11 Ways To Make Sure You Get Enough Quality Time, When You Both Work 40+ Hours A Week

11 Ways To Make Sure You Get Enough Quality Time, When You Both Work 40+ Hours A Week

It's not always easy when your schedules are packed, but you make it work.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and the one thing we learned is that we are really busy people. He works a construction job during the day weekdays, takes class three nights a week and teaches line dances at night on weekends. I work for a transportation company during the day, DJ on the weekends, go to school and work an internship in editorial.

People always wonder how we ever get any alone time. They usually are surprised that we've made it this far with our schedules being so crazy all the time. "Do you ever get to see each other?" The answer is yes. We make the time, even if it's not long and we are always sure to make it last!

Here are 11 ways to make sure you and your honey get plenty of quality time, when you both have crazy busy schedules:

1. Designate a date night.

Date night is super important for any couple, but especially a busy one! My boyfriend and I specifically have Sunday mornings to get breakfast together every week. It's something we both look forward to since that's usually our only day off anyway.

2. Phone calls.

I know this isn't "exactly" quality time. But it makes a huge difference in your day. It may seem crazy, but everyday when I get out of work, I always call my boyfriend on my way home. It's become such a habit now that I don't even think about it. The calls don't usually last longer than, at most, 10 minutes. But those 10 minutes can make a huge difference in your day.

3. Wake up early.

I'm not saying to get up at 4 a.m. and watch a movie together, but what my boyfriend and I do is set our alarms in the morning about 15-20 minutes before we have to get up for work. When that first alarm goes off, it's the cuddle alarm. This means that for the first 15-20 minutes of your day, you are cuddling up with your favorite person. It's the perfect way to start your day right.

4. Visit each other.

If either one of you has a break while the other is still in class or at work, visit them! Take a ride to them and surprise them with their favorite drink and snack. The small gesture will brighten up their day and you both will be happy cause you'll get to see each other.

5. Sleepovers.

If you don't live with your significant other, sleepovers are the next best thing. Your schedules may be chaotic as hell, but being able to go to bed lying next to them gives you the quality time that you never even knew you needed.

6. Coffee breaks.

Now, my boyfriend and I don't exactly do this because I can't drink coffee. But I've seen a lot of people who take their 10-15 minute breaks and meet up for a quick coffee. Granted this only really works if you work close to each other, but it's still a great way to get some quality time in!

7. Play hooky. 

So my boyfriend and I definitely haven't done this because we both need to work as much as we can, but I know a lot of couples who designate a day every so often where they call out sick and play hooky to spend time together. Everyone deserves a mental health day, why not spend it with your boo?

8. Lunch date.

This one is tough for some, but works great for others! When my boyfriend was working second shift, we were able to meet up for lunch every day that week! It's at least a half hour of quality time you get to spend with your partner!

9. Pillow talk.

Right before bed, take 10-15 minutes to lay together and talk about your day. All the good, all the bad, just sit and talk with each other. This little time spent together before you go to bed can actually make you sleep better. If my boyfriend and I didn't do this, I honestly probably wouldn't sleep.

10. FaceTime.

This is another one where you might not be "actually" together, but it makes a difference. Before I moved in with my boyfriend, there would sometimes be a gap in between the times where we'd get to see each other. So, to make up for it, we would Facetime before bed. This is perfect for the couple that work jobs where they have to travel. Getting to see them and hear their voice can immediately calm your nerves.

11. Shower together.

I know what you're thinking, "isn't that a little silly?" or "Won't that just end in sex?" The answer? No. Showering with your partner can actually be a great way for you to be closer together. It's intimate in a way that doesn't have to end in sex, but gives you the same closeness. It can be very relaxing too, if you add candles and really make it romantic. Plus, you'll be saving water!

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.

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If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

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Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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