I Still Get Butterflies When I'm With My Boyfriend And That's How It Should Be

I Still Get Butterflies When I'm With My Boyfriend And That's How It Should Be

Yes, we still flirt with each other. No, we will not stop being obsessed with one another.

In today's ways of dating and relationships, people expect the honeymoon stage to be over in three months. That's the time period when couples are so "madly in love," and when nothing else matters except the two of them. That means that they don't hang out with their friends, they don't go anywhere without their boyfriend or girlfriend, and they can't keep their S.O.'s name out of their mouth.

Although there is some truth to this, the honeymoon stage can last longer, and it doesn't always mean that the boyfriend/girlfriend are attached at the hip. Take me and my boyfriend, for example. We've been together seven months, a short time relative to most college relationships, and although we seem to always be together, we live our own lives, go to our respective jobs, and still have our separate homes.

I overheard a girl in class say, "I never want to be in a relationship where it just feels like the same thing every day." I thought about it. It can't be that bad, right? Wake up next to your S.O. every morning, go to work, come home, have dinner, go to bed with your S.O. and repeat, 365 days a year. For some people, that's how it will be for them. Every day will be a copy of the one before it.

For me, however, my relationship is different, and it has been from the very beginning. We still flirt. Yes, I still get bashful when he calls me beautiful or when he pulls me in close at a party to whisper something inappropriate in my ear.

I love to wink at him from across the room and watch him look around, jokingly making sure it's him that I'm eyeing. We act like we're still trying to win each other over, which keeps the relationship youthful and fun.

There's never a moment that I wake up and doubt that my boyfriend loves me. I can just tell by his smile when I roll over and kiss him on the nose, or when I'm walking to the car and he races to my door just to open it for me.

He brings me flowers on random days, and when I ask why, holding back tears because I'm just a sad, corny sap for things like that, he'll say, "I just haven't done it in a while. You deserve them." I'll constantly gush over how handsome he is when he gets dressed up for work, and I'll take plenty of pictures of him in his bowtie like it's his first day of grade school.

At parties, he'll show me off to his friends and say, "this is my girlfriend" with the biggest smile on his face. I know that his love and happiness is all very genuine, and though most people say that relationships are different behind closed doors, ours is not. What you see is what you get, and I've got the best thing out there.

When you find someone that fills your tummy with butterflies when they walk into a room, or makes your heart skip a beat when they say your name, or take your breath away with every kiss, you know you've found the one.

My advice to anyone in a budding relationship is to flirt. Flirt with your boyfriend/girlfriend like it's the very first time. Keep that playfulness and love in the air. Let the honeymoon stage last your entire relationship and then some. Don't let anyone, especially your single friends, tell you that you're too in love, too whipped, or head over heels.

Being in love with someone who loves you right back is the best feeling there is, and I can promise you that there is nothing better than that.

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A Dozen Reasons Why Wine Is Better Than Your Boyfriend

Why listen to your man whine, when you can just dink some wine?

If you are in a relationship, married, or single like me, you’ve had a man make you want to rip your hair out. No matter how much we love them, sometimes we just want to strangle them. One key to our success in dealing with the men in our lives is wine. Sometimes a glass of wine fixes it all, but a lot of times, it takes a whole bottle. Let's just face it, wine can be a way better boyfriend.

1. A bottle of wine can’t steal all the blankets or get mad at you when you steal all the blankets.

You know exactly what I'm talking about.

2. Wine doesn’t talk back.

3. When you fall asleep a bottle of wine won’t stop cuddling with you.

7. You don’t have to share your food with a bottle of wine.

8. When you decide to like a certain type of wine there are no surprises! They don’t magically become someone they said they weren’t.

9. Wine loves you as much as you love it.

10. Wine understands that there different nude lipsticks, and yes I need them all.

11. Wine won't just send you those 2am "What's up?" texts.

We know "what's up", you know "what's up", but we just don't care enough to respond.

12. Wine just never lets you down.

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Relationships Are Made For Working Together, Not Working FOR Each Other

Your relationship is not a job.

I do not identify myself as a feminist in the way most do. My idea of feminism is strong women, ones that do not back down to a challenge, a woman who is not afraid to speak out for what she believes. A woman who is not afraid to be an individual.

But recently I have seen a lack of women empowerment in the communities I am apart of every day.

As college students, both male and female, we feel the pressure to be perfect at all times, in class, in our organizations, in our community. While both sexes feel these mutual pressures, there are some pressures the opposite sex cannot identify with.

Because I am a woman, I understand the female side of these "other" pressures.

As college women we are expected to be educated, involved, leaders in the community and of course find love. As I grow as an individual though, I find myself putting these priorities into an order of importance. Me first, love last.

I strongly believe that you will never find someone who will truly love you until you can see the beauty in yourself first. But, while I may have these ideas in my head my own opinion can only get me so far.

I ask you, when did our worth start being valued on how well we please our significant other?

I have been fortunate enough to meet an incredible amount of powerful women within my two years at this university. However, it is not rare that I see one of these once, so powerful women, get into a relationship and start to live off of the approval of their significant other.

This is where I start to worry, is it possible to be an individual in a relationship?

To me, the answer is yes, but to so many, it seems the answer is no. I do not think there is a correct answer to this question but I do think that it is one that needs to be brought to attention.

It breaks my heart to see girls that were once so strong and independent cry because their boyfriends did not give them enough attention that day.

But most of the time I find them trying to figure out what they did wrong, and then immediately overcompensating to take care if the problem.

To me, a relationship works like this...

As a girlfriend you are there to support your significant other when they need you, you are their equal, you should use each other to become better people. Cleaning up their dirty work, keeping their lives on track, making sure they are being good people... this is not your job.

This is where I lose the ability to understand relationships. These strong powerful women that I have talked about tend to lose themselves because they are trying to make something of someone else.

Our future is molded by today and if women continue to live to please their significant others than we will never go stringer as a sex. I encourage women everywhere to strive to not lose their individuality when they give their hearts away.

Relationships are made for working together not working for each other and until this idea is put into movement our community as females will struggle to grow.

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