I Still Get Butterflies When I'm With My Boyfriend And That's How It Should Be

I Still Get Butterflies When I'm With My Boyfriend And That's How It Should Be

Yes, we still flirt with each other. No, we will not stop being obsessed with one another.

In today's ways of dating and relationships, people expect the honeymoon stage to be over in three months. That's the time period when couples are so "madly in love," and when nothing else matters except the two of them. That means that they don't hang out with their friends, they don't go anywhere without their boyfriend or girlfriend, and they can't keep their S.O.'s name out of their mouth.

Although there is some truth to this, the honeymoon stage can last longer, and it doesn't always mean that the boyfriend/girlfriend are attached at the hip. Take me and my boyfriend, for example. We've been together seven months, a short time relative to most college relationships, and although we seem to always be together, we live our own lives, go to our respective jobs, and still have our separate homes.

I overheard a girl in class say, "I never want to be in a relationship where it just feels like the same thing every day." I thought about it. It can't be that bad, right? Wake up next to your S.O. every morning, go to work, come home, have dinner, go to bed with your S.O. and repeat, 365 days a year. For some people, that's how it will be for them. Every day will be a copy of the one before it.

For me, however, my relationship is different, and it has been from the very beginning. We still flirt. Yes, I still get bashful when he calls me beautiful or when he pulls me in close at a party to whisper something inappropriate in my ear.

I love to wink at him from across the room and watch him look around, jokingly making sure it's him that I'm eyeing. We act like we're still trying to win each other over, which keeps the relationship youthful and fun.

There's never a moment that I wake up and doubt that my boyfriend loves me. I can just tell by his smile when I roll over and kiss him on the nose, or when I'm walking to the car and he races to my door just to open it for me.

He brings me flowers on random days, and when I ask why, holding back tears because I'm just a sad, corny sap for things like that, he'll say, "I just haven't done it in a while. You deserve them." I'll constantly gush over how handsome he is when he gets dressed up for work, and I'll take plenty of pictures of him in his bowtie like it's his first day of grade school.

At parties, he'll show me off to his friends and say, "this is my girlfriend" with the biggest smile on his face. I know that his love and happiness is all very genuine, and though most people say that relationships are different behind closed doors, ours is not. What you see is what you get, and I've got the best thing out there.

When you find someone that fills your tummy with butterflies when they walk into a room, or makes your heart skip a beat when they say your name, or take your breath away with every kiss, you know you've found the one.

My advice to anyone in a budding relationship is to flirt. Flirt with your boyfriend/girlfriend like it's the very first time. Keep that playfulness and love in the air. Let the honeymoon stage last your entire relationship and then some. Don't let anyone, especially your single friends, tell you that you're too in love, too whipped, or head over heels.

Being in love with someone who loves you right back is the best feeling there is, and I can promise you that there is nothing better than that.

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I Was Cheated On, But It Brought Me A Sense Of Relief

Don't get me wrong, I'm still heartbroken.

I dated him for over two years.

We did everything together.

I entered a different world when I laid in his arms, felt his touch, and kissed his electric lips.

It was amazing. It was beautiful. He was my first true love.

But…something always felt off.

From the day we started dating, I had a feeling that something wasn’t right, but I pushed it back, wayyyy back, because my love for him was stronger than I had ever felt before. But then, as time passed, although my love remained, that uneasy feeling grew. In fact, it grew so much, that I couldn’t push it back anymore.

A year ago was when I started realizing that I was becoming more unhappy. It just didn’t feel right sometimes, and I couldn’t figure out what exactly it was. There were magical days, but there were also devastating days. He would say things, and I would wonder, “Why would he say that to me?” but I brushed it off. I kept silent. I didn’t want to lose him and his love for me.

As college started, the feeling grew. I found myself more unhappy than I had ever been with him—I just didn’t want to admit it to myself. One day, I found myself lost and in tears. I prayed to God and I asked him for a sign, to show me if I should be in this relationship or not.

One hour later, I got a direct message from a girl. It said:

“I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I would want to know if my boyfriend cheated on me, so please text this number."

Want to know the craziest thing? Above and beyond feeling the immense pain, I felt a greater sense of relief, like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

It’s been 11 days since we have officially been broken up. And yes, It hurts. It hurts a lot. I wake up every day with a pit in my stomach, because for the first time in over two years, I am alone. Not completely alone of course, but my other half is missing.

I walk around campus constantly being reminded of him by the simplest of things. Where we used to eat, his favorite songs, what he used to say, wear, and do. Anything really, my mind finds a way to bring it back to him.

Heartbreak is exactly what it sounds like. I feel like my heart is shattered. I have little motivation to do my work and I cry, a lot. I'm not going to sugar coat it and say it's easy because it's not. Breaking up with him was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

The thing is, yes, I feel sad, and yes, it hurts. But for the first time in forever, I am hopeful for the future. I am optimistic about my life and what will come from this monumental battle.

I still think of him every day, but I know one day I will wake up and he won’t be on my mind.

And when that day comes, a new journey begins.

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If You’re Grossed Out By Me And My Boyfriend Kissing Goodbye, You Need A Reality Check

We shouldn't be shut down for loving each other.

You see it all the time. A couple goes to give each other any form of affection and the crowd around them goes wild. Throwing phrases like, "gross," "I just threw up a little," "get a room," and more. These comments leave the couple feeling uncomfortable with their actions of just showing love for one another.

Why is this the natural response when two people in love are showcasing their love?

I do see certain points. The couples all over each other (making out, grabbing any part of the body they can reach, without even stopping for air) can get overwhelming and highly inappropriate. Those are the moments where I myself get grossed out.

There are moments and times for examples of affection. Where you become heavily attached to one another, that's more so for private places to be shared with just the two of you. If a couple decides to give each other a kiss goodbye as they part ways, they shouldn't feel reprimanded for doing so.

I kiss my family members on the cheek when I say hello, as well as when I say goodbye. Why is kissing my boyfriend goodbye any different?

Then comes the displays of affection that don't even involve any physical affection. As a writer, I enjoy writing about the experiences my boyfriend and I share.

I write about those experiences for quite a few reasons, some being to have another way of showcasing my appreciation for him, to give advice to other couples who share similar feelings/experiences, and to give hope to those who are still searching for that special someone and more.

Showing love for one another is something we all need to do more. This world is so filled with hatred and anger. Kindness and love, even in small attributes can go a long way.

I also know that the world can be a scary place. Things can change and anything can happen in the blink of an eye. While it isn't always the best way to think, I could lose him at any given time. I would much rather "be gross" and show as much affection to him as I can than not and regret not doing it more.

The jokes can be funny at times when coming from close friends. But there comes a time when it begins to bother the couple. They shouldn't have to feel anxious when it comes to showing their affection to one another just because other people are around. Give them a break and let them be in love.

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