Ladies, If A Boy Didn’t Text You 'Good Morning' Today, Please Know This

Ladies, If A Boy Didn’t Text You 'Good Morning' Today, Please Know This

I hope you find your self worth and appreciation in something other than two words on a message projected on a screen.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong
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Waking up every morning to a new day should be something you look forward to.

Perhaps something miraculous will happen to you at the least expected moment. Perhaps that test you've been stressing out for the past week won't be as hard as you imagined it to be. Perhaps your day will be just as amazing as you are.

Sadly, in our millennial culture today, we instead look forward to waking up every morning…to a Good Morning text from our significant others.

I know, it's different from any other "Good Morning" you get.

It's not the same from the one you get from a bus driver on your morning commute, from a coworker at the beginning of a morning shift or from a professor when he starts his 9am lecture.

Granted, a Good Morning text is like an indirect sign of respect. Something that makes us feel warm and fuzzy inside because let's face it—we all want to be thought of and cared about. We all want a boy who wakes up every morning to groggily rub his eyes while typing that "Good Morning, How'd you sleep" text for you.

It makes us feel loved and appreciated. That someone, somewhere out there believes in me and is wishing me (yes, plain old me) a blessed morning. Sometimes it makes all the difference in the world...

Instant gratification. Something that not even coffee can make up for.

I once fell victim to this trap hole of a mood killer. In fact, I personally thought that my day officially didn't start until this boy's did. I looked forward to it every morning from the moment I woke up, got dressed for the day and sat through lecture/work. I, too, once felt that instant tug at my heart when my phone lit up with that notification. Anything bad that already happened in my day would just vanish with those two words.

Great, I would think. My day is now beginning.

But when things turned sour in the relationship, and we parted ways, I felt more empty inside without that daily Good Morning text. I already felt hurt, lonely and betrayed but on top of that—I woke up believing that my day was already going to be awful, before it even started.

Call me crazy. (Because I am) But I just missed having someone to lighten up my gloomy day with something as simple and minuscule as a text.

Not anymore. Why? Because I've realized I'm worth more than what I thought I meant to this particular boy and I know that my day is worth more than what a simple text message can make of it.

So, for those of you like me who didn't have that special someone to tell you "Good Morning" today, I want you to know this.

First and foremost: You deserve to have a good day today. Not just a "Good Morning", but a wonderful one where things will turn out how you want them. Regardless of who's thinking of you this morning and who's waking up from a dream about you, that will not change how your day is going to start.

I hope your morning coffee is made just the way you like it.

That your morning commute is less of a headache and more of an enjoyment.

I hope that the test you studied for won't be as hard as you expected, and that the essay you're about to turn in will be appreciated for the hard work it was put into.

I hope that you won't anxiously stare at your phone the whole morning waiting for it to light up because it won't.

I hope you find your self worth and appreciation in something other than two words on a text message projected on a screen.

Just because someone isn't around you to appreciate all your beauty and flaws, it does not mean you don't deserve happiness and joy in your day. Trust me—there's more to love than that. There's more that a special someone can offer to you, when the time is right.

So get out there, and be the queen you are.

Conquer your day and assure yourself:

It's going to be a good morning today.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it

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This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?

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As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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