11 Ways To Make Sure You Get Enough Quality Time, When You Both Work 40+ Hours A Week

11 Ways To Make Sure You Get Enough Quality Time, When You Both Work 40+ Hours A Week

It's not always easy when your schedules are packed, but you make it work.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and the one thing we learned is that we are really busy people. He works a construction job during the day weekdays, takes class three nights a week and teaches line dances at night on weekends. I work for a transportation company during the day, DJ on the weekends, go to school and work an internship in editorial.

People always wonder how we ever get any alone time. They usually are surprised that we've made it this far with our schedules being so crazy all the time. "Do you ever get to see each other?" The answer is yes. We make the time, even if it's not long and we are always sure to make it last!

Here are 11 ways to make sure you and your honey get plenty of quality time, when you both have crazy busy schedules:

1. Designate a date night.

Date night is super important for any couple, but especially a busy one! My boyfriend and I specifically have Sunday mornings to get breakfast together every week. It's something we both look forward to since that's usually our only day off anyway.

2. Phone calls.

I know this isn't "exactly" quality time. But it makes a huge difference in your day. It may seem crazy, but everyday when I get out of work, I always call my boyfriend on my way home. It's become such a habit now that I don't even think about it. The calls don't usually last longer than, at most, 10 minutes. But those 10 minutes can make a huge difference in your day.

3. Wake up early.

I'm not saying to get up at 4 a.m. and watch a movie together, but what my boyfriend and I do is set our alarms in the morning about 15-20 minutes before we have to get up for work. When that first alarm goes off, it's the cuddle alarm. This means that for the first 15-20 minutes of your day, you are cuddling up with your favorite person. It's the perfect way to start your day right.

4. Visit each other.

If either one of you has a break while the other is still in class or at work, visit them! Take a ride to them and surprise them with their favorite drink and snack. The small gesture will brighten up their day and you both will be happy cause you'll get to see each other.

5. Sleepovers.

If you don't live with your significant other, sleepovers are the next best thing. Your schedules may be chaotic as hell, but being able to go to bed lying next to them gives you the quality time that you never even knew you needed.

6. Coffee breaks.

Now, my boyfriend and I don't exactly do this because I can't drink coffee. But I've seen a lot of people who take their 10-15 minute breaks and meet up for a quick coffee. Granted this only really works if you work close to each other, but it's still a great way to get some quality time in!

7. Play hooky. 

So my boyfriend and I definitely haven't done this because we both need to work as much as we can, but I know a lot of couples who designate a day every so often where they call out sick and play hooky to spend time together. Everyone deserves a mental health day, why not spend it with your boo?

8. Lunch date.

This one is tough for some, but works great for others! When my boyfriend was working second shift, we were able to meet up for lunch every day that week! It's at least a half hour of quality time you get to spend with your partner!

9. Pillow talk.

Right before bed, take 10-15 minutes to lay together and talk about your day. All the good, all the bad, just sit and talk with each other. This little time spent together before you go to bed can actually make you sleep better. If my boyfriend and I didn't do this, I honestly probably wouldn't sleep.

10. FaceTime.

This is another one where you might not be "actually" together, but it makes a difference. Before I moved in with my boyfriend, there would sometimes be a gap in between the times where we'd get to see each other. So, to make up for it, we would Facetime before bed. This is perfect for the couple that work jobs where they have to travel. Getting to see them and hear their voice can immediately calm your nerves.

11. Shower together.

I know what you're thinking, "isn't that a little silly?" or "Won't that just end in sex?" The answer? No. Showering with your partner can actually be a great way for you to be closer together. It's intimate in a way that doesn't have to end in sex, but gives you the same closeness. It can be very relaxing too, if you add candles and really make it romantic. Plus, you'll be saving water!

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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