11 Things You Should 100% Confirm Before Hooking Up, No Matter If It's Casual Or Serious
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11 Things You Should 100% Confirm Before Hooking Up, No Matter If It's Casual Or Serious

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11 Things You Should 100% Confirm Before Hooking Up, No Matter If It's Casual Or Serious
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College presents us with the perfect opportunities to explore ourselves romantically and sexually. And if you happen to be curious about experimenting with others or simply want to discover what you like, you might be wanting to engage in "hookup culture."

Yet regardless of whether you're in it for physical experience or casual fun, here are some things you should know before you get involved:

1. What your partner's intentions are

Plain and simple, you and your partner should be open with one another regarding what you're hoping will come out of your physical relations.

2. What your partner's sexual history is

You have the right to know how many people they've been sexually active with. BUT, by that very same principle, they have every right to ask about your past, too.

3. If your partner has had or still has any STIs

Hopefully, if your hookup partner's sex life has been fairly active, they've already gotten themselves tested or treated for any sexually-transmitted infections. It's an awkward question to ask, but it's important nonetheless to make sure you know what you could be getting yourself into.

4. Whether or not your partner is single

You don't want to be "that guy" or "that girl" that gets between two lovers. Clear the air straight away and, if you suspect your partner isn't single, don't be afraid to ask them about it.

5. Whether or not your partner might call you again

It's more than okay to ask if the hookup is going to be a one-time experience or if you could be expecting to see them again soon. This question is best when saved for the end of the first meet-up, but you can pose it early on if you'd be more comfortable that way.

6. What kinds of protection you plan on using

Ask your partner (and yourself) about how you should prepare for the encounter BEFORE it happens. Depending on both of your genders, you definitely want to invest in some condoms (female or male), lubricant, or an emergency stash of morning-after pills.

7. What you're (not) comfortable doing with your partner

When it comes to physical intimacy of any kind, your likes and dislikes should be made known up front. Don't let your partner convince you to venture further out of your comfort zone than you want to go, and don't pressure them to do anything they don't want to do, either.

8. Where and when you'll be hooking up

You're both busy individuals with a lot of responsibilities to take care of, so be sure to avoid any conflicts by scheduling a time and a place to connect.

9. What your partner (actually) looks like

Hopefully, you weren't being catfished all along…but if you have the vague sense that you might have been misled, ask your partner for a photo of themselves. You'll need it to confirm their identity later on, anyway.

10. If there's a possibility that either of you could develop feelings

Be honest with yourself and with your partner if you're vulnerable to falling fast and hard for your cuddle buddies. You shouldn't have to suffer through imminent rejection if they are very opposed to having a relationship, and they shouldn't have to feel guilty about getting with you even though their intentions don't align with yours.

(Note: hookups might not be for you if you've got your sights set on having a committed relationship)

11. Whether or not you and your partner are going to be exclusive

For health and safety reasons and for your own feelings' sake, clearly define whether or not your hookup relationship is going to be exclusive or if either of you may have other partners in between.

Good luck in all of your ~adventures~ and always remember to be smart and be safe!

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