10 Qualities Guys Have That Girls Love That Have NOTHING To Do With Six-Packs Or Dad Bods

10 Qualities Guys Have That Girls Love That Have NOTHING To Do With Six-Packs Or Dad Bods

A breakdown of 10 qualities that actually matter and keep girls attracted to guys.

Yes, physical appearance and initial attraction are what can spark interest and leave the first impression. What keeps a girl around are the things that go beyond surface level and is much deeper. Girls hope guys see past "butts and boobs" and "blondes or brunettes", and I'm sure guys hope we see past physical attributions that may sway initial attraction.

Real talk is that personality > looks, every damn time. Here are 10 qualities that matter more than how big his muscles are or how many beers he can throw back in one night.

1. Morals

If we see eye to eye on beliefs and issues that means more to me than anything else. it is also attractive when a guy has rules for themselves and takes action to stay true to them. I'm very much moral focused, and when a guy is the same way, it is very attractive.

2. Has good energy

Vibes are everything. If we hangout or meet out and the guy has a fun, light-hearted energy, there will most likely be immediate attraction. He doesn't have to be the life of the party, but I wouldn't be attracted to someone that is hiding in the corner glaring at everyone else having fun.

3. Can carry and show interest in conversations

Girls that love to talk, love guys that love to talk. Any girl will tell you it is attractive when guys show effort in conversation. Girls like me will not continue conversations that are one-word back and forth– no matter how much we want to talk. When guys contribute to conversations and keep them evolving, it's attractive– especially late at night when we want to have deep conversations.

4. Speaks kindly about other girls

If a guy is referring to other girls as biatches, sluts, or crazy, get the ef out. If a guy can't speak about other girls to us with respect, what would make us think he will speak about us with respect? Bad-talking girls is just an immediate red flag and unattractive. Girls want guys that can respectfully speak about other girls.

5. Takes care of himself

This is where working out vs. not working out comes into the conversation. Yes, if a guy is ripped, it is attractive; but, it is also attractive when a guy isn't ripped, but still makes an effort to take care of himself. Girls don't want guys to hold us up to unrealistic physical expectations, so we don't want to press those same expectations onto guys.

6. Keeps up with personal hygiene

I don't think I need to go deep into this one– it's pretty self-explanatory.

7. Has a good attitude

It is not attractive when a guy goes into situations with a "f•ck this" attitude. Girls appreciate it when guys show compassion, effort to keep an open mind, and a willingness to tackle obstacles without a constant complaining and cussing.

8. Perspective of Life

If we vibe on the same outlook on life– that's an immediate boost in attraction. It's cool when you can have deep conversations with someone about life and what your individual futures look like. I feel like guys can get freaked out during these conversations because they may think girls are thinking about their future together. But nah, we just are thinking about ourselves and where we want to be in life, chill.

9. Good sense of humor

This is one of the most important– in my opinion. GIRLS LOVE BOYS THAT WILL LAUGH WITH US. Whether it is laughing when we make a joke, him making jokes, or just messing around and laughing at dumb things– it is attractive.

10. Treats us well– just as we should treat them

The ultimate determinant of keeping attraction is how we are treated. We want to be treated with respect and want to feel like we are a priority and important. Girls don't want to be with someone that is hot-and-cold and plays games. Yes, we can still be attracted to players and a-holes, but what will keep us around is how well we are treated. Girls should treats guys with the same respect and how we want to be treated.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.


No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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My BF And I Were 'Just Friends' And Now We're Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary

Dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.


In August 2017, Brendan and I met. A group of friends invited him and me to go to Wendy's after a meeting for a school club. We talked the whole time — the conversation seemed endless in the best way possible. Later that night, I called him to ask him what water balloons I should buy for a celebration the next day. From that day forward, I cannot remember a day where I have not called him. It started off as nothing more as a platonic relationship from my perspective, but he would advocate otherwise.

Fast-forward to January 2018, Brendan and I started seeing each other outside of school. We would make up excuses and white lies to our friends and parents, saying that we were going to the library to study when really we would just sit in the parking lot and talk for hours until he had to drive me home. He became my best friend. I wanted to tell him everything — good news, bad news, stupid rants, my blonde moments, random and unfiltered thoughts. However, day-in and day-out, I kept denying that it was anything more than a friendship. Again, he would argue otherwise.

On April 27, 2018, I gave in.

We were sitting in his parked Dodge Durango, listening to a pop radio station. I was leaning over the center console to rest my head on his shoulder, and we were waiting for the sun to go down at a park. Abruptly, I looked over at him and ironically asked if he would be my boyfriend. For some reason, we did not tell our family or friends for about a month (sorry, Mum and Dad). I wish I would have realized it sooner, but regardless of timing, dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

Christmas 2018Olivia Zidzik

Since then, our relationship has overcome insane distances.

Being 12 miles away turned into 1,601 miles when he went on a service trip to Boca Chica in the Dominican Republic this past summer. It went back to 12 miles for a little while. However, at the end of the summer, it turned into 413 miles when I moved to the University of Kentucky. In October, we were only a few feet apart as I hid behind his car in his school parking lot to surprise him. After I have returned and left home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break, he decided it was time for him to come to Lexington in March 2019.

All the time spent together and apart brings us to our one year — April 27, 2019.

Hey, Brendan: Although we will be 413 miles apart for it, happy one-year. You have been my rock and my best friend for the past 20-some months, and there are not enough thank you's that I can say to express how thankful I am that God put you in my life. I am so beyond grateful and appreciative for everything you have done and sacrificed for me and for us. I cannot wait to see where our journey will go next, but until then — here's to me and you. I love you. See you very very soon.

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