5 Reasons Every Girl Needs Guys They Can Platonically Lean On

5 Reasons Every Girl Needs Guys They Can Platonically Lean On

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Throughout the years, I've realized that I get along with men better than women. That doesn't mean I don't get along with women! I just have more guy friends. That could be because I grew up with an older brother and his friends, but nonetheless, I feel as if guy friends are the best friends to have. Here's why:

1. There is little to no drama

This is the most obvious reason. I don't have to worry about boys beefing the way girls do. Guys can bicker and argue, then kiss and make up like it never happened. They almost never put you in the middle of their arguments and just deal with it themselves. There are no problems on your hands.

2. You can get advice from a different perspective

Whether it's relationships, family issues, or just plain everyday problems, guys have a different perspective than girls do. I can tell you that whether or not I take the advice, it's good to get their side of the story. They have an... Interesting way of looking at some things, to say the least. You'd be surprised–sometimes a guy's words of wisdom are just what you need to fix your problem.

3. Guys aren't typically as bad as you'd think

Sure, their sense of humor can be a little skewed and their life choices can be a little risky, but they learn just as we do. Some aren't as quick to adapt as others, but the general consensus is that boys are real people, too. Shocking, I know. Guys have emotions and problems like girls do... Well, not always exactly like girls. And while there are a lot of terrible men out there, they aren't always the bad guys. People should stop painting them all as the villains. You just have to weed out the bad ones.

4. Sometimes they need a girl's perspective, too

Some guys need to ask the tough questions. Sometimes they need boy or girl advice, help with a social situation, or even just help with a project. Sometimes girls have the magic advice to change the game. Just as they'd do for you, you'd do for them. Fresh eyes and a different mental circuit could help close the case.

5. The right ones know just what to say to make you feel better

Whether it is going out for food or just talking it out, you'd be surprised at how well most men listen. A true friend is always willing to help and you'd definitely do the same for them. They can comfort you just as well as any girl friend can. Sure, they may not be able to relate to some things, but they can sure as hell try.

My guy friends are the absolute best. I wish for people to have friends like them. They're so funny and talented in their own ways–and they aren't shitty people. They treat people right and are genuinely great people to be around. My dudes are easily some of the best friends that I have. I'm very lucky to have them in my life.

Cheers to you, boys! Let's go jam on Rock Band!

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You Don’t Miss Him Because He Was The One, You Just Liked The Feeling Of Thinking Maybe He Could Be

He wasn't The One, but I constantly told myself it was easier to settle for less than what I actually deserve.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong

Needless to say, in today's dating culture there's a thousand different types of relationships. Serious romantic relationships, casual relationships, almost relationships, one sided relationships, situationships—the list goes on.

At one point in our lives, we have (or will) experience an on and off relationship.

In a nutshell, on and off relationships occur where you and your partner stay together for a certain period of time, break up for a hot second only to get back together again.

It becomes this endless cycle: being together, suddenly breaking things off and then running back to each other which as a result, causes the relationship to get more and more toxic every time the cycle restarts.

And the thing is: you know he's the wrong guy for you.

You know that there's some other guy out in the world who can treat you better. But he makes sure you keep coming back to him, even when you both know that you aren't meant for each other.

Because every time the "off" stage of the relationship emerges, you get slammed by even the tiniest reminders of him, thoughts of past memories and nostalgic feelings which makes you feel incredibly lonely, and so you pick up your phone to shamefully text him "I miss you."

And then you run back to him, without a hesitation or a second thought, because you feel as if he's the only guy who gets you.

Who understands all your stupid jokes even if he doesn't laugh at them anymore.

Who calls you beautiful even if he texts twenty different girls the same thing.

Who makes you smile—even if it's only for a few days before the explosive fights start up again.

You keep going back to him, because you just want to believe that he is truly The One. That your perception of him as the bad guy is merely just an illusion. That all the deceitful things he did and said deserved forgiveness.

For me, I was involved in an on and off relationship over the course of two years which I broke off from a year ago.

But it takes so little for me to still remember him.

A song, an old picture of us that I thought I deleted, someone at school who just happens to have the same name as him, driving by the art museum where we had our first date.

Every time I think about him, it brings back a flood of memories—both good and bad. I experience this intense feeling of emptiness inside, which always forced me to run back to him, back to where I thought I belonged—next to him.

But it took me a while to realize that I didn't really miss him because he was The One. Rather, I missed the fact that he wasn't the person I wanted him to be. He wasn't this “perfect guy" whom I had created inordinate imaginations about in my head.

He wasn't everything I wanted in a significant other, but I constantly told myself it was easier to settle for less than what I actually deserve.

Every time I gave him that second chance, backed down during an argument and took his hurtful criticisms to heart, I still wanted to believe that he was The One.

I was wrong.

And slowly, step by step, I began to assert that.

I began to ignore his late night texts and those entreating phone calls of him apologizing for being such a jerk. I learned that no matter how happy we were whenever we got back together, it's only a matter of time before we start fighting again, start pointing fingers and berating each other until one of us gives up again and we're left going our separate ways again.

All those broken promises, emotional appeals, the inadequate “I love you's," I know better now than to fall for them again.

Because he's not The One for me. And no amount of second chances will ever change that.

So, here's to moving on for good. And to finding that perception of my “perfect guy" elsewhere.

Elle Hong
Elle Hong

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11 Thoughts You Have While Losing Your Virginity

Oh my god, it's happening!


Everyone has an idea of how they want the first time they have sex to be like. And while you might have this idea, and you might be prepared, you definitely aren't prepared for how awkward it can be. (Or for those awkward thoughts that are racing through your mind as it's happening.) So I surveyed former virgins about they were thinking about it when they had sex for the first time.

Here are all the thoughts they had when they lost their virginity:

1. "Is it over yet?"

OK, so this one was me. But it was so BORING. He laid there and didn't do anything, I was on top and I thought it was going to hurt but it didn't... I'll let you guys connect the dots. But anyway, I lied to him said that it hurt and asked if we could stop just so it would be over.

2. "I hope I'm doing OK."

Let's be real here though, this was probably everyone.

3. "This is happening. This is happening."

Probably everyones thoughts right when things start heating up.

4. "Well, this isn't what I expected. It's nothing like the movies."

Losing your virginity is nothing like "Fifty Shades of Grey." It's more like fifty shades of red from, embarrassment and putting in work.

5. "I hope it doesn't hurt—it hurts, when is this going to end."

I would bet that a lot of girls had this thought.

6. "He's not going anywhere."

I got a bunch of these comments.

7. "She's amazing."

Once again I got a bunch of these.

8. "This is happening fast."

It probably did, one minute you're putting on Netflix and the next you're naked...

9. "Do I really want this?"

If this is what you're thinking, just stop... yes even in the middle of it.

10. "I don't want this to end."


11. "Will I look any different?"

I mean you don't look like your orgasm face, but no you won't look different.

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