16 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart That Don't Consist Of Eating Your Weight In Cupcakes

16 Ways To Heal A Broken Heart That Don't Consist Of Eating Your Weight In Cupcakes

Instead of putting your health aside and making yourself feel worse, focus on caring for yourself.

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After a breakup, your first instinct may be to lay on your couch for a week, eating all your favorite comfort foods and stalking your ex on Insta. While that's not necessarily the worst thing you can do (McDonald's chicken nuggets and milkshakes are my go-to sad foods), there are coping mechanisms available that are healthy for your mind and body and they work just as well.

1. Journal about it.

As a writer, I may be biased, but writing about your feelings and experiences (positive and negative) can be cathartic. If you don't know how to put what you're going through into words, do a "brain dump." I don't remember where I first heard of this method, but I use it all the time when I'm feeling anxious and overwhelmed: get a blank piece of paper and a writing instrument and just write down everything that comes to mind. You can write words, phrases, sentences, whatever—just write everything down and try not to judge yourself in the process. Acknowledge everything that comes up and releases it.

2. Draw something. 

For visually artistic people this might be an automatic response, but for people who don't consider themselves artistic just try to express how you're feeling with colors on paper. Even if it's abstract lines and shapes, whatever you create is valid.

3. Meditate.

This is not for everyone but if you've never tried, it's worth a shot. Whether you use an app like Headspace or simply sit down and focus on being present for a few minutes, learning how to meditate in a way that works for you can be wholly beneficial.

4. Cook yourself a meal.

I'm not talking ramen noodles or boxed mac and cheese. Scope out a new recipe, or maybe multiple if you have the time and money. Focus on nurturing your body, not feeding your soul (unless that's what you need). If you've never cooked anything more advanced than pasta and constantly burn your toast, still give it a shot. Creating something with your hands (even if it turns out inedible) is satisfying and learning how to make healthy food for yourself is an important skill.

5. Spend time with friends. 

Laugh with them, cry with them, rant to them, hug them, do whatever you need to do because if they're true friends that's what they're there for.

6. Read a book.

When life takes a painful twist, reading is a wonderful escape. Find a quiet space where you can focus and try to immerse yourself in another world for a while. Acknowledge thoughts as they come but gently let them go and try to keep your focus on the story.

7. Watch a really good (or really bad) movie. 

8. Listen to breakup songs until you have no tears left to cry. 

9. Dance around your room to your favorite upbeat songs.

10. Treat your skin and nails.

Do a facemask (store-bought or homemade with things in your kitchen), take a bath if that's your thing, cut and paint your nails...do something to make yourself feel clean and fresh.

11. Clean/reorganize your room and wash your sheets.

As a self-proclaimed perfectionist I keep my room as clutter-free as possible day-to-day, but when I'm stressed out vacuuming or cleaning out a junk drawer can calm me down. Additionally, one of the best feelings in the world is clean sheets—no questions asked.

12. Take a walk, bike ride, hike, or go to the gym.

13. Delete your social media apps for x amount of time. 

After my last breakup I immediately deleted my social media apps for a week, and at the time it was the best decision I made for myself. Trust me: after a breakup, seeing other people's sappy relationship posts and exciting vacation pics will not do you any good. Plus, it'll give you much needed time and headspace to focus on yourself

14. Write down at least 10 things you love about yourself. 

15. Do something kind for someone else.

16. Make plans for something in the future. 

After a particularly rough breakup, it can be easy to spiral and feel like the world has come to a screeching stop. It's easy to become hopeless not only about your love life but about other parts of your life, too. Plan something to look forward to whether it's a visit to a favorite family member, a vacation, or taking yourself out to dinner.

Lastly, I'm going to say what you've probably already heard a hundred times: you're beautiful and worthy of love and it will get better. Your heart will heal. In the meantime, focus on yourself.

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When You Feel Like Nobody Ever Likes You Back

Please don't let it break you.

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It appears that I reached many people when I described how it felt to be single for 18 years (and update: it's almost 20 years now), but perhaps I can reach even more people when I explain the feeling when it seems like nobody *ever* likes you back. It's tough and it sucks. Maybe people feel this way about you. Or maybe you're in the exact same position that I am. Whatever end you're on, I'd imagine that you could relate or understand in some sort of way.

It's always fun to like someone new. We all love to fantasize about this new person, tell our friends (or enjoy the sneaky satisfaction of remaining cryptic about it), give him the Instagram follow (but you can't be the first to like his pictures so you wait to be the 23rd), get his phone number (and try *extra* hard not to text it too often), and gaze at a fresh face in class or at our activities.

We get that rush of happiness when he likes our Instagram pictures or when he answers our texts or when he views our Snapchat story or when he makes any type of effort to speak to us.

It's all fun and games. Until reality creeps in and so do our doubts and realizations that he probably doesn't like us back.

And I understand that feeling. We get left on open or read with no follow-up and freeze in our tracks. We see him flirting with someone else and our stomachs churn. And, worst of all, we find out he is in a relationship with someone else and we can feel our hearts physically sink. We begin doubting and hating ourselves and questioning our own intrinsic worth.

In the prolonged time I've been single, I've felt these feelings over and over and over again. And sometimes people can undermine the pain because it isn't a real break-up from an established boyfriend. But we still feel the breaking of our hearts and like our feelings are valid.

It's safe to say I've had to take many Ls in the relationship department, and I continue to take Ls, so I can (probably) relate to what you're feeling.

I've been explicitly told, "I don't like you back." I've tried to break down the touch barrier, but it would build itself back up stronger than ever. I've felt led on only to discover that the person was seeing someone else all along. Even today as a (nearly) 20-year-old, my doubts set in, my flirting efforts are either too strong or not strong enough, and I receive telltale signs that my fantasies will stay fantasies.

And you probably have been in similar situations or perhaps taken different Ls. And you feel ugly. And you feel unlovable. And it sucks.

But you're not. Please don't let it break you.

If you wouldn't place your self-esteem in the hands of the stranger at the bus stop, you shouldn't place your self-esteem in the hands of any one guy. Both the stranger and your love interest are individuals and don't deserve that kind of power. Some situations are not meant to be and that doesn't make you any less beautiful or amazing of a person. Everybody will only have one truly happy ending regardless of who they are. So muster up the strength to move on, and realize that perhaps the happiest endings require the most loss and heartbreak to get there.

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14 Song Lyrics That Say 'I Miss You' Just As Good As Blink 182

Because sometimes you want to say more than just "I miss you."

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Music can speak incredible volumes that regular words can't reach. I use music all the time to describe how I'm feeling or what I'm going through. I use it most in my relationships, especially with my boyfriend. As a musician, him and I are always finding songs that describe how we feel for each other and the emotions we experience.

Saying "I miss you", sometimes can feel, almost dissipated. But song lyrics can *really* tell someone how much you actually miss them. These are 11 song lyrics that are perfect to tell that special someone you miss them.

1. "Wish You Were Here" by Avril Lavigne

"You're always there, you're everywhere
But right now I wish you were here"

2. "Far Away" by Nickleback

"That I love you I have loved you all along and I miss you
Been far away for far too long"

3. "Hey There, Delilah" by Plain White T's

"Hey there, Delilah
Don't you worry about the distance
I'm right there if you get lonely
Give this song another listen
Close your eyes
Listen to my voice, it's my disguise
I'm by your side"





4. "I Don't Wanna Miss A Thing" by Aerosmith

"Don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't want to miss a thing"


5. "Home" by Michael Buble or Blake Shelton

"Maybe surrounded by
A million people I
Still feel all alone
I just want to go home
Oh I miss you, you know"



6. "Faithfully" by Journey

"Two strangers learn
To fall in love again
I get the joy
Of rediscovering you
Oh girl, you stand by me
I'm forever yours
Faithfully"





7. "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum

"It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now
Said I wouldn't call but I lost all control and I need you now
And I don't know how I can do without, I just need you now"

8. "Making Memories Of Us" by Keith Urban

"I'm gonna be here for you from now on
This you know somehow
You've been stretched to the limits but it's alright now
And I'm gonna make you a promise
If there's life after this
I'm gonna be there to meet you with a warm, wet kiss"




9. "I'm Already There" by Lonestar

"Wish I was in your arms
Lying right there beside you
But I know that I'll be in your dreams tonight"

10. "Talking to the Moon" by Bruno Mars

"At night when the stars
Light up my room
I sit by myself
Talking to the moon
Tryin' to get to you
In hopes you're on
The other side
Talking to me too"






11. "All I Want" by Kodaline

"All I want is nothing more
To hear you knocking at my door
'Cause if I could see your face once more
I could die as a happy man I'm sure"


12.  "The Few Things" by JP Saxe

"You're one of the few things that I'm sure of
You're one of the few things that I know already
I could build my world of
One of the few things that I'm sure of"


13. "Kiss Me Thru The Phone" by Soulja Boy

"And that's the issue, girl you know I miss you
I just wanna kiss you
But I can't right now
So baby kiss me thru the phone (kiss me thru the phone)"


14.  "Falling for You" by The 1975

"I'll take it one day at a time
Soon you will be mine, oh, but I want you now (I want you now)
When the smoke is in your eyes, you look so alive
Do you fancy sitting down with me maybe
'Cause you're all I need"




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