Stop Equating The Word “Single” With “Sad”

Stop Equating The Word “Single” With “Sad”

“The assumption that you can only be truly happy when you’re in a relationship is completely false.”
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It seems like single people can’t catch a break. All year long, but especially around Valentine’s Day, single people (mostly females) are portrayed as lonely and sad, moping around their house in a robe clutching a tissue, longing for the day that their soulmate flies into their life and makes it ten times better. It’s become such an epidemic that single people even have their own holiday: Singles Awareness Day (which ironically spells out the acronym S.A.D.)

This image of the lonely single girl persists in movies too. How many movies involve a girl crying around because she’s been single for “too long” or feeling sorry for herself because she’s alone on Valentine’s Day?

It seems that the world, or maybe just those in relationships, see single people as sad because they lack their “other half.” As a single female, I am used to telling people all the time that I am not, in fact, in a relationship, since for some reason it’s a question people always ask. I, and other singles, always get similar responses that are honestly just dumb. My favorite two are:

“Aw, I’m sorry!”

The words and the tone they say it in are more appropriate in response to “I failed my math test,” “I didn’t sleep well last night,” or “They forgot to take the tomato off my burger.”

“Oh, why not?”

What do you mean, “why not?” I’m single because I haven’t found a guy I want to spend my time with yet. The answer is that simple.

In reality, the assumption that you can only be truly happy when you’re in a relationship is completely false. There are so many other things that can bring you joy, like a serving of your favorite dessert, time spent with family, a song that speaks to you, or heartfelt moments with friends – just a few of the millions of things besides an S.O. that can make you happy to be alive.

It makes me sad when single people feel sorry for themselves for being single. Not being in a relationship is nothing to feel sorry for. It’s actually one of the best times for you to figure out who you are, what you want, and where you’re going in life. You get to focus 100% on you, and that’s pretty cool. People will always come and go out of your life, but you are always going to be stuck with you, so you best get to know and love yourself.

Though I celebrate the single woman, I don’t want to be single forever: I am so excited to meet my future husband, make a home with him, and have someone to do life with. However, I refuse to “lie in wait” or mope around while I wait for him. There’s plenty of life to live before then.

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6 Reasons You Should ALWAYS 'Fake-Type' Your Crush On Snapchat

It might work, it might not... but, it's always worth a shot!

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Fake-Type — Verb. 1. Pushing random letters on Snapchat messages without ever sending anything just so your name will pop up on that person's phone.

When your crush doesn't wanna talk to you, you can always send a "fake type" message to give him the hint you want to talk. It might work, it might not... but, it's always worth a shot!

Here are 6 reasons you should at least TRY fake-typing your crush on Snapchat!

1. Leave him wondering

Once he sees that "_______ is typing...", he will be staring at his phone to see what it is you have to say. Does it just say hey? Does it ask to hang? Does it ask to bang? Is it you bitching him out? He'll wait a couple minutes and realize you never sent anything? He might send you the "what's up" text then mission will be accomplished.

2. To just see if he replies

Maybe he's just waiting on you to make the first move? Maybe this is just the push y'all needed to start a conversation? Maybe he was going to talk to you later in the day, but you just moved up the time? And if he doesn't reply, just act like it was an accident.

3. To make yourself feel like you have balls without actually saying anything

No girl really wants to Snapchat her crush first even though she really wants to talk to him. The least you can do is make your name pop up on his phone and feel like you actually did something. And, you actually did do something either way. You either got his attention or made him talk to you. You got balls, girl.

4. To make yourself feel a little less pathetic all while being totally pathetic

Yeah, it's kind of embarrassing when he hits you with that "Did you mean to do that?" But not so much when he says, "Hey, what are you up to?" It's kind of up in the air on which will happen, but you always can blame it on an accident. That's not too pathetic, is it?

5. To get your psycho girl fix

Sometimes you're just having a bad day and want to talk to your crush. When he is not talking to you, you just feel like being a psycho until he does. When the fake typing works, the psycho girl fix is gone, and you can act like a normal girl again.

6. Just to do it

If you really like this boy and have already snapped him first before, just go for the fake type. If you fake type a couple of times and he never replies, just take the hint and leave him alone. What really do you have to lose with a fake type?

I hope everyone fake types their crush at least once in their life just for the thrill of seeing what he will say or if he will ever say anything. Good luck, and I hope this inspires you to fake type that guy.

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The 7 Traits That Define An Alpha Female

Throw her to the wolves and she'll return with the pack.
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Women are weak.

Women are fragile.

Women are submissive.

Women are second.

Women are stereotyped.

We are frustratingly put second because that is just how it has always been. With this notion, the alpha woman stands out. She is unconventional and to many men, this scares them away. Her confidence oozes her alpha demeanor and instills levels of immense intimidation in the mindsets of many. With this unconventional mindset, alpha women are misunderstood in not only relationships but in daily life. By getting to know an alpha female's characteristics you will better be able to understand why dating an alpha-female may be the way to go.

Here are the characteristics of an alpha female:

1. She won't give up easily.

She is resilient. When an alpha female has a goal, it becomes a major focus that encompasses her mind. She sees herself as an investment. In this regard, she will tirelessly work to upkeep her social, physical, and emotional state of mind. She won't play victim to life and become thrashed by harsh-comings, but rather will take them head on.

2. She isn't afraid to make the first move.

This is where a lot of alpha and beta females may differ. Making the first move toward a guy at a bar is her specialty. Why should a boy be the one to always make the first move? So thankfully for you boys, alpha females can take that burden off you. This bold approach exemplifies her spontaneous, self-assured, confident, and outgoing nature. She knows what she wants and goes for it without hesitation.

3. She is extremely loyal.

She is loyal and respectful to the ones she loves. Once she has someone or something int heir life, they work hard to keep it around. She says what she wants and wants what she says. Letting people or things slip through her fingers is not a common occurrence. With an alpha female knowing what she wants, she won't jeopardize relationships or friendships over petty things. Not feeling the need to use dishonest tactics, she lives her life with integrity.

4. She lives with purpose.

She has direction in her life. While she knows how to relax and be adventurous, she does not just wander as a lost puppy in her life. Working toward goals of physical fitness, doing well in school, or attaining a good career are examples of purpose she works toward. She stays aware of her goals and keeps them in the center of her thoughts. Dating an alpha female, you can be ensured she will get what she will get things done and will work hard to ensure happiness in the relationship.

5. She isn't afraid to be or do things by herself.

The alpha female isn't afraid of independence, and in fact, often times will welcome it. Strong leadership skills are almost always a common trait. This often times can lead to a sense of intimidation from others as they feel threatened by her self-confidence. While company is a positive, it is not always necessary. In relationships, this has potential to be either a positive or negative. Allowing an alpha female to have her own times and space, or at least feel as if she is in control sometimes, is essential to the relationships well-being.

6. She knows how to love.

Strong-hearted and strong-willed describe her well. She won't experience damsel in distress moments and need to be saved by a boy, so you don't need to worry about her not being able to hold her own. When she loves, she loves hard in every way, shape, and form. She will challenge you to be the best you can be and provide support along the way, to any absurd idea you may have. She'll strive to make your duo the best team around. She doesn't live a mediocre life and won't let your relationship be that way either. She isn't afraid of her sexuality, either. If you have captured her heart, you can imagine she will love you well.

7. She is ambitious.

She dares to go there. As Kendrick would say, she has "hustle though, ambition, flow, inside her DNA." She believes she is responsible for her own life and if she has somewhere she wants or needs to be, she is the only means of which she will get there. Her personality thrives off taking responsibility for herself and for others. She lives void of the idea of restricting limitations.

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