Dating apps can be as daunting as sky-diving for some people... while others simply see them as a means to a fast hookup, with no feelings attached to anything said or done.
If you're going into 2019 single, dating apps are probably something you've contemplated downloading or already have. Some of you may just be on them for the fast, easy hookup scene and all the power to you.
However, more often than not, many of us don't want something like that. We want to find something genuine. How is that even possible in this day and age where dating seems to be a thing of the past?
Here are the best strategies to attract only relationships on dating apps:
1. Don't put your Snapchat or Instagram in your bio
This is how people you definitely did not match with will try to contact you and bombard you with questions as to why you didn't match with them. These people are relentless, so it's better to just give out your Instagram or Snapchat to someone you matched with that you see potential in.
2. Speaking of your bio, try to refrain from adding anything that could bring about what you AREN'T looking for
AKA pickup lines or general statements with sexual innuendos. I would suggest putting some sort of funny line in there instead, like "send memes not dick pics" or mention a really cool feature about yourself to spark a conversation. A guy I recently started chatting with talked about how his eyes change color all the time, and that started a really awesome conversation. You can actually talk to someone about things other than sex, and it all results from both parties abilities to have genuine conversations. Your bio could be a great way to get those conversations going.
3. Choose photos of yourself that show an accurate representation of who you are
Want to show off your assets? Go for it, but don't make that the entire basis of photos that your potential matches are seeing, because they'll begin to make assumptions before they talk to the real you. Throw in pictures from your vacation in Spain or a group shot of you and your friends from Halloween. You should definitely include a photo of you with some sort of animal, whether it's your pet or a picture you snapped while at the zoo. I feel like a sexy pic paired with a bunch of pictures that show off your personality is a great balance.
Avoid having more than one picture of you with the opposite sex, because I know I find it very off-putting seeing a guy constantly in pictures with other girls.
4. If you think to yourself that this person looks like a douchebag, they probably are, so swipe left
I know we aren't supposed to judge a book by its cover, but I feel as though your gut can tell right away who's going to be a good match and who isn't. Some people just reek of snobbery, and just based off of their bio alone you can make a sound judgment that their desires on dating apps are the total opposite of yours. You know what you need in a person, and if they don't look like they will give that to you, swipe left and don't waste your time.
5. If you feel a conversation going south, don't force it
If you're struggling to keep a conversation going then just unmatch with the person, plain and simple. Are they only talking about sex? Do they respond with three words or less? Are they overall not what their pictures or bio made them out to be?
Cut. Them. Out.
Don't feel bad about it because they probably have countless other people they're talking to. Let's be honest. That's why, until you're both on the same page, you should keep your options open and your walls up.
6. Ask them what they're looking for sooner rather than later
This is something I should have done in past relationships and is something I am finally doing now that I'm getting back out there. I've found that a small handful of guys have asked me almost straight away what I'm looking for, which I respect. However, I think the conversation should be allowed to flow a bit longer before this question is dropped. Just because I may want a relationship doesn't mean I'll jump into one with someone because they want one too. You are allowed to be picky, but also try to be open to someone new who you may not usually go for. You're better off having this conversation sooner because it will save you from getting hurt in the end. Make what you want to be known and do not hold back.
The world of dating apps is at your fingertips, and I can only hope that you fight for the kind of relationship you want and deserve.