After 4 Years On Dating Apps, I'm Ghosting Them For Good

After 4 Years On Dating Apps, I'm Ghosting Them For Good

And I am exponentially happier being off of them.


When I began college four years ago, many of my friends got on the popular dating app Tinder. They convinced me to get on it although I was quite skeptical about it because I had a very old fashioned view on dating in which I wanted to date people I solely met in person.

So I gave Tinder a try and honestly I was quite disgusted with what I encountered if I am being completely honest yet I let it continue for four years. All these boys would message me something sweet such as "hey beautiful" and then would hit me with the "wanna fuck?" message.

Just imagine getting hundreds upon hundreds of unsavory messages from those you match and getting so fed up and tired of it that you want to make a drastic change.

I mainly met very unfavorable people who treated me like crap but along the way, I also met very few great guys throughout all of this that I have remained really great friends with.

I thought I would have learned after my ONE relationship I got out of Tinder I got into that ended in quite a fiasco but I didn't. I wasted over a year and a half being constantly on-and-off with that ex-boyfriend because he kept handing out promises he couldn't keep and with that I couldn't give in to what he was ACTUALLY looking for because I knew I could not trust him.

This whole time I wanted to eventually find someone who could help me forget about the boy I think I forbiddingly still love but I was too stupid to think that I could find someone on these dating apps that are filled with way too many thirsty boys.

So recently one night, I took it upon myself to have the courage to permanently delete both my Tinder and Bumble accounts.

I had a realization in the middle in the night that I have been allowing myself to be settling for less because I think it is what I deserve. I also realized that I have been letting myself been seen as an "easy" girl which has led be constantly manipulated and used.

I am extremely fed up of being seen and treated as an object by the boys I have encountered. I had my fun and I have also had MANY life lessons to learn from. But now after four long years, it was officially time to get rid of this negativity.

And this time it will be for good.

I will be taking a break from dating overall until I feel ready to put myself out there again and hope to find something serious. I honestly can't wait to see what the future holds for me as I will use this fresh start to figuring out exactly what I want and to start learning to fully love myself.


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If You Go Into Summer 2019 Only Wanting A Summer Fling, You're Only Going To Be Disappointed

They may be fun but sometimes come with consequences.


We've all been through the summer flings. Summer is THE season where you have no commitment and are as free as can be with no care in the world. I've been on both ends of summer flings, from having one and cutting things off when summer ended and having one and gaining feelings for the other person... I've actually been dating my summer fling from 2017 for almost a year and a half now which was totally unexpected.

Back in Summer 2017, I was newly single and wasn't intentionally looking for a relationship since I just got out of one. I had a couple of small flings in the beginning, nothing serious at all. Until I met a boy in July from social media. We started talking and hit it off. We had a lot in common and enjoyed a lot of the same things. After a few weeks of talking, some flirting and a couple of dates... we had a fling going on. We weren't committed or anything, but we were both interested in each other. Long story short, I ended up really liking this guy and I could feel our fling diminishing, so I guess you could say I played some hard to get and "won" him over for good. It took a lot and I could definitely say it wasn't a care-free summer since I was trying to get him to make it official with me but now, here we are as boyfriend and girlfriend still to this day.

From my experiences and from friends experiences, summer flings almost always end with someone falling for you or you falling for them. And if you're really not looking for a relationship after summer, it can be quite hassle ending things for good due to feelings. Summer flings can also take time away from your family and friends. Everyone knows spending summer with someone you're interested in is fun, although it most likely won't be permanent, so why waste your time on them when you could be making those summer memories with your friends who will be there always?

A lot of the times, summer flings just involve hooking up and casual dates... nothing too serious. They don't involve "relationship" type feelings. But when you start to gain attachment to that person, sometimes they won't care like you do since summer flings are meant to be temporary. Of course, the person you have a fling with is someone you're into or at least think is good looking and when you find out you're not their only summer fling, jealousy can hit. Like stated above, summer is the season of no worries, and you shouldn't let jealousy take over your care-free attitude.

Summer flings, almost all the time, end in some sort of heartbreak when that isn't the intention in the beginning at all. But other times, they do work out and you guys call it quits and both move on or both end up in a relationship with each other (which was my case and I couldn't be happier to this day!). So, if your plan is to have a fling this upcoming summer, make sure you plan ahead for any type of scenarios that could potentially happen as well as know what you both want in the end.

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