Ladies, You're NOT Crazy, He Probably DOES Like You

Ladies, You're NOT Crazy, He Probably DOES Like You

If he makes you feel special, that’s because YOU ARE.
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I have been let down many times before.

Whether it’s been having the “let’s just be friends” talk to finding out that yes, he actually does have a girlfriend, I have realized how precious my own happiness is. Instead of letting these situations affect me in a negative way, I have acknowledged that there was a reason they never worked out.

You know when people get out of relationships and they spend more time working on themselves? They make a habit of going to the gym three times a week, or they finally cut their hair the way they want to because they don’t have to listen to anyone else’s opinion but their own. That’s how I feel right now.

Except instead of going through a break-up with a specific person, it’s like I’m going through a break-up with a series of guys who all have one thing in common: they have got nothing going for themselves.

They don’t have a purpose, which means they are just really negative about everything. Meanwhile, you are dealing with an average of about five to ten issues that are causing you some kind of stress on a daily basis, yet you still manage to say thank you to the Starbucks barista who messed up your order twice.

You are at such a good place in your life right now, and you feel like this is the first time you have finally established the most important relationship that matters: the one you have with yourself.

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Which is why you are practically in shock when another person comes along. This person isn’t like anyone else you’ve met before, and you feel a strong connection to them before the words even come out of your mouth.

You decide to reach out to this person and hope that the feeling’s mutual, but given all of your past experiences, you know not to expect anything special. Yet things DO go well and it’s like you’re almost waiting in anticipation for the moment that things go wrong.

Stop waiting for that moment because it’s not going to come. At least, not anytime soon.

If he texts you about that weird thing you’re obsessed with just so he has an excuse to talk to you, he probably DOES like you.

If he reads articles like this one (even if it’s maybe just because you wrote it), then he probably DOES like you.

If he sends you personalized Snapchats that are only meant for you, then he probably DOES like you.

If he isn’t the best with social media and texting, but you guys have a blast in person, then he probably DOES like you.

If he makes you feel special, that’s because YOU ARE.

You are the prize, so start acting like it. Quit fueling your mind with all of these negative thoughts about how things are going to go wrong and start believing that for once, things are going to go right.

Don’t be afraid to let yourself dream about the possibilities of a future relationship. Hell, don’t even think you’re crazy for thinking that he just may be your soulmate. All of your feelings are valid and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Remember that just because someone likes you doesn’t mean they necessarily want a relationship with you, but it’s certainly a good indicator. Don’t rush into anything, but let yourself dream. Be present in the moments that you have with him and for God’s sake, just believe that things are going to go damn right (for once).

Because they will.

And if not with this guy, they will go right with the next one. Or the one after that.

Trust me.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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