To The Guy That Always Puts Me Second, I Am Done Putting You First

To The Guy That Always Puts Me Second, I Am Done Putting You First

I can't do it anymore and I need to do what's best for me.


I try so hard and do my best to be there for you as much as I can be, but I can't do it anymore. I should not be giving you the wife material when you won't even acknowledge the way I treat you. I try and try, but you don't care about anything that I do. I did so much for you and none of it ever hit home with you. But you know what... that is okay. I need to be able to put myself first and make sure my heart is in the right place and not pine after someone who does not even realize the things that I am doing for him.

I want to be pursued by someone and have that guy who treats me right and notices the things that I am doing for him. You should be treated like a queen and if a guy does not see that than it is his loss because there is going to be that guy who does see that. That is the guy you want. The one who notices you and puts you first. Not the guy who only spends time with you when it's convenient or when he needs something from you because he knows that you're always there for them. Every time that I try I always get hurt and I don't want to get hurt anymore. I need to stop getting put second and take care of myself.

Girls you are so so so much better than that guy who puts you second and you deserve so so so much more than that. I know waiting can suck, but you deserve the guy who is going to care for you and about you. Not the guy who comes to you when it is worth it for him.

Now I know he may be sweet and he's different around you or you know who he really is, trust me I have been there and said all of those things. But if he doesn't treat you right, girl move on. Listen to those friends around you who see the way he really is and the skepticism that they are bringing up. In the end, those friends only want what is best for you. And girl, believe me, the boy that puts you second is not the one.

All that boy will bring is pain and unwanted feelings that you don't need to be questioning. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you and don't waste your energy on someone who doesn't even realize how good you are. You are wonderful and deserve the best. Find a guy who is going to give you that because if he is putting you second now, imagine what will happen down the road. It's okay to be single and take the time to be with yourself, but it is better to be single than to go through a constant cycle of pain and heartache.

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To The Ex Who Won’t Move On, It’s Time To Let Go

Moving on is hard, but it’s time for you to realize I’m gone.


It's been a year. It's been 365 days since I left you. I was ready for a change. Our relationship was unhealthy and very toxic. We argued constantly. You were very controlling, and it was time to end it. You knew you were the issue in the relationship and you knew what needed to be fixed.

You couldn't change.

After figuring out I couldn't live the rest of my life unhappy, I left. It was hard no doubt. We had good memories, but the bad outweighed the good. You never appreciated me. You weren't loyal to me and I never understand why. You always made me feel as if I was never enough.

I finally left you. You couldn't accept the fact that I was done. I told you I discovered my self-worth and you were angry. You didn't want to see me go. You called and texted me for weeks.

I ignored you.

You were so mad because I was finally done. You had convinced yourself that I would come back but little did you know, I wouldn't. You called and texted daily. You even called my job. You didn't understand. I could no longer listen to ongoing insults and constant accusations. I had enough of it.

When I didn't respond to your calls and texts, you began using text apps and calling me from restricted. You wouldn't stop. When you found out I moved on, it got worse. I begged you to stop and you wouldn't. I finally stopped responding. You still continue to try to contact me.

I need you to move on. I want to put everything behind us. I want you to go out and find someone to make you happy. I need you to realize you and I are over. I want you to move on like I did. I am happy now and I don't need you ruining that. To my ex who is struggling to move on, it's time to let go and move on.

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11 Sneaky Signs Your Relationship Is Headed For A Breakup

Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere.


When you think of a breakup, you may think of weeks of screaming at each other, cheating, lying, and pretty much every other obvious sign you aren't meant for each other.

Sometimes, these signs aren't even there. There may be underlying signs that have been there for a while until it all bubbles up and, BOOM, the breakup happens.

Here are 11 subtle signs your relationship is headed for a breakup:

1. When your S.O.'s name pops up on your phone you feel like groaning.

Throughout your relationship, you would get butterflies when your S.O's name came on your phone. You would be dying to talk to them and tell them all about your day. If it feels like a chore, it might be time to revaluate the relationship.

2. If you live together, you find yourself hoping they aren't home when you get there.

Coming home to your S.O. at the end of every day should be rewarding and exciting. You need to be comfortable in your own living space.

3. You stop wanting to spend time together.

You don't need to spend every waking moment together, but when it seems more like more of a task to take time out of your day that isn't okay.

4. FaceTimes and phone calls become nonexistent.

And if they are existent, the love isn't there and they seem distracted.

5. When you are hanging out, you are checking the time and figuring out when you should leave.

Before, time would fly by and you would be wishing you had more time.

6. Going out on a date seems like a hassle more than an actual treat.

Date nights are rare in busy lives, but when planning them isn't exciting anymore it usually isn't a good sign.

7. When you look into the future you don't see them in it.

You had all your kids names picked out and now you can't even see the relationship getting through the next month.

8. The time between talking to each other increases.

You find yourself forgetting that you haven't talked in a while. And it doesn't necessarily bother you.

9. They irritate you more.

Just their face could bring out anger you didn't know you had.

10. The quirks you once found endearing are now annoying.

Remember the way he'd easily fall asleep in your arms and how it made you feel all gooey inside? Yeah, now it's like he's never awake when you're around.

11. When they stop doing the little things that once put a smile on your face.

No more random "you're beautiful" comments or spontaneous trips to your favorite places in town.

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