Picture this: you meet a cute guy who seems to have it all. He's got dreamy eyes, texts you back with lightning speed and actually wants to hang out with you.
One problem though. The day after you guys finally hang out, he seems to go MIA. Snapchats are left on open and the texts go from multiple sentences to one word. You think, oh, he's seen me so he's comfortable with me and that's why. Days go by and it only gets worse, and you ask to hang out and he just gives vague answers. "Maybe at the end of the week" is getting old and you wonder what it is you did wrong, or if they started talking to someone else. Your gut tells you the interest he once had is gone but you have hope it's just you overthinking.
Ladies, if your gut thinks he's losing interest, he most likely is, because your gut is never wrong.
Speaking from very recent experiences, you can just feel it when someone drifts from you and their interests go from all about you to anything but you. We wonder what could have happened to make this happen, blaming ourselves when we know we shouldn't. You even went through the trouble of defining the relationship sooner than usual, because there is no way you're getting hurt the way you just were because you didn't check the status until it was too late and feelings were caught. We can do all of these precautionary things that are supposed to keep us from getting hurt, yet we still do.
Guys need to be upfront with their motives from the get-go. When you tell a girl you "want to see where things go" and then start ignoring her, you're doing her the biggest disservice and dishonor. Tell her straight up you just want friends with benefits, no string attached, and let her be on her way because she doesn't have time for a child like you. It's really not that hard to just tell her that you're not interested in pursuing anything romantic and leave it at that. Don't tell her she's a great person, that's also unfair of you, because it's just going to make her wonder why you don't want her if she's "so nice."
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This generation of guys is absolutely pathetic. You can talk to and see three girls at the same time and not commit to any of them because you aren't ready for a relationship, or you're too busy for one. Honestly, get your priorities straight and stop messing with people like that. All three of those girls would probably be crushed to find out they aren't the only one you're sending sweet Snapchats to at night.
Do them a favor and let them go, they deserve far better.
I'm proud of the guys waking up and realizing that being someone like this isn't who your mom raised you to be, and find a girl to prioritize and give all their love to.
I know classes get tough, but it's worth having a girl by your side who would drop anything for you because once she's gone, you'll regret losing her. Stop asking girls to do relationship things if you refuse to ever make her a priority. The amount of hurt you cause girls don't just go away with time, it's now a part of who they are, and that's because of you. You broke something inside her that no man can fix, just nurture and remind her that he'd never do the things you did to her. And one day that man is going to be with her and you'll still be alone at home with your parents wondering why all the good girls are wifed up.
My advice for the man-children around the world: get your ish together and stop playing females like this.
Tell her how you feel from the get-go and don't give her any false hope. Yes at first it's going to sting, but she'll respect you for not playing her like other guys have, and that right there is the difference between a man and a boy.