Gentlemen, Your Wife CAN Bring Home The Bacon In 2018, Wake Up
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A breadwinner is deemed as the person who brings home the most money in order to support a family. However, I feel like it is much more than that. Society throws tons of expectations and responsibilities on who the breadwinner is, what their gender should be, and what kind of job they hold.

These assumptions put tons of pressure on men of many ages because society has always created a mold for men to follow, and part of that mold is being the sole breadwinner in a family.

Growing up, my dad was always the breadwinner, and he probably always will be. My mom had the privilege of being able to stay home and take care of my sisters and me, and later on in our lives, she was able to get back into work. Realistically, I'm sure this is how a lot of people my age grew up, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Living within a world that is constantly putting labels on men and women creates a lot of pressure and chaos. Men are expected to provide, while women are expected to take care of the children.

Neither of these expectations are bad because I know some people out there strive to complete them, and good for them! The part that's wrong is that society expects a certain gender to do certain things, and it shouldn't be that way.

I asked eighteen 18 to 20-year-old college guys how they would feel if their lady was the one taking home the big bucks, and the results were a lot more mixed than I was expecting.

66% of the men who were surveyed felt they had a certain responsibility to be the breadwinner in their future or present relationship.

Of course, the majority would think this. Society has ingrained this into men's minds for centuries upon centuries.

Despite more of the men feeling a certain responsibility to provide, a lot of the guys responded by saying they didn't see an issue with their wife being the main provider.

"If we were both doing what we loved and we were able to provide for our kids, then it doesn't matter."

Heck yeah! This is what it's all about. Supporting one another in a relationship is key, and your family's best interest should be put first.

"I would be happy to be a stay at home dad."

"Besides the fact that it is a great achievement for my significant other, I also would be benefiting from the extra income."

I especially applaud you! No matter who the breadwinner is, you should support your S.O. no matter what. Men also revealed that if their wife has goals and aspirations she wants to accomplish, they will fully support her in doing so! A healthy relationship is all that should matter.

Although a lot of men did state they'd show support of their wife, there were also a lot of insecurities that went along with it.

"I'd be proud of her, but I would also re-evaluate myself."

There is no need for you to re-evaluate yourself! The standard that has been put on men has been keeping them from realizing that they don't need to compete with their wife. If you're both doing what you love, the money shouldn't matter.

"Slightly ashamed and insecure, depending on how much my significant other made."

Men also revealed that they felt they'd feel inferior and have a low self-esteem. Once again, there's no need for you to feel crappy about yourself. I know that's easier said than done, but I encourage you to let go of what society expects of you.

Within these insecure responses, I found that most men felt like it was society that was holding them responsible to be the breadwinner.

"Society kind of makes it seem like men are usually the breadwinners and I may feel like I'm not pulling my weight."

"It's just that men have always been the ones to bring home the money."

"I've worked very hard in my life to put myself in a position to be the main provider for a family. Unless my wife makes a significant amount of money, I'll feel like I'm not reaching my full potential."

Look, guys, I get the whole pride thing. I know the kind of expectations that are put on you as men and it's really tough. But constantly comparing what you do to what your wife does will drive you crazy! You'll just never be satisfied.

That being said, there is no reason for men to feel like they NEED to be the number one provider in their family. We as a society should give women a bit more respect if they are the breadwinner or hope to be.

We are entering a new time where men and women can BOTH be whatever it is they want. So men, if you want to be the breadwinner, go for it, but don't feel pressured to do so. And ladies, if you don't want to be the main provider, then you don't have to. But if you do, don't let society stand in your way.

Let's get rid of those labels and start accepting each other for who we are, even if that means not meeting society's expectations.

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10 Photos You Have On Your Camera Roll Of Your S.O. When You've Been Dating For More Than A Year

A wide range from "Aw" to "WTF?"

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My boyfriend and I just hit the year and a half mark of dating, even though it seems like we've been together forever. Over the months, we've taken many pictures together... from football games, to his track meets, to holidays. Although we may have a lot of pictures together, I definitely have a lot of candids of him in my camera roll. If you've been dating your partner for as long as I have or longer, then you'll probably notice you have these same pictures in your photos as well.

1. The awkward first photos together

We laugh at these now, especially this one. Why am I so pale compared to him? It was July! And also, we noticed not to long ago that I was sweating under my arms and his underarms were sweating on me... what a great first time meeting!

2. The ones for VSCO

Every girl who has a significant other posts them onto their VSCO. VSCO is like Instagram, but more has more aesthetically pleasing pictures and there are no "likes." The pictures that include my boyfriend on my VSCO ranges from him holding a bunny to him holding my hand while we went ice skating.

3. Them sleeping

I have so many pictures of my boyfriend sleeping (I promise it's not as weird as it sounds), I just think he's so cute when he's fast asleep while cuddling with me.

4. The embarrassing ones they want no one to see

He's going to kill me when he sees this... but we all have those embarrassing Snapchat pictures that we start to send each other because we've gotten more comfortable with one another.

5. The ones for Facebook

The good looking pictures so you can keep yours and his family updated on how you two are doing. I took my boyfriend to a baby bird meet and greet since he loves birds and has one for a pet. I posted this cute picture of him and his new friends on Facebook so my family can see our adventures together.

6. Old pictures

One of the best parts of dating someone is finally seeing their old pictures. Although, sometimes they may make you cringe... like the one I posted above of my boyfriend after prom in his sophomore year of high school.

7. Their accomplishments

My boyfriend pole vaults for his college and he's really good at it. He just went to division III nationals in March because he qualified! I'm always at his meets so I make sure to get him on video in case he or anyone wants to see. I always try to snag a picture with him too because I'm always so proud.

8. The straight up ugly ones

He sure knows how to make me laugh. And I know he's going to be mad at me for this one too but I think it's a talent that he can do that with his stomach! Sorry, Adam, I promise I still think you look good when you send me these snaps for the most part.

9. But you have the hot ones too

He may be funny and sweet, but he is pretty good looking too. I know us girls keep some attractive pictures of our S.O.'s so we can remind ourselves of what a great looking partner we have.

10. FaceTime screenshots

If you and your lover go to different colleges like my boyfriend and I do, then FaceTiming happens a lot. Sometimes I get some great screenshots, like the one above, to make fun of him later.

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To My Cheating Ex’s New Wife, From The Ex He Probably Didn’t Tell You About

Know that whatever you do, I will support you and your decisions.

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To his new wife,

First of all, I will not tell you to run, to fight your way out, or to leave in the dead of night. I will not try to convince you to do anything you do not want to do. Ever. End of discussion.

I do not know you and, as far as I know, you do not know me. All I know of you is the life you have created on social media. All I know is what you and the man you love post.

But, as far as I can tell, you both are happy. You both love each other dearly and continue to care for one another each and every day. And I hope it continues this way.

I hope the two of you last. I hope he has grown since last we spoke. I hope he treats you so much better than he treated me. I hope he has grown into the man I always wanted him to be.

Whether he told you about me or not, whether he chose to work on himself internally or you worked on his past with him, you are someone that I knew needed to walk into his life. You are the kind of person I knew he needed from the moment I walked away.

The kind to stick by a man's side when he has royally messed up. The kind to call him out when he's messed up. The kind to accept his failures and love his faults.

And for this I thank you, I applaud you, and I cheer for you.

I thank you for accepting the man that I could not. I thank you for allowing him to grow into the man you deserve. I thank you for being his "one." And most importantly, I thank you for making sure I wasn't "the one."

I applaud you for loving the man that I could not. I applaud you for waiting on him to become a man worth waiting for. I applaud you for entering into his family and allowing him to enter yours.

I cheer for you and only you. I cheer for you to be happy, whether that is with him or not. I cheer for other women to have the life they want. If yours is with him, then I cheer for both of you. But I will also cheer for only you if he does something to make you want to leave him. I will also cheer for your safety and for your sanity. Always.

At the end of the day, I do not know what kind of man he is now. I do not know what kind of husband he is. I do not know what kind of wife you are. If he is a kind and loving man, one that does not mentally, emotionally, or physically tear you down each day, if he is a trustworthy and trusting husband, one that is secure in his life with you; if he is the kind of man that your parents dreamed of for you, then I will continue to be content with the joy that he brings you.

However, if he is a mean and rude man, one that continues to slowly tear you down day by day, if he is an untrustworthy man and a man that does not trust, one that is constantly insecure in himself and live with you, if he is the kind of man your parents dreaded coming near their daughter, then I will be here ready and willing to take on your cry for help. I will be here with advice, shelter, and comfort.

If he becomes the man that cheated on me if he becomes the man that I wished would take responsibility for his actions, if he becomes the man that I left, know that you have a sister and friend in me. Know that whatever your choice may be, I will support you and your life decisions.

Sincerely,

A Woman That Continues To Support Women

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