taking BC (birth control). My periods were no longer as bad as they once were.

Over the next six years, I took them intermittently. I would go a few months on them and then stop. I never liked the effects.

They made me feel less beautiful, less sexy and less like me.

Last fall, I came to the realization that I was officially quitting birth control pills. There's nothing I do in my life at the same time every single day. I'm potentially the least disciplined person alive.

I decided to get an IUD.

I thought that getting an IUD was the ideal choice for my sexual, physical and mental health. It's the good feminist thing to do and the people I know with them, love them. I talked to my sorority sisters and other great women about them. I did my research and talked to my primary care physician over Thanksgiving break.

And then, I put it off.

Your girl can be lazy AF when she wants to be. But I was also scared. I read horror stories online and got busy with school.

In mid-February, I started up my IUD search again.

I talked with family and friends about where to get it done in my tiny college town. We have just enough options to make the decision difficult, but not enough to really have a choice.

I called the OB/GYN that I had seen in the past and made an appointment with her office. They only wanted to see me immediately following my period.

My appointment six weeks away.

As the people in my life can tell you, it was six weeks of worrying and thinking about it. I was so proud of myself for doing something good for me but also terrified of what could happen.

Three weeks before my appointment, I realized that I could not get an IUD in the morning before three classes followed by three hours of work because of the potential side effects. How had that not occurred to me?

I needed to move the appointment.

I called the OB/GYN's office and tried to move it. After many phone calls, conversations with nurses, and speaking to my mother, it was starting to look like I wouldn't be able to get one there. They would only see me during a three-day window and there simply weren't any appointments.

So I called WSU's on-campus health providers to make an appointment with them. Turns out, they needed two appointments.

Then, I decided to call Planned Parenthood just to see if I would get in sooner. I scheduled an appointment there too.

The next day, I called my OB/GYN one more time just to confirm that I couldn't get in.

I was in luck.

Finally, I was able to get an appointment to see my OB/GYN. Last Tuesday I went to see my doctor.

The appointment did not go as planned.

After nearly eight months of thinking about an IUD and two months of actively trying to get one, my doctor told me that I am not a good candidate. She recommended that I not get an IUD because I have had issues with ovarian cysts, which are a potential side effect of hormonal IUDs.

I started crying.

I felt so defeated. To me, an IUD represented protecting myself from an unwanted pregnancy, regulating my periods, and taking good care of myself.

My doctor and I discussed other options.

Next month, I'm going to try something new. Hopefully, something that finally works for my lifestyle and is as effective as an IUD.

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