We all have someone we'd rather not see strolling around campus.
While that may not be an ex, people I've recently ended a romantic relationship with are at the top of my list of people I do not want to see. The last thing anyone wants is that awkward small talk where no one wants to make eye contact. It's uncomfortable just to think about.
Set yourself up for success and take these ten steps to avoid your ex:
1. Avoid your ex's favorite locations.
Let's say that your ex always studies on the first floor of the library. Don't go there. Well, at least not alone. Avoiding their fav places shouldn't affect your ability to live your life. It's about limiting contact in simple ways.
2. Keep your phone in your hand while you're walking.
Your phone is your best friend. I use this tactic with soliciters on campus too. Take a "phone call" and don't make eye contact. People assume you didn't even see them.
3. Walk to class with your friends.
When you're squad is around, your ex may be less likely to interrupt you. Worst case scenario, they can help deflect and move the conversation along.
4. Use your prior knowledge to your advantage.
Don't be extra creepy, but do use prior knowledge to your advantage. If you know that their class is in building A on Tuesdays at noon, then don't go get a coffee there between classes.
5. Avoid eating in the same dining hall.
Dining halls are full of potential for awkward interactions. I highly recommend not hooking up with someone who eats at the same dining hall as you. You WILL see them all. the. time.
6. Keep your headphones in when you're alone.
In addition to your cell phone, headphones can be a great distraction. However, be aware that Apple AirPods may not be as helpful as a traditional set of headphones because they're hard to see.
7. Don't Snapchat your location when you're on campus.
Your ex probably isn't looking at your Snapchat location or watching your Instagram story, but better safe than sorry. This step only applies if you think it's necessary.
8. Know where the closest bathroom is to your classes.
Bathrooms are always a great place to duck into and take a break. It's the perfect wave to swerve your ex.
9. Always be going somewhere.
Have you ever noticed that the people who walk with intention get stopped less on campus? Always be going somewhere and always have a place you're going. Or, at least have a place you could be going.
10. Find quiet nooks to study in.
Don't let evading your ex, stop you from studying. I love to find small nooks to study in around campus. They're quiet and people won't disturb you.
There are situations where you may be trying to avoid more than awkward interactions with your ex.
If you are afraid that you're being stalked or are a survivor of a toxic relationship, please seek support. There are advocacy groups specific to your campus, but some national resources are:
Stalking Resource Center: 855-484-2846
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233