Thanks to hookup culture and multiple dating apps, it's a huge stereotype that college students are having a bunch of sex. Even if they're in a committed relationship, we still believe that because college kids are young and wild, they're sleeping together whenever they possibly can.
As someone who has frequently written about, thought about and talked about casual sex, I had to ask myself—how often are college students really having sex? Is it more or less than I would expect?
Well, after asking this question to a variety of college students, here are the responses I found.
Actually... I'm a virgin.
This one came as a shock to me. MANY college students who responded to my survey said they were still a virgin! Thinking about the people I know and the stories we share, I was only expecting maybe three or four people who responded to my survey to say they were a virgin, but this was actually much more common! Here's what some of them had to say:
"I'm a virgin and have always been single. Totally okay with that. Sex just seems unnecessary and doesn't always happen for the right reasons." - Female, age 18
"I'm not having sex because I'm committed to being abstinate until I get married for personal and religious reasons. I truly believe that's what's best for me and my future marriage." - Female, age 21
"I'm scared of affection." - Female, age 20
"I've never had sex because I don't know how to put a condom on and I'm honestly just waiting for a good woman to be my first." - Male, age 21
"I'm 23 and still a virgin, so the stereotypes don't apply to everyone." - Female, age 23
"Virginity rocks." - Female, age 19
The number of responses I had that were some variety of "occasionally" dominated my survey. Here is a small sampling:
"I've had a hookup here and there but it's not often." - Female, age 22
"One weekend a month... I make up for the whole month within the weekend." - Female, age 20
"Once a month. I 100% could have sex more with different partners but my heart is still with my ex." - Male, age 22
"At least once a week. Maybe once a weekend." - Female, age 21
When you're an a LDR, it's so much harder.
For some people, distance puts a limit on the amount of sex they can have. Here's what those individuals had to say:
"It's only during every visit aka every three to five months." - Female, age 20
"I don't go to the same school as my boyfriend so we do it a LOT more in the summer than we do in the school year simply because we're together more." - Female, age 20
"I have sex seven times a month. My husband is stationed 800 miles away and I see him a week/month." - Female, age 20
All. The. Damn. Time.
Listen, some people just really love sex, and that's okay!
"I have sex AT LEAST a few times a week. Sometimes seven times a week. Sometimes multiple times a day." - Female, age 21
"One to three times a day. Some days it's more than five times in a day. My partner and I have really high sex drives." - Female, age 22
"Basically every day, but usually twice a day on Saturdays. I like sex." - Female, age 21
Regardless of the number of times you're having sex, the number of partners you have (or don't have), or your sexuality, I think this boss ass babe hit it right on the head with this response: