Here's The Truth On How Often College Students Are Having Sex
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Thanks to hookup culture and multiple dating apps, it's a huge stereotype that college students are having a bunch of sex. Even if they're in a committed relationship, we still believe that because college kids are young and wild, they're sleeping together whenever they possibly can.

As someone who has frequently written about, thought about and talked about casual sex, I had to ask myself—how often are college students really having sex? Is it more or less than I would expect?

Well, after asking this question to a variety of college students, here are the responses I found.

Actually... I'm a virgin.

This one came as a shock to me. MANY college students who responded to my survey said they were still a virgin! Thinking about the people I know and the stories we share, I was only expecting maybe three or four people who responded to my survey to say they were a virgin, but this was actually much more common! Here's what some of them had to say:

"I'm a virgin and have always been single. Totally okay with that. Sex just seems unnecessary and doesn't always happen for the right reasons." - Female, age 18

"I'm not having sex because I'm committed to being abstinate until I get married for personal and religious reasons. I truly believe that's what's best for me and my future marriage." - Female, age 21

"I'm scared of affection." - Female, age 20

"I've never had sex because I don't know how to put a condom on and I'm honestly just waiting for a good woman to be my first." - Male, age 21

"I'm 23 and still a virgin, so the stereotypes don't apply to everyone." - Female, age 23

"Virginity rocks." - Female, age 19

Um, sometimes.

The number of responses I had that were some variety of "occasionally" dominated my survey. Here is a small sampling:

"I've had a hookup here and there but it's not often." - Female, age 22

"One weekend a month... I make up for the whole month within the weekend." - Female, age 20

"Once a month. I 100% could have sex more with different partners but my heart is still with my ex." - Male, age 22

"At least once a week. Maybe once a weekend." - Female, age 21

When you're an a LDR, it's so much harder.

For some people, distance puts a limit on the amount of sex they can have. Here's what those individuals had to say:

"It's only during every visit aka every three to five months." - Female, age 20

"I don't go to the same school as my boyfriend so we do it a LOT more in the summer than we do in the school year simply because we're together more." - Female, age 20

"I have sex seven times a month. My husband is stationed 800 miles away and I see him a week/month." - Female, age 20

All. The. Damn. Time.

Listen, some people just really love sex, and that's okay!

"I have sex AT LEAST a few times a week. Sometimes seven times a week. Sometimes multiple times a day." - Female, age 21

"One to three times a day. Some days it's more than five times in a day. My partner and I have really high sex drives." - Female, age 22

"Basically every day, but usually twice a day on Saturdays. I like sex." - Female, age 21

Regardless of the number of times you're having sex, the number of partners you have (or don't have), or your sexuality, I think this boss ass babe hit it right on the head with this response:

"If you're doing it safely, using a condom with birth control and regularly getting checked, have as much sex as YOU want. If it makes you happy, seriously do it." - Female, age 21

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Tumblr Is Specifically Targeting Women By Banning Porn

Tumblr's male CEO Jeff D'Onofrio belief that, "there are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content" is just as privileged as he is.

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If you've logged into your middle school Tumblr recently, you'd notice that Tumblr is still the same place you remember. Perhaps stuck in a bit of a time warp, it's still full of fanfiction, fan pages, basic white girl stuff, and porn. A lot of porn.

Tumblr announced Monday, December 3 that all adult content AKA pornography will no longer be allowed on the site.

Excuse me. What?

First, Tumblr have you forgotten that porn and thinspiration blogs are what made you famous? Tumblr has always been the "legit" version of the dark dim part of the internet.

Jeff D'Onofrio, Tumblr's white, male CEO said this in the announcement blog post:

"Bottom line: There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community."

Jeff—I'm here to tell you that you are incorrect.

As a woman, I never felt like it was acceptable to view porn. PornHub and sites like it were not an option.

It was Tumblr that introduced me and many of my friends to "tasteful," soft pornography. For myself and many other women I know, they still felt safe viewing porn on Tumblr.

Tumblr does not fill the same niche as PornHub.

Adult content on Tumblr is as wide-reaching as the mind. D'Onofrio said himself, "Tumblr has always been a place for wide open, creative self-expression at the heart of community and culture."

I hate to break it to you, but adult content is culture.

Tumblr was a place where folks could find their sexual identity. Stumble into kinks and fetishes that they never knew existed.

Tumblr is shamming every woman that found their sexuality on the platform.

By banning adult content, Tumblr is saying, "Hey Women! The content that you found sexually freeing is wrong, it doesn't belong here, and you should go find it somewhere else. We don't care if we're taking away your community."

Sex workers are concerned about the impact on their lives as well.

To be clear, Tumblr should do its best to limit illegal and underage pornography. But, let's not throw out the champagne with the cork.

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Pelvic Floor Dysfunction Is More Common Than You Think And It's The Reason Sex Can Be So Painful

Pelvic Floor what?

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Losing your virginity comes with a flood of different emotions like excitement, fear, happiness, oh, and pain. Wow did you not expect the pain, but you heard it's supposed to hurt a lot less the second time, and every other time after.

Only, for you, it's painful every single time, you tense up and don't know why. Your partner tells you just to relax, but it's not that easy, and it feels like it's something you can't control. Why does this happen? I might just have an answer for it, and a way to make it better.

Pelvic Floor Dysfunction. Pelvic what now?

Pelvic Floor Dysfunction, according to a blog written by the Florida Hospital, "refers to a wide range of disorders that occur when muscles of the pelvic floor are weak, tight or torn." Ouch. The pelvic floor muscles keep your organs in place, and when they are weakened, you can develop PFD. The range of symptoms can go from the strong frequent urge to urinate, painful periods and difficulty with going a number two. The symptom I found most surprising was painful intercourse.

This isn't something my gyno ever talked to me about or even my regular doctor. I literally just found out this existed, and it makes a lot of sense in terms of the issues a lot of women, in particular, have with their sex lives.

Definitely do not pull a me and self-diagnose, talk to your gyno. I have researched a good chunk of ways that this issue can be fixed, or at least made more bearable. We deserve a sex life that doesn't involve pain to the extent we experience it, it's time to be liberated ladies!

Try doing yoga. Three out of four women surveyed said their sex lives improved in all aspects due to doing yoga. Yoga relaxes you, which is where the benefits of a better sex life come from. You can try yoga in a class, or even watch a video on Youtube and teach yourself.

Kegel exercises are another thing to try. Kegel is when you contract and relax the muscles of your pelvic floor, where your uterus and bladder are held in place. The goal is to give your muscles a toned effect, and this can result in reducing pain (yay) during sex, being aware of yourself climaxing/ having a better orgasm (HELLO) and helping with urinary incontinence too. The basics are pretending you're holding your pee when you really have to go. Do this for two to three seconds on an empty bladder and then release. Once you get the hang of it, do about five sets of ten reps a day, and await the improvements.

There is also pelvic floor physical therapy you can try. The International Society for Sexual Medicine says you are "taught how to contract and relax pelvic floor muscles in relation to other muscles and breathing and timing techniques to make the exercises more effective. These exercises can stretch tight muscles, strengthen weak ones, and improve flexibility." Other forms of therapy include self-education, manual therapy, pelvic floor biofeedback, electronic simulation, and vaginal dilators. I know some of those terms sound like a foreign language, so I'm linking the website for you all to check out.

In terms of sex positions, it's honestly up to you and how you feel. Experiment with what feels good and what doesn't feel so good. If you have a solid man in your life, he'll do whatever he can to make sure you feel the best you can. Use a pillow under your pelvis and have him hit it from behind, because sis, it makes the world of a difference compared to the lovely standard missionary. That's something I've heard helps. Cosmopolitan has done a fabulous job of listing five positions you should try if sex hurts, and I hope they work and feel as great as they look.

To all my ladies who experience painful sex on the regular, I feel you, and we deserve better. Talk to your gyno about what you're experiencing, and don't let any guy tell you to "relax and stop tensing up." Have some great sex!

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