If My Boyfriend Didn’t Get Husband Privileges, How Would I Know If He’d Be A Good Husband?

If My Boyfriend Didn’t Get Husband Privileges, How Would I Know If He’d Be A Good Husband?

He will be my husband someday, so why not treat him like he is right now?
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I have seen so many things on social media, mostly Twitter, about this topic. People say that you shouldn't give your boyfriend 'husband privileges'. This means that you treat them as if you are married. Giving them special treatment isn't wrong and it shouldn't be labeled as that.

I give my boyfriend almost everything he asks for because he deserves it. He shouldn't have to wait until we are married to get special treatment.

We have this idea that the second we're married that it's this huge deal. Yes, it's going to be a big deal because we've been taught that marriage is what you do when you love someone like you never have before, and you are showing that person and the rest of the world that.

Marriage is exciting, don't get me wrong! But when it comes down to it, it's just a piece of paper. You have to continue dating that person throughout marriage for it to be successful.

I get my boyfriend snacks whenever he runs out of Hot Cheetos and Sprite. I get him little things every now and then just because.

I cook him his favorite pasta a couple times a week.

Just because I went to Target and saw something that reminded me of him, so I knew he had to have it.

We, as women, can't expect men to treat us like queens if they're not getting any special treatment in return. He will be my husband someday, so why not treat him like he is right now?


I have learned by giving him anything he wants and needs, how he will be the rest of our lives. I know what kind of husband he is, and I know that he doesn't ask for much. If I didn't give him these privileges then I would not know how he will be, and we would not be as close as we are.

He sits on a golden throne in my heart, and in life.

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To The Girl Who Dreams Of Her Future Career More Than Her Future Children

My career is more important right now and that's OK.
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Keep on rocking, girlfriend.

When I sit down and think of my future, I imagine my boyfriend becoming my husband and us both killing it at life. I imagine a beautiful house sitting on a good bit of property with two Great Danes running around freely. I imagine us living in a Godly home surrounded and doing life with all of our friends and family. I also imagine a 5 a.m. alarm clock going off for me to get to the hospital on time and not having to worry about who is going to keep the kids that day.

Ya see, God did not intend for my sole purpose on this earth as a woman to be to cook, clean, and reproduce. He just didn't. When He made me He said, "There is a little spitfire. She is going to change the world one day."

I pray with my entire heart that I will have a successful career one day, that I will be able to make an impact on someone's life, every single day that I step into my workplace. And yes, I do also pray, Lord-willing, that I will be able to hear the words "Mommy! Come here!" every five seconds of my day. But I do not want that right now. Or any time soon. And I think that is perfectly OK.

Being a Southern woman, this is so not the norm. I am surrounded by young adults and women that all dream about being a mom one day and always say, "Oh my, I want a baby right now!" I have never felt that way, and in some cases, I feel guilty for not. Women strive to be stay-at-home mommas and that is just not me. I strive to have a career. I want to be that sexy working wife my husband comes home to every day.

Now, I do want to be a mommy one day. I want to hold a precious miracle from God and look over at my husband knowing that the angel we are holding will be loved for the rest of its life. But I have goals I want to accomplish first. I think more women need to have dreams they want to aspire to before having to commit to a lifetime (well technically 18 years, but I am older than 18 and my mom still takes care of me) of taking care of another human.

So, to the girl who dreams more of her future career, you keep on doing you, honey. You look college in the eye and you tell it who is boss. Do not give in to what the world around you says is your job as a woman. It is because you ARE a woman that you can do so much. Keep on rocking, girlfriend.

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6 Reasons Sober Weddings Are Better Than Open Bar Receptions, For Anyone Keeping Tabs

Prepare for the party of the century.

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As anyone who has even thought about wedding planning knows, there is one question that plagues the future couple more than anything else—to open bar, or not to open bar?

Open bars are usually highly favored among guests but can leave the bride and groom with a huge financial burden. According to Cost Helper, an open bar tab can cost as much as $90 per guest, not including paying your bartenders and tipping. Yikes!

So, while it may disappoint some of my guests, no, I don't plan on having an open bar. And yes, my reception will still be the party of the decade.

SEE ALSO: If You Don't Have An Open Bar At Your Wedding, Don't Invite Me

1. I'll be saving all of that booze money for my honeymoon.

Instead of dropping literally hundreds of dollars on alcohol for my guests, I'll gladly be saving that money so that I can go to an even better all-inclusive resort with my new hubby. Maybe it's selfish, but a whole week of fun for myself is more important than one night of fun for my guests.

2. You only get one wedding, I don't intend on having drunk people ruin it.

Sure, someone getting a little too tipsy can make for a funny story years down the road, but who's not to say that someone gets way too drunk and ruins the whole day? Unfortunately, when other people drink their actions are out of your control and I would hate for one of my friends to get too drunk and really mess up my one and only big day.

3. Open bars do NOT equal a fun wedding.

Typically when I mention to people that I don't plan on having an open bar reception I get the comment "oh, so you don't want to have a fun wedding?"

Sure, an open bar can be fun, but you can just have much fun without an open bar as well. Trust me, the playlist will still be incredible and everyone is guaranteed to leave more than satisfied.

4. Everyone will be safe on their drive home.

I would never want to experience the guilt of having a loved one pass away the night of my wedding because they drank too much. Call me overly cautious, but not having an open bar is just one more way to make sure that everyone stays safe.

5. This is a wedding, not a club.

We all had our college days and early 20s to explore the party scene. And if that's still your thing when I'm getting married, awesome, but save it for the next weekend. This is a wedding that my entire family will be attending and I'd rather it not turn into an episode of "Jersey Shore."

6. Everyone will be guaranteed to remember my wedding day.

I'm not planning for months, paying thousands of dollars, and buying the most important dress of my life for people not to remember it! Sorry, not sorry.

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