13 Responses LGBTQ+ Members Wish They Could Give Over Holiday Dinner When Their Family Asks About Their Love Lives
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The conversations you share with your relatives over holiday dinners are awkward enough. But to make matters worse, if you're a member of the LGBTQ+ community in an unaccepting (or just unsuspecting) family, nodding your way through these questions is even more difficult than it should be. You're bombarded with interrogations about your love life and you just aren't sure of how to respond in a way that keeps your identity under wraps.

But no doubt, even as your answers help you pass for straight or pass for cisgender, these are some of the REAL answers you wish you could give:

1. "I'm dating someone, actually, but I'm afraid you won't approve of them" 

Your happiness should be your family's first concern, and yet they are too repelled by the idea of same-sex romance that they can't see past your partner's gender. Being honest about your fears might be a way to not only get your feelings off your chest, but it may also lead to that reconciliation you've been dreaming of for so long.

2. "I'm single, but sorry, Mom and Dad—the neighbor's kid just isn't my type"

You'd rather not go out with the neighbor's son Steven while you've still got your eye on Stephanie. And Michaela might seem sweet enough and already has shown some interest in you, but you know that Michael is the right lover for you.

3. "I'm not interested in dating and I never will be"

Aromantic and asexual identities are often misunderstood by the individual's family, who are determined to find "The One" for their clearly 'misguided' youth. They're convinced you just haven't had the right relationship yet, but little do they know that a relationship of a sexual or romantic nature is exactly what you don't need nor want.

4. "I was seeing this guy, actually, but now I'm just talking to this girl and…"

"Try not to look too dumbfounded, Aunt Nancy. It is possible to like the same AND the opposite sex."

5. "This wine is delicious, but I don't need to be drunk to kiss guys/girls"

"Although we both love getting a little tipsy…it makes the sex even better."

6. "I'm gay. Pass the salt, please?" 

Yep, that's it. You want to come out simply and without a hassle, so those two words are just the way to do it.

7. "Oh, I'm going to Hell? Guess I'll see you there, Aunt Susan" 

"So you mean to tell me that your two divorces are okay, but my being queer is not?"

8. *sings any song about coming out or being gay*

"Alexa, play 'I'm Coming Out' by Diana Ross."

9. "It shouldn't matter what their gender is as long as they make me happy"

More than anything, you want your relatives to understand that your love is beautiful regardless of whom you share it with.

10. "You should be thankful I'm not pregnant/haven't made a girl pregnant"

"I could be a drug addict or a high school-dropout with a kid. But no, I'm just gay."

11. "My girlfriend/boyfriend is gay, but I'm not" 

"It's true, I swear."

12. "That best friend I told you about? Yeah…well, we're dating now."

"But don't get the wrong idea about all of our sleepovers when we were younger…this is a new development."

13. "So, Grandma, there's this thing called being gay. I am." 

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"I am a flaming homosexual/bisexual/pansexual/asexual/aromantic/demisexual and I'm proud of it."

No matter your sexual orientation or gender identity, and no matter who does or does not accept you as you are, you are every bit as valid as anyone else. Don't let narrow-minded people influence how you see yourself because chances are, they're too ignorant of your beauty to ever understand.

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Hometown Tinder Is Every College Girl's Worst Nightmare When She's Home For The Holidays

It's full of all the boys who made fun of you in high school.

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Ah, the holidays. Three whole weeks where college students pack up their dorm necessities and return back home, to Christmas carols and grandma's famous fudge and some well-deserved rest. However, the holidays also come with quite a bit of extra spare time, and without your college friends three doors down, it can be hard to figure out what to do with yourself. This may lead to quite a few naps and Netflix binges, or if you're anything like me, swiping left and right on Tinder until you're completely out of people around you.

And while I'll whole-heartedly admit that I turn to Tinder over my holiday breaks to cure my boredom, I also know damn well that hometown Tinder is every single college girl's worst nightmare during the holidays. Here's why.

1. All of the boys who made you cry in high school are on it.

Remember when you had the biggest crush on Jake when you were sixteen and he made you cry at the homecoming dance when he wouldn't slow dance with you to "Someone Like You"?

No matter how hard you try to push that memory to the darkest parts of your mind, ten swipes on hometown Tinder will lead you to his picture on your iPhone. And while it may be fun to laugh at how he went from a 8 out of 10 in high school to a 6 out of 10 on a good day now, you don't want to be stuck contemplating whether or not you should swipe right on the boy who ruined your makeup on what should've been a good night.

2. And so are the awkward ones who you never really talked to.

Yeah, you always thought Aaron was cute, but you never struck up a conversation on the bus ride home. Now, you're stuck with a question that could go many ways: do you swipe right or not?

3. Most of the people you're swiping on will never leave your hometown.

Girl, you have goals. You were one of the few people who actually left your hometown and went off to school, and the last place you want to end up when you graduate is back in those hometown streets. Why in the world would you want to end up with someone who never plans on leaving?

Yeah, you may think it's "just Tinder," but truth is, you never know what could happen with the guys you talk to on there.

4. So. Many. Exes.

Your first crush from 5th grade, your senior prom date, your first kiss, the first guy who ever broke your heart...hometown Tinder is stacked FULL of so many of your exes in one place. If you choose to navigate hometown Tinder, well, good luck, sis.

5. You're going to end up doing something you regret.

Whether it's hooking up with a guy you've known since you were in diapers or getting back with your ex, hometown Tinder leads to nothing but bad decisions. Trust me on this.

6. You know people in your hometown run your mouth.

When you're away at school, the only time someone MIGHT talk about your Tinder is if some guy from work or one of your class recognizes you and thinks your bio is witty. When you're back home, however, your Tinder profile is going to be a featured screenshot and every "Saturdays are for the boys" group chat within a 15-mile radius. People are going to run their mouth about you even having a Tinder and they'll tear apart all your pictures and your bio. Yeah, it's shitty, but isn't that expected?

7. You're forced to lower your standards.

Let's be real for a second: the guys on hometown Tinder simply just aren't as cute as the boys you're swiping right on like crazy back at school. If you want a hometown hookup or even just someone to entertain you with conversation while you're bored binge-watching "Friends" for the fifth time, odds are you're going to have to lower your standards a bit.

8. One wrong swipe and you've ruined your holiday season.

Y'all, these are the holidays we're talking about. Three weeks to rest and recharge. Time to enjoy family and friends and the joy that comes with the holidays. You don't want to be stuck upset or annoyed or pissed at some rando and whatever they said to you on an app. Maybe, no matter how bored you get, it's best you let things settle for a bit and stay far away...

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8 New Year's Resolutions That Every Single College Girl Should Make In 2019

This is your year.

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Despite what you have probably been repeatedly preached, starting off the new year single doesn't suck. You may not have a definite New Year's Eve kiss, but you have plenty of opportunities to improve yourself and succeed in your goals, without the obligations of a relationship holding you down.

1. Dedicate more time to your friends.

When you're in a relationship, friendships can fall to the back burner. Single life is the perfect opportunity to invest more time in your friendships. Whether it's staying in or going out, organizing a wine night or a study session, make your friends a priority this year.

2. Have more confidence with guys and dating.

Text a crush from class first. Don't be afraid to leave a situation that doesn't feel right, of losing a date out of fear that you won't get another. Even if you get turned down, deal with confrontation, or remain single for a while, things will work out.

3. Break a bad habit.

The "New Year, New Me" mentality can often be daunting (and very ridiculous). The reality is, you are still you, faults and all. But making a goal to change one thing that's been holding you back can be helpful. Maybe this is going out for more, or procrastinating on studying, or a personal thing you really want to change, for yourself.

4. Improve your study and work habits.

This is the year to succeed in academics and career. Don't let procrastination and laziness hold you back. Get organized and get your goals accomplished.

5. Go on dates.

Don't make your goal to get into a relationship. But being single doesn't mean locking yourself off from possibilities. Get to know different people and options. Whether this is simply casual, disastrous, or has the potential to develop into more, don't try to force anything, and remember that everything is a learning experience.

6. Learn a new skill (or improve an old one).

When you're single, your schedule is yours. Why not take the opportunity to learn a new skill or hone in an old one that you've abandoned? It doesn't have to be a huge conquest that feels impossible. Take painting or cooking classes. Dedicate time every day to learn a new language.

7. Don't be afraid to try some new styles.

Get some bold lipstick, spice up your wardrobe, take some style risks.

8. Treat yourself.

Whether this means taking yourself out to dinner once in a while or having a face mask and Sex and the City marathon night, invest time in giving yourself the treatment you deserve.

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